Is wanting to pay a person to cuddle strange?

[Mariexx36]

This guy I was seeing (hooking up with) told me he didn't have time to see me anymore and that he's busy working. So I Cashapped him a small amount as a test to see if I was actually sending the money to the right person. And I told him I would send him more. He and he asked me what the money was for I haven't replied yet. I want to have an arrangement with him where I pay him once a month to cuddle. Do you think this is strange? There is actually something called a professional cuddler that people pay for.

Yeah I know I could have sex with any guy and I do talk to other men. But I don't want it with them I feel comfortable with this guy. If you're just going to be negative and call me names don't bother commenting.

[EaterPeter]

Yes it is strange. Some acts of service are territorial. You are already in some kind of relationship with this guy. By paying him to cuddle with you are likely to enable him. Please don't. I felt same with my ex. I could not get enough of her. When she would not give me that touch satisfaction reduce or completely deny rather push me away. I went to strip club at numbered ocassions. I asked stripper to give me hug for money which she did but my body and brain wanted it to be my ex amd ex only no one else.

[EaterPeter]

And * she was not my ex back then

[EaterPeter]

My heart was crying her name.

[EaterPeter]

I let stripper go.

[EaterPeter]

Paid her of course

[caring__1]

People have all kinds of arrangements. As long as both are comfortable with the arrangement, with no ulterior motives, it can work. I'm sure he felt awkward with receiving money from you without you first discussing it with him. Make sure your communication is clear, open and honest, and then choose what works well for all involved.

[Mariexx36]

So I should say "I would like to pay you to cuddle with me"

[caring__1]

Just say, "I know we've just had an arrangement and not a relationship, but I have found value in cuddling with you. I know I could find someone else to cuddle with, but how the two of us fit together has felt unique and special to me. I realize you're busy and don't have the time you used to have, but I'd miss the cuddling if that's no longer available. I'd even be willing to pay you for your time, if that would make it worth your while. Sorry for getting ahead of myself and sending the money without explanation. I wasn't thinking about anything other than wondering if this app works. Let me know your thoughts and feelings. I'll respect whatever they are. Thank you for your past sharing. Relaxing with you has helped me be more functional in all areas of my life."

[Mariexx36]

That wouldn't be too much?

[caring__1]

Without knowing him, I can't say what is enough or too much, but it's always better to be clear, open and honest rather than expecting others to read our mind. You're likely to lose more if you choose to be vague and general rather than clear and concise.

[UnknownSwede]

I have seen some video on YouTube, if it was buzzfeed or something, about professional cuddlers. Strictly cuddles for comfort and nothing sexual. So I guess it's not too strange to do it, even if it's unusual.

I'm a person that loves to cuddle so I guess that would be a good job or side buisness to have someone pay me to cuddle.
They say that if you love what you do, you're not working a day in your life.

[virginloserguy]

https://www.youtube.com/embed/i0vpA31FDkU

[BarryLiverstone]

Yes I’d feel strange given that scenario.

[Mariexx36]

Why is it strange? You've never heard of a professional cuddler?

[BarryLiverstone]

Yes I’ve heard of it but I’m not a pro cuddler. So if someone paid me I’d feel strange

[Mariexx36]

You don't have to be a pro cuddler.

[BarryLiverstone]

Nope, already have a job

[Mariexx36]

Stop trolling thanks.

[BarryLiverstone]

You are welcome. I’ve been honest, not trolling. You asked if it’s strange and I believe it is

[In_Trance]

Yeah