Depressed ex say he is attracted to me but can' t have sex with me cause he is afraid to hurt me. " his feelings are totally out of the way". Why?

[Deimy]

[caring__1]

He is your ex, so he probably feels he has hurt you in the past. Being depressed, he is probably not impressed with how he is coming across to others, so assumes he'll hurt you again. You can open up communication to see things through his eyes, but don't pressure him to do something he is reluctant to do. Consider his feelings, also, not just your own.