How Do I Make Him Chase Me More?

[Anonymous]

this is our third time trying for a relationship, we’re on the talking stage, he never wants to stay on ft with me, lags with one word responses, doesn’t come out to see me that much because he’s punishing me to get my drivers license i guess, i tell him why is he not showing no effort like the beginning, he told me i lost his respect because i was hoeing around with other guys, im just overthinking if he’s seeing someone else, the spark is gone and i don’t wanna waste my time, what do i do? honestly he’s not showing the love that i deserve, if he keeps on not giving me attention i’ll find it somewhere else and build up my body count period

[Anonymous]

The last part is dumb. You don’t need to go out, expose yourself to god knows what and raise your body count. Like for what? You’re the one putting yourself at risk it’s no revenge to him. If you’re not happy in the relationship then just leave him and heal. You can’t “make” him be the right man for you he either is or he isn’t and something tells me that the 3rd time is not the charm.

[Asker]

it’s hard not to, cause im usually out, i get sad being home, can’t be at parties anymore, he doesn’t understand how much im trying and hard for me to fuck around which i changed for him

[Opinion Owner]

It’s hard for you not to fuck around? You can work on that girl, whether it’s therapy or just some self work but you don’t have to keep that frame of mind. The change should happen for you not for him. If you struggle with any depression or trauma let me tell you dealing with him and feeling rejected and unwanted makes those feelings so much worse. Nothing worse than being in a relationship all by yourself.

[Asker]

i don’t struggle with anything, i knew my dumb ass should have dropped him when he wasn’t there for my abortion OUR KID that should have been a 🚩 right there

[Opinion Owner]

Shitty for him to let you go through that alone. I hope you decide to leave him.