Guys; face to face in a work environment …what’s your desired result from telling a woman that she looks beautiful?

[wittymilf]

This just makes the environment feel so loaded! Why do this! What’s it for? What do you want from this!!! How is a woman supposed to respond with out looking like a flirt or a bitch 🤷‍♀️🤷‍♀️ ITS A STITCH UP

[Markm3212]

its the precise wording thats important. if the words beautiful were used then, that means he likes you and most probably would like to take it further.

however, i often compliment some of the ladies at work, but will usually compliment "thats a nice dress and suits you" or "your looking good today is that a new dress" etc. now i am only trying to pay a compliment, nothing else well maybe help make her feel good about herself, after all there is nothing better than being paid a compliment.

i dont look at it any different to being told that i done a good bit of work or i smelled nice etc.

so my question back is. what would you like a guy to say that doesn't put you in that situation where you feel uncomfortable but still receive a complement? as if there is nothing that we can say (as a man to a lady), then thats a sad situation and how far will that lead, to a bar or a night out etc, how would guys be able to talk to ladies' in the future?

my recommendation is to accept it as a complement and go on with your day feeling good about yourself.

[KrakenAttackin]

@Markm3212. You should not make any comments about a woman's appearance unless you don't care about your job.

[wittymilf]

@KrakenAttackin firstly @ KrakenAttackin you live in America so that’s not like the rest of the world. :) complimenting each other in NZ isn’t illegal or harassment 🤷‍♀️.

[wittymilf]

I’m all good with nice shoes 🤷‍♀️👠. And anything goes as far as complimenting outside of work🤷‍♀️. There’s just something about the compliment about physical appearance within a working environment that feels like it undermines my professional respect… I don’t know why but I’d far rather my peer said great work turning that deal around for me 🤔🤷‍♀️.

[KrakenAttackin]

@wittymilf. Ok, fair enough. Yes the U. S. has gone overboard. It is harassment to offer help to a pregnant woman unless she asks here (right out of my HR manual).

[Monalisa77]

The guy i like has been encouraging me re my work n has helped me when I've been stressed. plus going as far as asking if I've eaten (i don't eat well as i don't sleep well) so taking an interest without going over the boundaries

[Makeushiver]

I have told many women they are beautiful. I've done so in different continents, different languages and almost every one (except for one) were gracious and have thanked me. One French woman told me I was the first American guy she met that knew how to compliment a woman. Sometimes it's about fashion sense and I'll remark how attractive it is on her but most of the time I received sincere thanks. It seems completely different telling a woman that to her face as compared to being catcalled a group- of guys. Three times thus far it has been consummated which is nothing I expected but it usually goes like, "you're pretty not yourself" that gives me a decent chance off getting in end zone. The fact that I've ever scored from it likely has a bit to do when it has happened. The only negative response I've gotten was once in a supermarket when I told a Japanese woman and she didn't say a thing just walked past me. I was really surprised at the amount of responses that prompted most of them to at least than me sincerely for telling them. I'm now trying to think of a natural segue into expressing a desire to get them off. I haven'[t yet figured out how to promise them more and more intense orgasms. I'd appreciate any tips should you know of them. One I considered would be a follow up compliment stating the only that if she was so beautiful that I went out of my way to compliment her and the only thing I can imagine that would enhance it would be the glow of an orgasm lighting up your features. Aside from the fact that I would be too chicken-in many cases at least- to say that and I think that the vast , majority though truly gracious when complimented might think that adding the orgasm part might be a bit much. and might negate the warm and fuzzy feeling the original compliment created. I'd really like to come up with some way of at least planting the seed - literally and figuratively
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[FilmGuy93]

I honestly have no idea. Any guy who says something like that in the workplace is asking for trouble.

[abc3643]

I generally don't because it is considered inappropriate work behavior and, in the USA, can lead to issues regarding sexual harassment. That said, I have been close to some female employees - women who've known me a long time or are already comfortable with me to talk about something like that, then I may comment - as a friend. For instance, I have a coworker (when I was in the office) and she is beautiful... Like elephant-in-the-room beautiful. It affects all males and it is fun to see it. It affects me too, but I keep it under control. However, I used to work with her for her husband and all three of us were friends. Once she and I started working in a different building, I became her "work husband" so we'd talk etc. Still, I never crossed a line and I love her husband as much as her. She has confided in me worrying about her looks at times; in an ironic twist, she has no idea how attractive she is to us... and she's 59 and still stunning!

[Finchie40]

If a guy is telling you you look beautiful he is more thank likely flirting with you and pretty much saying he wouldn’t mind ripping your clothes off but again it depends on how he said it to you , if he was straight to the point saying You are beautiful he is more than likely flirting with you and complimenting you , If he says you are a beautiful girl. He is just trying to make you feel better by giving her a compliment , but all in all when a guy pretty much tells a girl she is beautiful or gorgeous he is pretty much indicating that he has the hots for her by complimenting her. He is letting her know that he is interested pretty much

[Paul_in_Indy]

my short term goal is to make you smile, in the hopes that you’ll feel better about yourself. My longer-term goal is to have mind blowing sex with you, because you feel happy and good about yourself. I definitely want to get you in bed, but I want you to feel good about it.

[wittymilf]

Refreshing and honest

[USMC-Crossroads]

1st, (most common): I would only say that if I thought she would actually WANT to hear it, and as long as it were true, I'd like it if a made some lady's day a little better.

2nd, (less often): In the far corner of my mind, I kind hope she picks up on - and likes - the fact that I'm going to be thinking about her in a couple minutes while jerking-off in the office bathroom.

[wittymilf]

Oh god, Now I just have a horrible image of the last old car dealer I went to visit 😂😂

[USMC-Crossroads]

Hahaha. Sorry about that.

[USMC-Crossroads]

Awesome response, Honey... Well done!

[TheSpaceGnome]

I would guess it means they either are just being nice, or they are flirting and hoping for a date and eventual sex/relationship.

You could just say "thank you" and not go any further with it if you aren't into them, that would count as not being a flirt or a bitch.

[wittymilf]

Thanks 🙏🏻

[msc545]

men should never comment on a woman's appearance at all for any reason. Only foolish men do that as they can be arrested for harassment. I hope all you women are satisfied that you've managed to weaponize the legal system to the point that men can't even give you compliments anymore.

[wittymilf]

Oh my m… it’s not illegal to compliment your peers in my country 😂😂. But if I told the CEO that he’s cute, it would be pretty derogatory. But I must say you’re enthusiasm is adored😂🙏🏻

[msc545]

If you are a man and do it here your life is ruined.

[wittymilf]

If you’re a women and you do it here you’d just be rightfully ashamed of yourself.

[msc545]

Most men refuse to date or get married here anymore.

[wittymilf]

Most men still just tap and gap here 🤷‍♀️ but each to his own. Obviously we no longer live in a society where we need each other to have happy and productive lives. Women can own land, have bank accounts and get good paying jobs just like guys. It’s kinda refreshing right?

[msc545]

It is not refreshing for children

[wittymilf]

Some children are also girls who can now grow up
And lead independent lives with out boundaries. But don’t stress too much there is still millions of people finding live and having children. They just need to mutually respect each other. Also some really talent and happy children being raised my mums and dad’s independently.

[msc545]

What about the male children, or do they not count?

[wittymilf]

😂😂 no no they have always had the ability to grow up and drive, have jobs, and own property. Nothing has changed for them aside from maybe learning that they can do all of these things without a woman supporting them. You go boys stand on your own!

[msc545]

How will girls grow up to be the parasites so many here are now without victims?

[wittymilf]

I’m sorry I don’t know if that’s a language barrier but I have no idea what you’re talking about 🤷‍♀️

[msc545]

Probably more like a cultural barrier. In the United States at least women mostly see men as a way of getting money for themselves without having to work.

[wittymilf]

It seems odd to me when men how’ve both a problem with women not behaving traditionally but also a problem with women falling into the traditional roll of being looked after by her man. You can’t be on both sides of the argument

[msc545]

Yes you can. Modern women with jobs and their own income can occasionally behave decently.

[wittymilf]

Ok but you say you don’t like modern women with their own jobs… and you don’t like traditional women who are willing to be kept by a man 🤷‍♀️🤔

[msc545]

I prefer women with their own careers and jobs, but they say they don't need men

[wittymilf]

They don’t need men🤷‍♀️ but that doesn’t mean they don’t want men :) just need to be the right kinda guy 🤷‍♀️

[msc545]

True - women here are only interested in good-looking men that are tall and have a LOT of money.

[wittymilf]

Women who are independent don’t need men with a lot of money, they do probably have higher expectations of a guy though so they don’t have to carry him financially. Seems fair right based on the fact that you wouldn’t want a woman who needs you for money , that women would also feel that way about men🤷‍♀️

[DJB72]

It cuts both ways. Women compliment men and don't get accused of making an inappropriate comment.

Why should it be any different if a man pays a woman a compliment?

It's not like we'll accuse her of being a female chauvinistic sow...

[wittymilf]

So what’s the actual answer to the question? What response do you want when giving compliments? What’s it for when it’s in a work environment?

[DJB72]

If I pay anyone a compliment there's no ulterior motives. I tend to be a straight shooter. I'm not looking for validation.

And I'll call someone a retarded fuckwit to their face just as easily.

I don't look for a response. My statements are intended at face value

[wittymilf]

Why is physical appearance worth mentioning then?

[DJB72]

It's not an absolute. A person's appearance changes depending on colour, fit, hairstyle, etc. A change may be noticed. Generally if a person of either gender changes something it's to be noticed.

I could ask with equal merit "why colour your hair?" Or "why wear a new outfit?"

[wittymilf]

People get dressed and pay attention in their appearance if they haven’t given up on life🤷‍♀️. They don’t do it so people in the work place will come and tell them they’re beautiful. I mean when you get dressed it’s not so people will tell you that right?
Obviously different for your loved ones or if you are attending a social event

[MCheetah]

A smile and a "thank you." That's it.

If someone telling you something nice about yourself makes you angry, then you just might be a First World Karen.

[wittymilf]

Yeah don’t know about angry. But I wouldn’t consider commenting on a male colleagues attractiveness during a work interaction. I’d feel creepy af🤷‍♀️. Don’t want to be an uncool Kevin.

[Anonymous]

I find as a man seeing it well dressed woman. I find through my training in sexual harassment it does not say hurt to say you got a nice dress. I have found that all she needs to say is why thank you. It also depends upon how the mail approaches the female. You also learned to keep my eyes on her eyes.

[wittymilf]

Interesting training. What country do you come from?

[Opinion Owner]

United States.

[MrCommodore]

I wouldn't say that to any woman in real life unless I was in a relationship with her.

On GAG maybe only if she asked a question about her appearance or expressed concern about her appearance, but only if I genuinely thought that.

[ChiTown33]

Generally it's just a warm fuzzy I give. If you're thinking about how to respond to it you're thinking too hard. I was just giving a compliment. Take it the way you want to. 🙄

[wittymilf]

I mean before I met the internet I’d just say oh thanks and high five ✋. But Fucken gag with all its MGTGFT etc opinions 😂😂 have made me lose my way!

[MrTaboo]

A compliment. Women have been programed to think every thing is sexualized assualt on them. Just say thank you.



Or, we want to bend you over your desk and have kinky dirty sex right there.

Both, both are true.

[wittymilf]

Women are trained that they’re a tease if they respond positive to a compliment is probably a more accurate statement.

[MrTaboo]

What training is this? When and where?

[Alex8736]

If it's face to face it's best if it's after work hours and off the property where once my director stated "what people do on their own time is their own business". In the workplace you have too many busybodies misconstruing the facts and dramatize everything.

[NathanDavis]

hmm, I have never done that... lol

precisely because it can make things awkward

[wittymilf]

💯 just why 🤷‍♀️

[NathanDavis]

lmao... actually, regardless of the environment...

whether a coworker or someone else at some other place or context, it is extremely rare that I ever approach a woman to just say "you are beautiful" as a flirt or whatever

first because, I just feel like I do not want to be the guy #1,343,645,745 that ever said the same thing to her, lmao...

and then because if I really don't know her... I don't know if she well feel awkward or not comfortable or any of that

so I don't know... is something I just don't do, lol

[wittymilf]

Yeah , I’m not sure why, but it can definitely feel like it undermines my professional capacity when it’s in a work environment. It feels sexist kinda.

Pissed at the pub 🤷‍♀️ meh I get it, thats your own time so you can let loose with personal interaction. It still requires emotional maturity to know when and what to say however.

[NathanDavis]

those two are definitely true... me being the employer is MORE the reason to not go around "flirting" with coworkers lmao... but even if I were not, people go to work, to do their job... not get flirted on

now, out of the work... at other settings, I definitely rather wait till the right moment for the right things... and not just approach and try to "force" things to happen out of nowhere, lol

[Guardian45]

If I imagine such a situation, it would have to be that I'm interested in her, and can't help myself from telling her what I think of her. However, in 99% of work situations, I would NEVER do that!

[wittymilf]

Because you’re a decent human :)

[Guardian45]

Thank you. Others would disagree with you.

[maximumpower]

In a work environment? Really?
That's a great way to get hammered.
The workplace is no place for romance - unless you want to get fired.

[Monalisa77]

I don't see whats wrong with it as long as ur professional

[KrakenAttackin]

@Monalisa77 If he is attractive it is "professional". If he is unattractive it is "creepy" and a violation.

[Monalisa77]

Exactly, i was really nervous starting my first job cos i was worried people wouldn't like me cos of how i look but everyone is so lovely. I do like this 1 guy a lot n im starting to think he could like me 2 he's been so caring n encouraging, winds me up no end but unless something serious happened where i said no id never report him

[wittymilf]

@Monalisa77 it’s never professional to compliment people on physical attributes, in or out of work place and irrespective of gender

[Monalisa77]

People do it all the time though, why is it ok online n not in rl? U never commented on someone who has changed especially when we didn't see people for two years?

[Monalisa77]

I commented on my colleague getting their hair done is that wrong?

[wittymilf]

@Monalisa77 nothing wrong with notice a hair cut or a new shirt 🤷‍♀️

[KrakenAttackin]

@wittymilf. "... a new shirt"... Hey, my eyes are up here missy!!

[ericclayton]

It's fine outside of the professionals setting -- but on the job, including events, keep it on the non-personal level.

[wittymilf]

@KrakenAttackin I have a shirt that has pears and melons on it…. Something I really didn’t pick up on until a colleague told me ‘nice pear n melons ‘ 😂😂

[loveslongnails]

I can't ever remember saying that to a woman in my workplace. My guess is the guy either just wants your attention, or he's hoping you'll say "does that mean you wanna fuck me, because I'm so hot for you I can't stand it!" LOL

[Aakash_Hangargi]

A thank you in return that's all?

What's wrong in that 😂?

[wittymilf]

I don’t know 🤷‍♀️ sometimes it just feels really uncomfortable!

[Aakash_Hangargi]

Accept it gracefully and see that they don't continue beyond them saying your beautiful it's should be thanks and full stop.

[Aakash_Hangargi]

Or like say in a laughing manner yeah i know tell me something new 😂😂

[Allyfax]

Stay away don't shit where you eat.. i did , regrets ever since... If it goes good its like fire... Amazing in alll ways but whenever some1 els get jelious , your personal life gets exposed at work and that sucks 😞 so rather keep that shit secretly amazing and nothing at work , be colder than a Ho's heart at work please... He/she would know its just a act... But after hours , light that shit up !!! Yea !!! Amazing !!

[OddBeMe]

Beautiful does have a romantic texture. If i said, “You look pretty today.” That sounds more friendly.

[KrakenAttackin]

@OddBeMe. And she will retort "do you mean I am ugly every other day"?

[OddBeMe]

@KrakenAttackin well that is a pessimists view. :)

[wittymilf]

Yeah and I’m not pessimistic… 😂😂 but no offence Krakin … you are a bit doom n gloom. Xx

[OddBeMe]

he gets that from me.

@wittymilf you do look pretty today by the way.

[KrakenAttackin]

@OddBeMe. I was kidding, my reply was more like what a wife wound say.

[wittymilf]

@KrakenAttackin ah 🤷‍♀️ my apologies.. I don’t have a wife nor am I traditionally wife like 😂 it went over my head!

[whiskeyontherocks]

This seems like you’re over thinking it just my thoughts at face value

[wittymilf]

So when you tell women in the workplace that they look beautiful today, what are you hoping for?

[whiskeyontherocks]

Nothing
Maybe respect or some form of positive atmosphere at work

[wittymilf]

I feel like acknowledging work well done does a better job of that than commenting on physical appearance 🤷‍♀️

[whiskeyontherocks]

True

[Jamie05rhs]

It's just a compliment. Just say Thank You and move on.

[wittymilf]

Thank you :)

[Jamie05rhs]

You're welcome! :)

[exitseven]

I would never make a comment like that in a work environment That is asking for trouble.

[CubaPirate]

Depends on the kind of relationship you have with the colleague in question

[wittymilf]

If it’s a person you have a professional work relationship with 🤷‍♀️. Like I’m a relationship manager so my hub is to build relationships with independent businesses so they get on board with the facility my company offers.

[CubaPirate]

In my case then I'd hope she'd just take it as a compliment in the way it was intended. Nothing more Nothing less

[Lionman95]

For me it´s generally just a try to make her feel better in the moment. Especially if I know that she´s taken or married I just try to raise her self-confidence.

[ericclayton]

That could result in a trip to the HR department or worse, especially if you have rank over her. Just keep it professional.

[Anonymous]

I don’t even look at women in the workplace. I just keep my head down. I mean I assume there are women there but I wouldn’t know.

[FunkyMonkee]

A smile and a thank you. If she's interested in me, a chance to go out with her.

[Truthatanycost]

I don't do compliments and only simps tell women that cliche sort of crap.

[slatyb]

I wouldn't do that. It's inappropriate to comment on someone's physical appearance in the workplace. I might compliment their style.

[BJP21]

Aknowlogement and a smile to fallowed by coffee in 10 min memo on the desk.

[KrakenAttackin]

He is a damn fool for making a comment like this.

[Anonymous]

One, I just like comimenting a beautiful woman

[Opinion Owner]

complimenting*

[wittymilf]

Oh I didn’t even notice the typo!

[Opinion Owner]

was pretty ugly typo tbh but was at work at that time

[Nik1hil]

Honestly our minds wants to build an empire with her...

On the other hand our Dick wants to fuck her on the office desk!..

[dragoblack]

Seeing her smile and to see if she's interested in me... also its usually just me being honest

[Chazmatazz269]

I’d never do such a thing. Only an idiot would.

[wittymilf]

Fuck yeah I’d never go tell the CEO he’s gorgeous, so derogatory

[Gooddaze]

Agreed. That to me would seem to make things awkward.

[krin_m]

I do not say that unless there is a very clear mutual attraction.

[Date_a_Snob]

Just to be friendly... Everyone appreciates a nice compliment.

[Pot8o]

Would you rather be told you look ugly?

[Twalli]

I just like giving compliments

[Xtendable]

I can see that would be awkward

[coverboyoutlawbrady]

Keeping my job.

[Iamcoming]

Maybe for flirting maybe for only a complimant

[jimmy2]

Beauty is in the eyes of the beholder.

[Strayedsoul2003]

Thank you.