How can you want a submissive woman but you cannot lead (take care of yourself) ?

[Justneedtokno]

I am a woman that is willing to submit to a good leader.

but until that person comes along or I found them. I will to do me

[hahahmm]

It's totally understandable that women don't want to follow a guy who is a poor leader but you have to be very careful if you ever want a leader because a leader doesn't want someone who is an expert in failed relationships or an expert at racking up high body counts. Just like a highly sought after company is not going to hire the person with 50 to 200 short term jobs on their resume.

So your best bet is to focus on making yourself the kind of woman who attracts the leader and then wait for him to find you.

[Justneedtokno]

You can never just agree it’s always backwards partial agreement. Can’t be in failing relationships. If you don’t get in one, can’t answer your body count if you’re celibate

[hahahmm]

It's not my job to agree with everything you happen to say. I say what I believe to be true. It could be that your POV is not optimal for getting the things I consider valuable in life.

[Hispanic-Cool-Guy]

That's true to a degree. A man has to at least be able to stand on his own two feet if healthy.

That's why is extremely important for a man to work, even if he doesn't make much or less than a woman.

A woman will certainly not respect nor submit to some lazy dude who doesn't do ish. Won't ever happen.

[LazerBean]

Such men typically just want a hot mommy to take care of them but who they can also have sex with. They mistakenly think "submissive" means "a low standards and spineless slave" so that's what they go for.

[PatriceONeal]

Nonono that's your gender studies re education kicking in. That's you feminists misinterpretation of all of human history prior to 1960s was wrong and instead you crazy bishes are right.

[LazerBean]

I dont blame you for not knowing better, as it's very typically for males who grow up without their father in the home.

[PatriceONeal]

Except I did, he helped me become a man and what men are Ouch. You're not projecting are you? Is that why you struggle with men not wanting you around? Keep this energy ☻️

[Agape93]

They confuse submissive woman as someone to fuck and take care of them, so they don't have to do anything

[Justneedtokno]

Yeah, that’s the common misconception. I’m referring to what it truly means.

[Sixgunsound]

Submission is conditional on a man being worthy of it as well as a strong masculine leader who will protect and provide. Chad Thundercock is not an alpha, that is a huge misconception. He is a beta with nothing to offer but meat and abuse.

[Guy13]

Yep, that’s the truth. Man has to be of high character to lead a woman spiritually, emotionally, physically. and provisionally. It comes both with honor and responsibilities.

[Summeroflove]

I think it’s stupid. I don’t want a woman whose a child. I’m not a pedo. I want someone who can take care of herself. Have good integrity. Be independent but also be someone I can share a life with.

Not someone who I need to put on a leash and tell to eat her veggies. I want someone whose a adult.

It goes both ways. I want to have someone who I can teach and enlighten. I couldn’t be with a woman whose too stubborn. But I also want a woman who does the same for me.

Someone who we can grow together. That’s my idea.

[Summeroflove]

Don’t get me wrong. I’m not saying you or even most women are like this.

Some women think it’s attractive to be a retard. Who can’t do anything for herself and always needs a man to rescue her.

I think a man whose a good leader. Instead of always fixing the car or changing the tire. Teaches her how to do it. Or change the oil. The list goes on and on.

Women like that who aren’t willing to learn and just think something is a “mans job” are kind of annoying.

[Justneedtokno]

I don’t think that, but I also don’t think that they want to be stupid. They feel as if guys like it, and won’t mess with their egos too much.

[mermaidcancermoon]

Men like that haven't done the mental emotional development to have healthy relationships. Unresolved abandonment issues, lack of sekf awareness, chronically choosing broken women, emotional unintelligence. You won't get better until you do better and choose better. Same goes for women who are in a never-ending cycle.

[TheSpaceGnome]

I don't want a submissive woman, I'm not into dom/sub type relationships, those are for people who aren't mentally the same as their partner.

No reason to dominate a person who already agrees with you on everything.

[Justneedtokno]

I definitely see your point, and it’s not. That type is more of leader ship and guys who feels as if you have two religiously submit to them when it’s supposed to be a mutual thing and then agreements, I would kind a man to have the last word on certain things I’ll be able to ask you stuff and learn from you

[Anonymous]

Sounds like an excuse to me. I would NEVER date a woman who said such a thing. No offense.

I meet many women who essentially say the same thing. What do they all have in common? Thier poor choices. You think any guy that "leads" always knows where he's going? No. But a guy with good character is always doing his best. The only thing a guy has to look forward to in such a woman as you've referenced is she'll blame him for everything that's goes wrong, his fault or not. No thank you! She's dead weight. The guys better off alone.

Good luck.

[Justneedtokno]

But that’s how we’re on the same page good intentions, good character, good judgment those are the things that we look for. How am I gonna sit here and follow you if you’re not even paying your bills or you’re putting it off till next week or whatever for some game system.

[Justneedtokno]

In this case, she can’t be dated weight if she holds her own she pays her bills she has her house. She has her car. She’s not doing anything that subtract from what you have to do.

[Opinion Owner]

Well this is WHY you pick guys that fit you as a person. I used to know this one chick that wanted to go on an excursion EVERY WEEKEND I mean it's one thing to go to the park it's another fly cross country 🤣. She liked traveling and that's fine. So long as you have the budget for it. I for one have a significant savings, my bills are paid, but they're paid because I don't live beyond my means! I'm also cognizant of the fact that MOST women would NOT approve of my somewhat SPARTAN lifestyle. So you know what? I don't even try to entertain those women. Why make both of us miserable.

[Opinion Owner]

Pick a guy that fits you and you won't have this problem. Stop trying to shoehorn guys into your life that are not conducive to it.

[Justneedtokno]

I don’t even date I don’t do whatever you just stated. Also. This wasn’t for you to feel any type away just some of the things that’s been going on.

[Justneedtokno]

You wouldn’t want to bring somebody in your life that adds to it instead of taking away from it male or female you can always save

[Juxtapose]

I can't relate, I want a dominant woman. You submissive women usually pretend to be submissive but want to run things behind the scenes anyway.

[Justneedtokno]

Yes and dominate in your absence

[Juxtapose]

How so?

[krin_m]

You sound like a level headed person. You have the right approach and attitude towards D/s aspect of sexuality. Hope you find a Dom who deserves you!

[Justneedtokno]

In the aspect you speak of I am a switch. When is necessary

[krin_m]

@Justneedtokno, understood. Hope you find a well deserving and a compatible switch!

[Justneedtokno]

I would prefer a more dominant person, and in your absence, I can be dominant that’s where the switch is

[krin_m]

Ah, OK!

[krin_m]

@Justneedtokno, would you follow me? I will be happy to be a sounding board for you if you want. As an experienced Dom, I can share thoughts that you may find beneficial.

[Justneedtokno]

I alway that that a dom in a sexual aspect is totally separate from a truly romantic relationship for marriage. One is considered a pleasure or kink vs leadership consultant and partner

[Justneedtokno]

I alway Thought

[krin_m]

Well, for me personally the sexual and romantic aspects are not different. They are integral part of the relationship that is still based on mutual respect, friendship and affection at the core.

[PatriceONeal]

Keep doing yourself with that vibrator. Nobidy cares.

[Justneedtokno]

Sex is not an issue

[PatriceONeal]

Uhhhhhhh. Yes it is? You are sexually unsatisfied because you magic wanded yourself numb. That's on you you degenerate😅

[Justneedtokno]

No don’t like causal sex. I have an Ex and this guy that seem to like me. Not all guys know what to do and sometimes you don’t say nothing because you don’t want to hurt their feelings

[PatriceONeal]

Nobody said anything about casual sex🤔

[Justneedtokno]

Well that’s what you keep referencing

[PatriceONeal]

Actually, it's you exposing yourself when you said in your post "just sex isn't enough for me to stick around". Because that's all you get from men, or you wouldn't be complaining. They see you as an object because you objectify yourself.

[Justneedtokno]

I don’t believe I objectify myself. This is just type comes around.
I don’t just started to put myself out there and embracing me. I can get sex from a man no problem but that’s not what I want. When you made the statement about the vibrator I overthought you were referring me not able to get a man for that

[PatriceONeal]

Those men you chose. That's not all men who approach you.

[Justneedtokno]

I don’t approach men and that’s the problem. And why is it so hard to want the fuck the shit out of you and also have an interesting conversation teach you something. Be the best friend at the same time

[PatriceONeal]

Okay so keep chasing Chad and let him use you. It's not something we respect as men and we don't want to commit to a woman who thinks that way. Chad or not. You're free to do whatever, just don't turn around and get mad at men for your decisions. The top10% of men are wanted by too many women and you can't all have commitment from a few men, the math simply doesn't add up. That's literally all there is to it.

[Justneedtokno]

Who is chad and think what way? You think is wrong to have a friendship within a relationship you think is wrong to have amazing sex you think is wrong to be well-rounded or at least emotional intelligence what is wrong with that. At least I’m not like some other girls asking for 6’0 ft and physical attributes that they don’t even match up to

[PatriceONeal]

I take it English isn't your first language.

[Justneedtokno]

It is, but I use speak to text and I really don’t like texting

[Justneedtokno]

So you think that you can’t be friends with your significant other don’t think you should be able to connect with them at all because that’s what I was writing since you don’t understand

[PatriceONeal]

How can a woman love a man who is her equal? You ladies forget that you all prefer men who are better than you; so you can look up to them. If im responsible for a woman than we aren't friends, I'm her leader.

[Subarugirl]

Because some people feel like they are entitled to what they want without actually putting in the work and effort it takes to earn it.

[Steamnir]

Thats a very important question, thank u for asking it

[KatherineJ]

A confident man doesn’t need to ask or expect a woman to be submissive.

[Andres77]

That’s one of the best compliments a girl has ever given me, that I make her feel safe.

[Philyouup]

i agree with that if your not on your life game, you can’t be a dom.

[FilmGuy93]

People want what they haven't earned all the time. It comes from a sense of entitlement.

[Jennz6]

I have to be submissive and obedient for my customers, so they don’t complain to my boss.

[weysally]

that is a submissive person not a woman, but if you are talking about sex, then we are all submissive, just look at most of the sex positions, we have to get in a position for the men to enter us

[Jennz6]

@weysally yes sex, on my knees sucking

[KrakenAttackin]

Chad Thundercock will happily dominate you you a few nights a week.

[NathanDavis]

never had this issue

[fonduegirl]

This is too much pressure on men

[lucas262]

Not if they're raised right

[fonduegirl]

@lucas262 uh no.

[lucas262]

Uhhuh

[Anonymous]

Right? 😂😂😁

[BJP21]

DM me I love this.