What advice is there for very feminine very childlike innocent passive follower woman like myself?

[Tiemw9394]

Life is becoming hard for me I am hating life and feel stuck like im trapped.

[ohsheeT]

Okay ready you have to explain this to me I kind of understand everything except for when you say a follower what does that mean I can tell you right now just from the words that you just used that there's no reason why you should be trapped you should be enjoying life and having fun actually I would love to see what you look like because you just described somebody that I would look for

[Tiemw9394]

Thank you darling

[Tiemw9394]

I mean that i tend to follow others but i. Starting to think maybe part of that is that i am wanting to be liked and i. think thats kinda bad

[Tiemw9394]

The other part is just that im naturally a follower likw following someones lead everyday and in everything

[ohsheeT]

Well I don't think that you are quite the followers that you think you are just by the way that you answered your questions you were honest and it had Direction I kind of think that maybe you don't give yourself enough credit for being you and I think you are probably like more than what you think you are and I kind of forget the whole question but I honestly think that there's something else going on after I send this I will reread the question

[ohsheeT]

I'm going to have to say this that everything up there that you have said about yourself I think you probably try to be too hard to be one of them instead of just letting it happen it is what it is I think you tried to take it a little bit too far Maybe to try to prove yourself that this is who you are do you think you're following into the feminine roll instead of being yourself

[I87tjp98]

Hi again. I am a passive person very quiet always have been

[ohsheeT]

Rosa send me another message is a good thing cuz you're stepping out of that box I also think that you don't give yourself enough credit for the things that you have done the things that you desire and have passion for I don't know if you're that much of a follower or not I think you're more of a leader is what I feel through your words

[I87tjp98]

Who is Rosa?

[ohsheeT]

Lol I'm sorry I use voice texting and didn't proof read and some times my phone dozen autocorrect on me at the very last minute second

[I87tjp98]

Ok. So who would you consider a follower?

[ohsheeT]

Mostly lazy people people who are told something and instead of doing there home work and finding out the truth they start telling other people the same thing . And believing that what they are saying is the truth they just kinda float around in life doing and believing what other people tell them

[I87tjp98]

Oh lol... I think of it in a positive way.. Just like how a woman would follow her husband and do as he says... I didn't mean it in a bad way haha :)

[ohsheeT]

Yeah it would be better if you just DM me because sometimes I don't even get these messages so it's hard to know when you send the message or when you're answering

[DarkWinterNights]

That’s pretty limited details. Life in general? Work or career? Dating? It never hurts to talk to a therapist to get some coping mechanisms and be coached on how to be be firm and learn to stick up for yourself and say no.

[Tiemw9394]

It hurts being around a lot of people.. many people are careless heartless selfish and wanna dominate me which is te easiest thing to do

[DarkWinterNights]

Define the context of dominate? Aggressive as in harassment? Taking advantage of your kindness or willingness to help? Abuse? Sexually?

[Guy__]

Find a man that fits you lmao. How can you be a functional follower if there is nobody to follow?

[Tiemw9394]

Im waiting patiently

[I87tjp98]

I can follow the air lol

[Staximus]

Do something to improve your situation, one step at a time

[Tiemw9394]

Thanks so true

[Staximus]

Figure out what your number one problem is and concentrate on taking the first step in fixing that, and then the next. Rome was not built in a day and neither is a good life. You can't hang Christmas lights on a house that's not built yet, you know what I mean?

[Tiemw9394]

Its getting out my horrible job its toxic