My mom is relying on me too heavily for emotional support?

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Okay so as of summer time, I've been living at home.

This is killing me slowly.

My mom is constantly telling me I have to be home to spend time with her on the weekends. My mom is unmarried, not dating anyone, and works for NASA(important because the Space Shuttle Program now ended). She still has her job and she is depressed about the whole thing, because many of her coworkers are gone.

Anyway, she causes a scene every time I go to my bf's house (it's more peaceful at his place). She keeps saying "I thought you were my friend" "you have to respect me"(it's hard not to get a little mouthy when your mother is nagging you about everything!), and "why won't you go running with me, you'll turn into a marshmallow" (I'm Farr from fat& I'm not a runner anymore).

Yesterday, she woke me up at 9AM to say "we're going running, get dressed!", I said I didn't want to and I was tired from working the day before. Then, she started getting hysterical, started yelling and crying.

When I had more of a busy season at work, I was working all the time. She kept telling me I needed to take time off to do house work. Like laundry and cleaning the house-bc she works a full time job and wasn't going to do it. Yet, she was always saying I needed to work and save money

She keeps asking me about my relationship and I keep telling her I don't have to tell her about it. Like why my boyfriend and I are in arguments or things like that. She gets mad and says I need to tell her verything about my life.

When she gets angry at me, she gets very angry. She says things like she'll call my car in stolen(I'm on the registration), I must be doing drugs (def not), she just won't pay for my apt(no way cld I pay for it myself). Etc. She curses at me and tells me I'm worthless, liar, to go f*** myself, "who's going to take care of me" and so on. She nitpicks everything I do.

My friends and boyfriend all say I need to get away from her ASAP, but I can't support myself financially. so, I really cannot.

My mom has physically hurt me, but hasn't since Dec. She has put bruises on my arms, dragged me across the room by my hair(when I was like in 4th gr), last year after senior prom she put a serrated knife in my face because I was upset she made me go home right after (she set up a calculus tutor the morning after), she has thrown water glasses at me, hit me with butterfly chair folding legs(cushion removes), etc.

I would have to move to A very cold country in Europe to live w my dad. But I don't know how financially supportive he would be.

I really have no idea what to do. I have a full year of my undergrad left. My mom pays for my tuition and living expenses. But doesn't want me to pay for any bills. Even my cell phone bill.

She gets so mad about everything and acts like I'm doing every single daily activity in malice. I don't know what to do.

I've been on the verge of Baker Acting her, in fear she would really hurt me a few times. But didn't because I knew she wldnt tlk to me again
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She has also scared away a couple of my boyfriends. My current one doesn't even really feel comfortable about her. She's always taking away from time I have w him, by constantly stressing me out and starting drama w me.
My mom is relying on me too heavily for emotional support?
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