I would say depends on the man, but most men would find it annoying especially if that is his girlfriend/wife, and especially if it’s in front of other people because it’s like she is trying to belittle him in front of everyone. Now if they do that consistently to each other then understandable but by his reaction it seems like they don’t and if they did then I’m sure he’s expressed that and she still does it.
only boys get upset, men know they are men
What I said was men do not get upset when they are called boys
Having said that I do understand why a black man may get upset at being called a boy by a white person
You are still a young man, trying to shake off the boy stigma, in a few years you may understand my meaning
I am not saying you are not a man, just still sheading some boyhood, we all went through it, some never made it all the way
I don't want to sit & try to prove that I can understand these easy concepts so I'm just going to explain my goal of asking you the question in the first place:
I ask because many members of our species may not want to identify with the same name as someone they don't want to be associated with. Which may lead them to say things like "_____ isn't a real version of this adult gender identification because _______ started crying when someone insulted him. A real version of this adult gender identification wouldn't cry. A real version of this gender identification would [insert values].
And I'm basically saying that it would be too simple of a way of thought. Because things are complex.
Men cry too
At being called a boy, but men can cry about things that hurt them
Exactly. And what I'm saying is that they're still a man. So that adult gender identification shouldn't be altered. Something else should be added depending on the perso, goal, circumstance, etc. It should be something more specific like:
"The man crying is a man who is tired of being bullied by those who think of him to be inferior."
And it could get more specific depending on the context. For instance, if I got emotionally disturbed (no matter where on the spectrum), it would be due to a constant negative feedback loop. So many many things would be the cause of me responding in a negative way. Meanwhile my capability of being stoic would have been possible if I had gotten better feedback loops.
I'm not saying that everyone has the capability. I'm only highlighting that the inability to act a certain way in the moment shouldn't be the ultimate sign of how a person would have always responded to the situation if their circumstances where different. And it especially shouldn't be summed up as them not being a certain adult gender identification.
The question is about being bothered about being called a boy, period, nothing else, why should being called a boy be upsetting
Maybe the insult itself isn't the issue. The deeper meaning is.
Like if someone says "fuck you" to me when we're joking around, then it's all good. I'm not going to be hurt by it. But if they say "fuck you" to me right before they charge at me in an aggressive manner with the intention of hurting me, then it's not cool. Same word. Different context.
And if my loved one said "fuck you" then charged at me, then I'd be more upset than if a stranger did it. Due to trust. I hold them to higher standards. So I'd feel betrayed. Which could cause greater emotional distress.
- by the way I'm using an extreme example to prevent any confusion on who's in the wrong.
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100%... "Little boy" refers to children that still need looking after. Even my coworkers refrain from saying it in a joking way. They'll say "hey guy", "hey dude", "hey man". But I have never been called "boy". It would just be demeaning. I've been called some pretty nasty things, but if I ever heard "hey boy" being shouted in my direction... And it's a good thing because I'd probably be throwing a hammer back in their direction. Now I have been called "kid" before. And that's completely different. Often times guys will say "yeah you're right around my kid's age". Which is completely true. And he calls his kids "kids", so it shows that he respects me in the same way. But "hey boy", or "hey little boy" is just WEIRD. I would advise telling your daughter not to do that again.
So it's "respect all women" but women wanna call their significant other "little boy" as a joke? I wouldn't let that fly, and if she does say it again, let's just say she's gonna hear some not so pleasant choice of words as a response to that. If you disrespect someone, be prepared to take that same disrespect back and more. There are no rules on how much someone can retaliate. Do not act all shocked or surprised if I say something back that is worse if you started the exchange of disrespect.
She's not gonna have a boyfriend for much longer if she keeps that up.
Though without context of why she did it, it's hard to say if it was understandable, what she did.
If she's just messing with me, and we have an understanding of be playful in that way, then it's fine, but generally speaking, I think you should avoid calling guys "boy", unless you're upset at them.
When they do that, I'm the type to just not give any sign that I acknowledge them. If they want to insult me & have me comply, they are deeply mistaken. They'd need to give me respect in order to have my compliance. And if we're really compatible, I'd expect them to have the same standards for how I should treat them.
However, it would be different if I know they're being playful & aren't trying to really bully me. Then I'd be playful back.
Unless this is a consensual kink they have between each other—like a verbal domination or humiliation kink, then yeah, that’s pretty disrespectful.
It comes off as very condescending and belittling—which can turn certain guys on if that’s their kink. But, this guy clearly does not like it and so she should stop.
It is highly disrespectful to ANY man unless it is some type of inside joke between you. Labelling us as "boy" can come off as you not truly viewing us as an equal. It can be doubly disrespectful to a black man because slave owners used to call blacks "boy".
Depends on the age. If he's over 30, then yeah probably he doesn't want to be referred as "little boy" and can't take a fucking joke.
And if he's dominant... Yeah, probably that's beyond condescending. It hurts the male ego. She better jokes about something else.
Once again, She may have done that to see your reaction. Maybe she wanted a similar response. Maybe she would enjoy being called 'Little Girl" You better learn to play and not take things so seriously.
That would be very insulting. If she did that to me, I wouldn't get angry, I'd get even. Next time we're having sex, just before she's about to orgasm, I'd pull out, jerk off all over her, and say, "Sorry little girl."
I mean calling a grown man “little boy” sounds disrespectful to my ears. I can also see it as a joke but don’t get mad if they get offended. “Boy” or “my boy” I use those all the time so I don’t see anything too wrong with that.
She was being rude to him. She didn't say "please" and spoke to him like a child. It's okay to say "boy" to a guy, but the way she said it was very disrespectful.
"Little boy," yes. "Boy," not really. It depends on context. Do they have some kind of special relationship behind closed doors that he perhaps wanted to keep private?
P. S.: I use "boy"/"dude"/"bro" etc. as terms of addressal without regard to sex.
Yes because it makes us feel belittled or bemothered that seems to a guy as like you don´t take him seriously in a matter and you question his maturity.
Deeply insulting. I suppose he was reluctant to make a fuss in front of you (i would be) but if he hasn't dumped her by now something is wrong with him.
Don't bother me I would enjoy it. But I would imagine if your not into what I am into then you would be bothered.
Oh, she would be history. That's extremely disrespectful. I would walk right out and leave her there. If she hates men so much, she can be lesbian with her friend; idgaf.
It would piss me off if my boyfriend called me a little girl in public so yeah I think it would make guys mad too
🤣 i would laugh really hard. I would go and hand hee the salt and say (there you go kid) easy and even laugh more. This is hilarious, am down with it
If you call a black man boy and you aren’t his father you aren’t going to like what happens. It’s really derogatory and insulting.
This always makes me think about how Mr. T renamed himself to force people to say “Mr.” and acknowledge him as a man/adult, I thought it was really cool when I first learned about it.
It’s disrespectful and respect is important in any relationship
That would depend. Saying it to be silly would be fine. Doing it to be mean no
Depends how she says it. It can be endearing of done in a patronising way.
Kind regards,
I get called boy a lot. But never little boy I’d probably have a problem with that
She clearly said it to annoy him by referring to a 25+ year old grown man as a "LITTLE boy".
This is a no brainer. Of course he would be offended by "little boy", especially in front of others. It was intentionally disrespectful and condescending.
I think it would be hilarious. It couldn’t be further from the truth, at my age.
Depends on relations. In that situation, no. But if a friend calls me buddy or little boy then yeah
Calling me Little boy isn’t going to make me wanna Pass the Salt 🧂
Boy is fine. Little boy is purposefully condescending.
I’ve referred to him as “my boy”, and other things. But I would never, ever call him “little boy”.
It would bother me and I know it would bother a lot of guys. Its shows a lack of respect when she insults her boyfriend in front of other people.
Yes, because it's like being told "you never grew up and you're too immature" it's a large insult to anyone and the progress the person has made.
Yes, and I hate being called “cute” because it makes me seem like I’m not a grown man and like I’m not looked at as a grown man
I don't know are women offended by the term "big girl". Like "Here's your salt big girl. So you can keep eating".
The "little" part could be too much. Other than that, go nuts. Call me sugar boo if you want.
As a black man, it bothers me if anyone calls me, "Boy"
lol.
Boy would be super weird, but little boy? I can understand the boyfriend's reaction.
Yes and No. Depends on the location, the environment they grew up in, friendships, and taunting.
I’d break up with someone who spoke to me like that.
yes that's very rude and insulting it's like a man calling a woman little girl
She's trying to degrade him.
At my age? You can't be serious lol
Not if I'm really her boy toy. LOL
Chics call me HUN wtf is that
be like saying pass the salt bitch
"Ask What is a woman" to a homosexual
it depends on context
I wouldn’t care, I have several nicknames
It depends. Hot guys are called boys sometimes
Little boy is not okay, but boy is fine
little boy - yes
boy - no
i think it’s cute really
Yes.
Maybe from people i dont know'
Yes, that would bother me a lot.
Yes.
Depends on context
Should be obvious.
kinda
such a turn
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