Is this kind of a red flag?

[Dvrknxss]

Girl I’m talking to has Instagram but never told me her name, I never asked but she never gave me her name and she also won’t let me check her phone and we been talking for months, everyday

[CrazyGirl2]

No not really. You may have been talking for months, but I know guys that I’ve spoken to in person every day for years, I still wouldn’t let them go through my phone. Why do you feel entitled to search through her phone? I mean that quite earnestly, I’m not trying to start anything, it’s just that our phones are the closest thing to a modern diary we have. Looking through someone else’s phone is a major betrayal of trust. As is forcing (or requiring) someone to show you the contents of their phone. My policy is this “I have done nothing wrong, I have nothing to hide, but my phone is my personal private space where I document some of my deepest thoughts. If you insist on seeing my phone, I won’t stop you, but understand this, if you distrust me THAT much then we need to end this relationship right now, when you understand that, you can see my phone but JUST to see just how badly you fucked this relationship up” he wisely chose to trust me, and said he didn’t want to see my phone after all. If he would have chosen to end it and look at my phone, he would have seen texts to my friends about how much I love him, but he hasn’t said it yet and what do I do? Just wait for him to say it. Texts from my ex where he insulted my current boyfriend and I stuck up for him, defended him, and turned down my ex with a huge middle finger photo! There was nothing but me talking about how devoted to Lee, I was. So if he had broken up with me just to see my phone, he would have seen just how much he screwed up! My point is just because she doesn’t want you to see her phone doesn’t mean she is doing something shady. Maybe she’s talked about her feelings for you and isn’t ready to share that with you yet? There’s always more than one explanation for any behavior. The question is, are you going to assume the worst of her, or give her the benefit of the doubt? And if you are not giving her the benefit of the doubt… why are you with her?

[skyeee_]

... why does she need to tell you her insta handle? and why do u have to check her phone?

[Anonymous]

laladeeda
(i'm going to random questions and commenting nonsense cuz.. I don't know)

[Adam1978]

Yes you are the red flag.

[spartan55]

Have you ASKED her name?

[Sam_The_Savage]

Be a fuckboy.
Don't try to be her dad.

[Siren777]

Why don't you ask?