What it means if the guy i've been dating for almost 2months talks about our future and plans on marrying me, &invites me to spend the night with him?

[Anonymous]

we have common friends who knew him though but i really haven't met him before and then we just had a very nice conversation then after a few weeks he's already starting to talk about our futures together , and even planning on marrying me. i dont know what's this guy's been to, but it's just too fast he's nice, caring, responsible and sweet, we went to an amusement park on our first date, then on the second cooked for me, then on the third we cooked meal together. i went to his place on the 2nd and 3rd date but i ddnt sleep on his place and we didn't had sex we just spent the night talking, cuddling, watching movie and eat together. could he possibly had a clean intention about me?

[andreasderjuengere]

Perhaps he's a little fast; most likely because he's very excited?

Of course he wants sex sooner or later; ''we'' all want it :)

But that is not necessarily a bad sign. You two could talk about the speed you both wish to proceed.

[Asker]

aww thanks, but do i still have to go to his place and spend a night without having sex just plain "sleeping together (cuddling, sleep at the same bed, kiss, no sex)" ?

[andreasderjuengere]

''... have to...'' in a relationship isn't the best idea. Speak with him first before you say 'yes' or 'no'. If he's a good guy and a gentleman, then you will come to terms.
Anyhow, just as one thing to think about... sooner or later sex will be a topic. What keeps you from enjoying it?

[Asker]

yeah he's also a good and gentleman too tjo some of my friends told me he's a player, I don't know, maybe that's what kept me from it.

[Asker]

which ones isn't the best idea, sorry got confused tho :)

[andreasderjuengere]

I suggest to let your 'feeling' decide. Do only what you're comfortable with.
In my younger days I also had a reputation of being a player - which wasn't the case; people only thought so.

[Asker]

ohh thank you for the advise i really appreciated it :)

[andreasderjuengere]

My pleasure. I wish you the best luck :)

[Asker]

aww thank you :) honestly im still uncomfortable sleeping with him but at the same time curious of how the night goes lol anyhow thank you :)

[007kingifrit]

women need to stop asking "what does it mean if man says x"... it means X!

he said EXACTLY what he wants, it is THAT SIMPLE

[Asker]

haha sorry, im just confused yeah maybe that's what he meant, but weve only been dating for about 2 months isn't it too early to actually talk about marriage and stuffs?

[007kingifrit]

maybe, i don't know your situation

[Asker]

yeah but what im just really confused of was because he invited me to stay and spend the night with him. now im wondering if, did he just tell me those words so i could become more comfortable with him and then he could ask me to spend a night and sleep with him?

[007kingifrit]

ok now that's a real question... maybe he did lie for sex

[Asker]

okay i get it thanks for the answers i really appreciated it :)

[spartan55]

Could you possibly have a clean intention on him?

[Asker]

yeah i have, i mean i just really want us to start slow

[Anonymous]

He might be moving too fast.

[Asker]

what does it mean im age 28 and he's 31, so i dont know what's on his mind lol he seemed kinda bit thoughtful and caring tho

[Iron_Man]

No sex before marriage

[Asker]

then could he had clear intentions about me and taking those conversations we had to the next level?

[Iron_Man]

He might just be wanting sex and tell you what you wanna hear so you’ll give it up don’t do it

[Asker]

aww yeah im also thinking about that but how would i know if he's really being true about what he said?

[Iron_Man]

Don’t give it up and if he sticks around then he cares if he leaves it wasn’t meant to be he just wanted sex

[Asker]

aww thank youuu :) okay ill do that :)

[Asker]

thanks for the advise i really appreciated it :)

[Iron_Man]

You’re Very welcome