Can guys change when they in love?

[Cheulyn]

I have a friend that I am really close to, even I like him and he knows, but I just found out he is been having sexual things with a girl I know over video calls, when I confront him, he said they had in the past that it was truth but ever since he met me, and started to have a crush on me he started to change and not talk much with that girl because he doesn't want to lose me... but yet the girl blocked him and she is telling me to get away from him since he could be like that with me...

[mr4435669]

Almost all men become fools when they fall in love, so they do foolish things that they later regret, such as wasting their money, getting married, having children, etc.

[Cheulyn]

Well he says he regrets he made those calls with that girl, but he didn't want to do that anymore

[whiskeyontherocks]

Everyone changes over time regardless of if there in love or not

[Cheulyn]

True!

[linka_pat307]

Some can but not all habits besides men are getting tired of demands made by their partners

[Iron_Man]

Yes they sure can

[Cheulyn]

He said he would because he loves me, can I believe that's true?

[Iron_Man]

You can go for it

[BarryLiverstone]

If he has a pattern it’s unlikely he will change

[BarryLiverstone]

What do you want him to change?

[Cheulyn]

Well he did admit when we first met, he was a pervert person that that's why he was like that with that girl, but with me he thought I was just too innocent to act pervert around me so he is trying to change those emotions around girls, but I don't know if I can believe it

[BarryLiverstone]

He has hormones and they will activate and he will feel horny. If you don’t wanna talk about sex then make that clear. I take it you never have those feelings yourself?

[BarryLiverstone]

It’s not about him changing emotions. It’s about him controlling urges

[Cheulyn]

Yea, i already made him clear that talks make me feel uncomfortable, and he said first you need to grow, I won't talk to you like that if u feel uncomfortable, I don't wanna do anything that can hurt you

[BarryLiverstone]

Words are one thing, actions are another. Make sure if he starts to make you feel uncomfortable that you speak up. He can’t read your mind and you have the right to speak up.

Do you feel like as you get to know him more and get to trust him you will open up on some of those topics?

[Cheulyn]

I'm happy he is telling me the things instead of try to cover them up, guess he does want me to feel safe around him.

Well i thought I trust him much already but with this i kinda lost a little trust on him, anyways if I told him I won't talk any of those topics unless we do get engage which I know it's exaggerated but just to see what he would do

[BarryLiverstone]

Don’t assume he wants you to feel safe. Tell him how he can best do that. I didn’t realize until i was like 19 how important feeling safe was to girls and how to check in and protect them emotionally

[JaxiCats]

Yea.