Me and my boyfriend are too different?

[WizzardGirl]

when he gets angry or anxiois or nervous

I calm him down, i give peace. I enjoy doing it and he really gets relaxed and more calm with me.

When i get angry or stressed, he can't calm me down. First of all he also gets angry or stressed, he says words to calm me but he sounds extra annoyed that im not feeling well.

In conclusion:when he angry i calm him

When im angry we end up both angry

[lightbulb27]

yea he doesn't have these emotional skills, he can learn but he has to learn to regulate his reaction first. His response is defensive... which turns to anger.

This is a real problem and I had problems with it in my own way and learned to be better. It requires awareness, and then just have to practice responding better, meditate on it, study it, talk about it, etc.. Training.

Self awareness...

God/nature seems to align opposites for whatever it's mystical purpose... opposites draw. My theory is it is to help the two resolve their deeper inner dissociations back to God... the greater energy... love. In other words, deeper healing is possible when you have those extremes... greater potential energy.

Similar like kinds produce less friction, and so where is the opportunity to change... grow... heal. That's the value you have... flip side of your question. Granted, that friction hurts... a small oscillation can take down a bridge...

Being aware of that can prevent a lot of problems... as you now realize you are good for each other in some ways.

[JakeS00]

You need someone who can reciprocate that and understands your moods or emotions.

[Waldoe]

Everyone is Different, it's a fact of Life... He probably cherishes the fact that you are a "Peace keeper" because he is not.

[IsoUser]

After being in Iraq and Afghanistan I never get stressed now that I'm home with my girl Lmao!

[Celticwolf78]

Sounds like u need someone who doesn't get stressed out easily and knows how to handle ur moods

[In_Trance]

So what's your question?

[WizzardGirl]

How to deal

[In_Trance]

You keep doing what you're doing and put up with it or you decide this isn't right for you and break up.
Your call

[Anonymous]

Doesn't sound like you are compatible.