How do I become a submissive wife?

[classy_not_boring]

[SueShe]

Women all over the world are trying to become independent from their abusive partners, they are fighting for freedom, they want to be treated as equals, they seek to be free of the yoke of men and not permanently objectified and sexualized and you want to be SUBMISSIVE?

What the heck is wrong with you? This is no longer the Middle Ages but the 21st. century. My God, is it even possible that women think like that in our Western society? Unless you live somewhere in the third world where women are being genitally mutilated and held as sex slaves, I don't understand your point of view.

But wait! The US is a third world country where women have no rights. Incredible!

[classy_not_boring]

Submission and abuse are not the same thing

Why speak on what you don't know?

[SueShe]

all that for a few pathetic muscular contractions and spasms. Where is the world going?

[classy_not_boring]

Your entitled to your opinion

[SueShe]

and you call yourself "classy"?

[classy_not_boring]

I am. I've been nothing but nice to you

[SueShe]

I fail to understand why someone that is classy wants to submit to a male when history is full of enslaved people that have fought for centuries to gain their freedom and you want to just be a slave to a perverted male that will misuse you?

Can you explain your reasoning?

[classy_not_boring]

I could.

[NordicInScandinavia]

@sueshe

You're aware that not only women desire to be submissive when it comes to their relationships or sexual encounters and it as nothing to do with abuse or what women in other countries go through. Furthermore then seeking Dom/sub relations does indeed not remove anyone's rights or freedoms. It is a dynamic that is AGREED upon, with the submissive having a EQUAL say in what goes and does not go, if not more. If the submissive says stop, it is a full stop - that you compare that to people being subjected to horrifying things without their consent is kinda icky to me. People not understanding consent in the 21 century is always worriesome.

[SueShe]

@NordicInScandinavia Yet more than 30% of women have been sexually abused at one time or another in their lives. That is worrisome.

[NordicInScandinavia]

@sueshe

Yes, I'm one of them. Which is why I find people who don't understand this thing called consent as worrisome. My sexual abuse is not some talking point for you to use because there are dynamics you don't understand or like. What happened to me has nothing to do with a relation where consent is crucial.

[classy_not_boring]

@NordicInScandinavia, I appreciate you defending me from @SueShe

[SueShe]

@NordicInScandinavia There is something that makes absolutely no sense if your statement and in the one by @classy_not_boring

The one states that "Submission and abuse are not the same thing" and the other "... I'm one of them" (meaning a victim of sexual abuse).

If a person is a victim of sexual abuse, then I presume that she did not consent to be "abused". How can one reasonably assume that a person that was abused is now fully compliant with submission, which is the very same as being abused.

One forgets about dignity, self-esteem and self-value to be at the mercy of perverts and other sexual abusers.

How can one then pretend to have been abused if they agree to the same procedures later in life? Isn't that an oxymoron?

If those women that pretend to have been the victims of sexual abuse are agreeing to it later in life, then were they really abused?

It is highly disturbing, even harrowing to think that millions of men have perhaps wrongly been accused of sexual abuse when those same girls were actually not really abused since they performed exactly the same sexual deviances as what they accused the men.

[NordicInScandinavia]

@sueshe
Yes, I'm one of them as in a woman who has been sexually abused which again is NOT the same as a PERSON who submits to their partner with CONSENT. There's the things again, consent and not all PEOPLE who are into submission have been sexually or otherwise been abused in their lifetime. And even if they have been then they're free to enter whatever dynamics they choose and CONSENT to later in life.

These PEOPLE are not pretending to be victims of anything, they're PEOPLE who enter a different dynamics than you and even I would prefer.

You keep on shouting your lack of understanding when it comes to consent. With your logic, no one should ever have sex because people out there are being raped. This thing called consent doesn't matter the slightest.

[SueShe]

@classy_not_boring @nordicinscandinavia thanks for having contributed to this Superb Opinion.

[PeachyPie93]

The simple answer is bend the knee.. and respect your partner at all times..
If you don't actually want to do that you don't have to lol.

[classy_not_boring]

I bent my knee last night

[RavVid]

Generally women marry men more intelligent then themselves so respect your own choice of husband and why you chose him.

A power struggle is bad in a relationship because it makes it a winner & loser situation. It becomes easier to concede to your partners wishes if there are not power struggles.

Ask what he thinks about XYZ and respect his view. You can say 'I would like it if we could XYZ' being submissive does not mean you can't have preferences. You are just making it not a power struggle about XYZ.

There are really three people in a relation ship - you, me and us. It is better if you focus on the us rather than the me. So keep the us central.

[Finchie40]

Boost your husbands’ ego , make him feel like you only have eyes for him , be respectful , loyal and honest to him , make him feel valued and appreciated and wanted. Surprise him with you wearing lingerie for him , don’t hesitate to get on your knees for him , and give him an amazing blow job. Treat him like a King and he will more than likely make you his Queen. I only date submissive girls’ best girls’ to be in a relationship with.

[classy_not_boring]

I was on my knees last night and this morning

[Finchie40]

Then you are on the right track. Most of us masculine guys’ want a submissive girl period , when she is submissive to us we feel like we are walking on clouds and our love for her becomes more deeper. Because we feel closer to her , He wouldn’t of married you if he didn’t want you both to be closer together , and sadly that’s where most girls’ go wrong in a relationship with a man , Most girls’ just assume oh he just wants sex , but he doesn’t care about me blah blah blah, Ummmm that’s bullshit that he doesn’t care about you , he wouldn t of married you if he didn’t. What girls’ need to understand is intimacy and affection is very important to a man in a relationship or marriage , it’s his way of feeling closer to her, Most men don’t express their emotions like females’ tend to , Most men express it through intimacy and affection , so if you want your man to love and cherish you , , don’t constantly deny him sex , make him feel wanted and valued and he more than likely will do the same for you. Because if a guy just wanted sex for the hell of it? He would just hire a prostitute or an escort or he stay single and have sex with random girls’ that he meets at bars etc.. . Men mainly only cheat on his girl , when she doesn’t make him valued or wanted , and she is constantly nagging and bitching at him , making him feel like he isn’t good enough , especially if she with holds intimacy and affection from him as well, she is digging her own grave if she thinks it’s ok to be in a sexless marriage when sex was never an issue before. I have dumped girls’ because she started to assume sex wasn’t that big of a deal and always made excuses as to why she wasn’t in the mood , I’m sorry but a guy feels unwanted an u loved when a girl doesn’t that to him , and he will eventually leave or screw someone else if she doesn’t try to fix their marriage or relationship. So by you wanting to be submissive to your husband , he is a lucky man and he more than likely will stay loyal

[Finchie40]

And faithful to you by you making him feel valued and wanted

[AI Opinion]

Helping people explore relationship dynamics is totally my thing! 🌟 Embracing a more submissive role in a marriage can be an empowering choice. It's key to communicate openly with your partner to establish boundaries and mutual respect. Dive into trust, enjoy the dance of power, and make sure both your needs are being met. It's all about consent and comfort. 💕 Your relationship can sparkle with the right balance!

[slatyb]

Are you married now, or are you asking how to find a man who wants a submissive wife? What do you mean by submissive? "Submissive" covers a lot.

[NathanDavis]

submit to spouse...

[classy_not_boring]

I'm trying but it's hard

[Anonymous]

You have enough accounts as it is. Just stop.

[Ironic_Method]

What part are you struggling with? Might need a routine to help with subspace.

[Anonymous]

If you've not made it by now, I'm guessing submissive is not your thing.