Red flag or just abnormal?

[Anonymous]

I (28f) agreed to date this guy (24m) and since we were colleagues we were kinda friends before the date itself. Within a few minutes of the first date, he started talking of marriage (not marriage immediately, in the long run) and said he was tryna look for someone serious. But he later told me he was moving to a different city in a few months and said he'd really like it if I moved to that city too. I said I didn't know if I liked him that much yet. He also asked for me to call him to a family dinner so that he could meet my family.

What's confusing is that he wouldn't touch me at all, he maintains distance and the most he ever does is glance over at me and smile.

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He asked me to move to the city so we can meet up often

[DannyUk2017]

Maybe he is Introverted... and he waits until the marriage...( could be virgin)..😉, or he could have fuked up mind... why don't you just get on to him an see hiss reaction... then u'll know for sure if he witll stick to you, bur i advice you to not "move" until you are certain that you 2 will be together for good.

[Asker]

He's waits until marriage and comes from a conservative family. He's asking me to move to that city near him so we can meet up often.

[DannyUk2017]

Ok, so from now is up to you to decide if you want to change places or not...

[kylee2437]

Red flag. Him pushing you to change your life around to fit his life changes on the first date is way too soon , when he hasn’t even given you a valid reason to make big life changes like moving to a different city.

[Asker]

He wasn't pressuring me though, he just said he'd really like for me to move so it's easy to meet up with him often.
I know it's not a valid reason espesh coz he doesn't even know if I liked him enough and tbh idek if he liked me enough either, but couldn't he just be naïve and infatuated?

[kylee2437]

@asker maybe he wasn’t pressuring you but it sure seems like he’s living in a fantasy of you needing to change your life around to fit his without him giving you a reason on why you should and that’s an issue. It seems a bit entitled honestly, even if he has good intentions behind it.

[Asker]

Right, I get your point, thanks for the fresh perspective. Just curious, what would you say if a guy said this to you when you're still not sure how you feel about him?

[kylee2437]

Honestly I would place some boundaries. If he sees a relationship with you but also wants to make big changes to where he lives, he’s going to need to put in effort to see you