So I hate to say someone is obligated to have sex for any reason. But the truth is that by second or third date you should be honest about it with the guy. The younger version of myself was pretty naïve, so I though if I impressed a women and spent some money on her that she would appreciate me for all the time, effort and expense.
But by the time I was 30 most women were lucky to get an expensive dinner out of me before the 3rd date. But I know I have so much more to offer a good women other than expensive dinners, so if she is looking for that then she in not the type of women I am interested in, regardless how good looking she is or how highly she values herself. It just so happens I put a pretty high value on myself as well, so I do not need to impress her with my money. Because I have so much more to offer her then just money or sex.
I do think though as a women, from a guys perceptive, that if you are going to these dinners without any intention of advancing the relationship in the bed room that you need to consider his needs and wants, before accepting expensive dinners or gifts. You do have some responsibility at some point, to consider his expectations and where you stand with them. If your of the mind that guys can spend money on you like that and you don't owe him anything then you need to tell him. Because if you morally feel its okay, then tell him that... he has a right to know and if he decides it doesn't matter then its on him not you. But know the more you go out and the more he spends the more he is going to want sex, regardless of what he says. I mean for most people that's how dating works.
Depending on the quality of the dates, conversations, and women... I never pursued a women past the 5th date if she had reservations about sex. For me if she didn't know by them or was not ready then its just not meant to be. Just not the type of person at 45 years old I want to be with, and any women that expresses reservations or puts conditions on sex or not having sex, usually does not get past second date with me.
None of this even has anything to do with anything honestly. For some reason girls both fantasize and fear an expensive or fancy date. The amount of money spent has NOTHING to do with sex. I've heard many women worry about this, I've asked them all has a man ever demanded sex because you ordered a lobster or went to a nice place? No girl has ever told me this happened. What I've realized is this is a WOMANS FANTASY, to explain: women like sex, they dont want to be viewed as a slut or easy, so they justify sex by saying "he took me to a really fancy date so i had to put out". Other women hear this overused trope and think its the mans expectations however its a womans excuse to try not to seem like a slut. However realistically a woman who puts out for a steak is a slut and probably would have also put out for mcdonalds and just used another excuse.
From a mans perspective when i was broke i preferred cheaper dates and now that im well off i dont even eat at cheap restaurants if i can help it so i just like nice food idgaf at the price really. Its that simple to me.
The exception here is going to be when a woman uses her slut excuse to the man then it gives him an expectation... ie "id reward a man who took me to a fancy restaurant with a real happy ending to the night *wink wink" then the man takes you to a fancy place with the expectation he's going to get something out of it.
To me its crazy since im well off i like nice places and literally no women want me to take them on a nice date yet they will netflix and chill or go to the taco truck or whatever. Which from a mans perspective gives even more of an expectation for sex. Like what kind of girl is going to first date just come to my house? Now im expecting sex. I could fuck 5 girls from mcds dates faster than i could get one girl to accept a date to an actual nice restaurant and event out on the town. Ass backwards and sets low bar and then y'all complain you get boyfriends that dont take you out on dates. The stupidity of women never ceases to amaze me but it no longer surprises me. 😆
"Expensive dinner?" Ha, I wouldn't do that regardless. Try Taco bell or Black Bear Diner instead. And no sex until there is a strong emotional connection, which likely means it will be a while first.
I don't go by dates. I go by length of time we've been dating. I usually wait about a month. Because if she hasn't slept with you in a month, congratulations! She's sleeping with someone, just not you.🤣
I don’t expect sex until they initiate asking about it
she never obligated to sex
if a guy want to be guaranteed to to have sex , he should hire prostitutes
first of at most second if you like him or pay for dinner
No, expensive dinners are to benefit me as much as my date
No, why would she ever be obligated?
I don't play games like that.
She is not obligated until the wedding date.
No lol.
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