Why would a guy who entered into a relationship avoid you so abruptly?

[Anonymous]

If we never did anything or had eachothers number. He showed more attraction toward me. I never really paid him attention before

so why? Did he have feelings if he avoids or was he just flirting for fun and doesn’t want me to think something else.

[Anonymous]

Well if you’re not paying him attention then why does it matter when you’re not getting it from him? Avoiding you is likely a matter of respect for his girlfriend. If you two were just casual friends I’m sure it wouldn’t matter, but if you were flirting then it makes sense to steer clear of a woman he had that dynamic with.

[Asker]

I mean I just didn’t want to assume anything.. but then I got it..

I remember I dressed up and he was to intentionally not be around me and avoid me. Then I saw that he was talking to a really attractive model

[Opinion Owner]

For the sake of not making assumptions, it’s quite possible that he’s not avoiding you and just being mindful of his girlfriend. But in any case I wouldn’t care if I were you. It sounds like beyond some flirting he wasn’t really anyone to you, so cutting ties should be simple.

[Asker]

We can’t date anyway so ig

I see him from time to time

[Opinion Owner]

Do you have school together or something?

[Asker]

Work. Very very strict dating rule

[Opinion Owner]

Ohhh okay, that makes sense then. Well hey, I wouldn’t think too much about it, probably for the best anyway especially since you can’t date.

[Asker]

Yeah, I’m quitting in December so maybe I thought I could have a chance

[FilmGuy93]

Because he found you attractive and pursuing you would be inappropriate now that he's in a relationship.

[Asker]

I wouldn’t want him to pursue. I just don’t know why avoiding is necessary

[FilmGuy93]

So, I guess now I am wondering what you mean by “avoiding.” What is he doing that makes you think he is avoiding you, as opposed to simply not actively trying to interact with you?

[Asker]

Yeah just seems like he is intentionally pretending I’m not really there or not really trying to be around me..

He still nice but I can feel a difference

[Anonymous]

If you don't get it it would be pointless to explain it. Just move on.