I recently started hanging out with this one guy in his early 40s. He said In the beginning that he wanted to be exclusive friends with benefits, with the possibility of it growing into something more. He was mostly sober when he said this.
The last couple of times we’ve hung out, he’s gotten really drunk and really high and has started acting weird. He’ll start mumbling to himself like “don’t say anything to scare her away” & Other things that I couldn’t quite make out, but I’m pretty sure he was talking about me. He gets super paranoid out of the blue and accuses me of cheating, which I have not done. I really like him a lot and I have no intention of cheating on him. Then he blurted out “I have trust issues”. It’s almost like a Jekyll and Hyde thing because we will be laughing hysterically and then it’s like a switch flips & he’ll be weird for 10 seconds, then go back to normal.
Then he said “I have the devil inside of me. That’s why I’m alone. If I ever tell you to leave, you need to leave right away”. He asked me to look into his eyes and we were just kinda cuddling and looking at each other, and he was like “I hope you never stop looking at me like this…. they all leave me” and then he jumps up and he’s like “oh that’s not good… I shouldn’t have looked at your eyes”.
so I don’t know if he’s just being weird because he’s high and drunk or if he’s getting feelings and he’s scared of it because he thinks I’m gonna abandon him like apparently every other woman has done. And these comments about him having a devil inside of him kind of scares me. He’s also made very disturbing comments about zip ties & things like that, but he assured me he would never physically hurt me.
