Long paragraphs from a guy yes or no? do you like them girls?

[Anonymous]

[Smoke-n-Growls]

If it's one of our first questions or conversations by text, no. I don't like paragraphs. But I do want enough to carry a conversation.

If it's been a deep conversation and we're hitting it off, a paragraph when appropriate (i. e. you need that much for context, etc), that's fine.

But right out of the gate it's a bit much.

[Asker]

Can you check the paragraph in the replies of others I sent
Thanks

[Smoke-n-Growls]

Hard to say without context - and no, I'm not asking for it.

That said it sounds like half an apology and half a farewell.

"As we spoke about respected"? Did you objectify her at first, because this whole thing is reading like. Nice Guy™ text. Which 😬

[Asker]

I give up low key
Spent all summer getting to know her and no hang out

[Smoke-n-Growls]

Yeah, I can see why. Was every conversation like that, because DUDE you're laying it on like the French lay on butter. Which is to say way too thick.

[Asker]

She now has no internet
Doesn’t want to give me her number to call her
Sigh
Because bad experience
Is break up the best decision?

I don’t say that
So what did you mean by your saying?

[Smoke-n-Growls]

Whatever she decided to do is the best decision for her.

You just need to let go and move on.

I can see why she wouldn't want to give you her number. You're overbearing and it seems more interested in getting a girlfriend for the status or sex rather than actually wanting to know and appreciate a person.

[Asker]

This is Modern day dating

Yeah I’ll end it

She wasted my time in a way

🙂🙃

[Smoke-n-Growls]

See? What'd I say, I knew you were one of those cringey Nice Guys™.

Get some therapy, bud. You're gonna need it to get to a normal baseline for dating.

[Asker]

You seem to like me haha

[Smoke-n-Growls]

Lmao, oh no your problems are even worse. You're not my type.

[Asker]

I made you laugh

[Smoke-n-Growls]

If you think that's a genuine laugh, you're definitely unhealthy.

Dude. I'm gay. You're literally the furthest thing from my type.

[Asker]

Great to see you’re Lesbian

[Smoke-n-Growls]

Yup, so no. I'm not into you and no, I don't find you funny.

Now, accept and internalize and get therapy.

[Asker]

You do that?

[Smoke-n-Growls]

Therapy? Yeah. It's been life changing in a very good way. I used to have a load of insecurities, unmanaged anxiety, and horrid coping mechanisms.

I had an abusive childhood, so therapy has really helped me live a better, healthier, happier life.

You could really benefit from it.

[Asker]

Nice to talk

[Asker]

😊😊

[Asker]

Take care

[Smoke-n-Growls]

You, too. I hope your mindset improves and you're able to forge healthy friendships and relationships with time.

Keep trying. You can do it.

[hellfirec]

If a girl also likes him then yes she would expect a long paragraph from him. And if she is not interested in him then it becomes irritating.

[Asker]

That makes sense I’m nervous now

[hellfirec]

How did she feel?

[Asker]

I will send the message text now

[Asker]

To you for a quick review

[Asker]

You never disappointed me and you never will. Even though we haven’t met. i enjoyed being close and getting to know you this summer. Everyday we been trying to talk and you would always tell me if i was being quiet you know? As you can imagine i didn’t expect you to like me in the first place or show the interest of wanting to get to know me. i do appreciate you honey and i appreciate knowing you’re in Wrexham area. You been wonderful to me and meeting you been amazing. Having you everyday this summer has been good. i mean it. You’re a classy women, Katie. i love everything about you. You deserve to be happy, loved and as we spoke about respected. i am sorry for speaking about my thoughts a little bit. The truth is, i appreciate your time and our conversations. The vibe we have, the respect, the chemistry, the butterflies and the communication, it’s all there 🙂 as i say before i like you for who you are. I hope one day importantly you do find someone if we don’t work out, get married and have a family. My favourite thing about you has to be how shy you are, because i can relate to this very much. You been very caring and making sure I’m okay. i understand the last few days been a little stressful. i can imagine you are looking forward to meeting me in near future if we can meet and receive a tight close hug. 💜 they say the dream women doesn’t exist, yea you are definitely every guys dream Lady. ☺️💕 you have been getting to know me throughout this summer. i hope i haven't

[Asker]

Have not disappointed or been a bad experience

[Asker]

A long message but thought I would give reassurance type way

[hellfirec]

That’s a v nice message. You need not worry about it. I am sure she will like it. Calm down 😬

[Asker]

Calm down in it being too much? I’m sorry
I tried my best

[hellfirec]

No I meant calm down as in don’t stress too much about the paragraph. It seems really good

[Asker]

Okay you were impressed with detail and effort 😅

[hellfirec]

Yes, anyone would be impressed with it. I really hope she will reciprocate to it the way you want ;)

[Asker]

Tried to give her reassurance

Me and her might break up soon

[hellfirec]

Give it some time. If it is meant to be it will work no matter what.

[Asker]

Thank you
Most likely it will end soon

[CA4444]

Yes why not, can be a bit tiring if alllll the time cause you feel like you have to read and reply to everything right but otherwise I just like when someone is natural and write as he/she wants to write

(sometimes can be considered rude if you don’t know the person well, like I don’t have time for a novel)

[Asker]

i would agree not all the time and it does depend on the persons personality if they like to write

[Asker]

I’ll tell you the text i sent

[Asker]

You never disappointed me and you never will. Even though we haven’t met. i enjoyed being close and getting to know you this summer. Everyday we been trying to talk and you would always tell me if i was being quiet you know? As you can imagine i didn’t expect you to like me in the first place or show the interest of wanting to get to know me. i do appreciate you honey and i appreciate knowing you’re in Wrexham area. You been wonderful to me and meeting you been amazing. Having you everyday this summer has been good. i mean it. You’re a classy women, Katie. i love everything about you. You deserve to be happy, loved and as we spoke about respected. i am sorry for speaking about my thoughts a little bit. The truth is, i appreciate your time and our conversations. The vibe we have, the respect, the chemistry, the butterflies and the communication, it’s all there 🙂 as i say before i like you for who you are. I hope one day importantly you do find someone if we don’t work out, get married and have a family. My favourite thing about you has to be how shy you are, because i can relate to this very much. You been very caring and making sure I’m okay. i understand the last few days been a little stressful. i can imagine you are looking forward to meeting me in near future if we can meet and receive a tight close hug. 💜 they say the dream women doesn’t exist, yea you are definitely every guys dream Lady. ☺️💕 you have been getting to know me throughout this summer. i hope i haven't

[Asker]

Have not disappointed or been a bad experience

[Asker]

A long message but thought I would give reassurance type way

[Changiis07]

No not on text. Phone calls is much better

[Asker]

True. Along with a compliment through the phone call don’t some girls get nervous about what to respond by? Does that make sense?

[Asker]

i sent the text now I’ll send you here

[Asker]

You never disappointed me and you never will. Even though we haven’t met. i enjoyed being close and getting to know you this summer. Everyday we been trying to talk and you would always tell me if i was being quiet you know? As you can imagine i didn’t expect you to like me in the first place or show the interest of wanting to get to know me. i do appreciate you honey and i appreciate knowing you’re in Wrexham area. You been wonderful to me and meeting you been amazing. Having you everyday this summer has been good. i mean it. You’re a classy women, Katie. i love everything about you. You deserve to be happy, loved and as we spoke about respected. i am sorry for speaking about my thoughts a little bit. The truth is, i appreciate your time and our conversations. The vibe we have, the respect, the chemistry, the butterflies and the communication, it’s all there :) as i say before i like you for who you are. I hope one day importantly you do find someone if we don’t work out, get married and have a family. My favourite thing about you has to be how shy you are, because i can relate to this very much. You been very caring and making sure I’m okay. i understand the last few days been a little stressful. i can imagine you are looking forward to meeting me in near future if we can meet and receive a tight close hug. 💜 they say the dream women doesn’t exist, yea you are definitely every guys dream Lady. ☺️💕 you have been getting to know me throughout this summer. i hope i haven't

[Asker]

Have not disappointed or been a bad experience

[Asker]

A long message but thought I would give reassurance type way