Is it creepy I waited an hour outside the gym for a guy I had been having flirty eye contact for weeks?

[Anonymous]

In my defence j had nothing better to do and i it had been months since I had seen him last I just wanted to take a leap of faith …

actually I haven’t done it yet but I’m here waiting right now

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+1 y

Never doing this again will think positive and let things happen naturally I potentially might’ve had the guy open to the idea of stalkers being real

[SteveSmith1985]

meh... I think it's not-so-creepy if it's a 'one-time thing', and you actually intend to try and talk to him when he comes out. Not just wait there in the vague hopes that he talks to you (THAT is more creepy than waiting to talk to someone).

Are you still there?

[Asker]

Okay so it’s funny I’m home now I noticed he came out because he was looking at me which caught my attention. I started to grab my stuff and walk over whilst looking at hm. he seemed to be looking at me trying to walk over too then he did a double take and looked very frightened right at me. as if at first he thought ah she wants my attention then he realised who would I be waiting on I came there alone. and got frightened. He then sped walked off. Will let things happen naturally in future reference.

[SteveSmith1985]

hahaha, awwww... yes... I think letting things happen naturally might be the way to go. Or maybe just... talk to the guy IN the gym rather than waiting for him. And with this specific guy... you should totally still go talk to him next time you see him at the gym. Make some joke about seeming to have freaked-him-out (and make up some other excuse for you having been there). Or something. But you shouldn't just leave things as they are.

[Asker]

My gut tells me he’s not used to being approached or that type of attention so me walking toward him freaked him out, but maybe at first he wasn’t sure if it was him I was approaching maybe he thought I was just passing which is why he seemed receptive at first. Most guys see a girl standing and she leaves to walk toward them it would be very far fetched to assume she’s waiting for him so something tells me he likely didn’t think of me a stalker more so wasn’t sure how to handle being walked up to by a random girl?

[SteveSmith1985]

honestly... I am really not sure what exactly happened here.

Sounds like he essentially... saw you... saw you approaching... and then... ran away?

Is that right?

Because I am at a loss for any explanation. Few guys are so shy that they'd literally walk away from an approaching girl. Also, most guys are not going to be afraid that some random girl they see might be waiting for them ONE TIME is a stalker who they need be physically afraid of. SO honestly... I'm confused, or possibly missing something in the story?

[SnowedIn]

Creepy? No. But... On the one hand I might be flattered that a girl waited around an hour for me. On the other hand, it suggests she doesn't have confidence to approach me. (And if the guy is too rude to talk to you when you approach him at the gym, then he's not worth it. Sure politely ask to finish the workout but he'd probably welcome being approached. )

[Asker]

He came out he was looking at me I started to walk over to him he starts to walk over to me kind of in curiosity then he has really wide eyes like he’s frightened then starts sped walking so I pretend I’m waiting for someone else and let it go I guess he got a fright

[SnowedIn]

Wow. That's kinda weird. I wouldn't read too much into it but maybe time to find someone else you like. 😎

[Asker]

i mean it seems he was into talking to me till he quickly realised I might’ve been waiting for him, or he Couldn’t fathom why I would be randomly approaching him as I’ve never spoken to him before and got a fright as he’s not used to attention maybe? He’s just average looking.

[SnowedIn]

Thanks for mho!

[NotTacocaT6969]

Lol yes it’s creepy.


If you want to talk to him just walk up to him and talk to him.


Not so sure he’ll be happy talking to a girl when he feels tired and sweaty.

[Asker]

He came out he was looking at me I started to walk over to him he starts to walk over to me kind of in curiosity then he has really wide eyes like he’s frightened and shocked and freezes with that expression then starts sped walking so I pretend I’m waiting for someone else and let it go I guess he got a fright

[supercutebutt]

Plop out a boob next time u r waiting and he'll notice u :)

[FilmGuy93]

Lol it’s a little bit creepy, yeah. It’s not the worst thing in the world though. It’s more cute than creepy.

[hahahmm]

He didn't talk to you yet because he's not interested enough to do that. Now you're stalking him.

[Asker]

Most guys think girls don’t want to be bothered at the gym maybe he isn’t interested enough but I want to take a leap of faith because back in August/July i for weeks and every time I went gym I could not get this guy off my mind. If he says no or is uninterested I will literally never bother him again

[hahahmm]

From my POV, most guys don't want to be bothered by women at the gym. And the ones that do are the ones working out with women on the fixed weight machines with light loads. But yes. guys see all the women dressing for attention at the gym.

[MiamiMadness]

Girl go home and talk to him next time

[Asker]

I rarely go to that gym in particular it was just a spur of the moment thing I’ve said for monthssss I’ll talk to him Next time and never did

[MiamiMadness]

Ok well walk back in and ask him for his info, way less awkward then an ambush outside lol

[Asker]

Ok so I missed him he walked right passed me he did look at me though but when I got up as he was leaving he was starting to walk faster