Body confidence exists! Just because I dress in a certain way, does not mean I want to be seen as an object by men. Agree?

[Anonymous]

[Anonymous]

I think learning to love yourself and life, is the key to not being objectfied, which happens away from posting super hot photos. 'You can't see beauty, it lies within. It has nothing to do with appearance. Post photos of your humility, kindness and compassion, that is beauty within and the key to a happy life for you and your future family.'

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[BUTIMRIGHTTHO]

You won becuz of a link...

[NathanDavis]

@BUTIMRIGHTTHO I read the whole link entirely becuz of OCD fixations...

once started, had to go all of it

[Opinion Owner]

What link? Its just the truth! Think it over. Life's about a person's beauty within...

[BUTIMRIGHTTHO]

Agree.
You want to feel empowered.
However... There is a better way to do it.

At the moment you are using conditional or physical things
to achieve a feeling of confidence.

However, you don't need external things to achieve this.
You don't need to look amazing to finally give yourself permission to feel confident.

This is how you feel confident without any external stuff:

You choose to accept things that you want to be true.
Emotionally accept the idea that you are the person you wish you were.
If you let yourself get emotionally involved you will feel it.
A great prompt to do this is: What if

Anyway if you do it often and frequently enough
and let that feeling of confidence be expressed through your actions,
it will become habitual and you will habitually feel confident.

I'm talking about Doctor Maxwells discovery of the self-image as we know it today.
You have 2 images, an outer one and an inner one.
You don't need to look amazing to finally give yourself permission to feel confident.

Why is this a better way:
1) You control it entirely
2) You can dress bad or good and feel confident
3) It's unconditional and not based on outer things.

[FreyaRed]

Beauty is always connected with sexual attractiveness but another way around it's not always the case. Ask your self. Do you really need to show your assets to everyone or do you have to attract yourself to get your "body confidence"?

If you want appear on IG, it's better to appear classy than cheap. I assure you, wearing a hat and a dress from 1930 while drinking coffee in garden brings a lot of thumbs up if you're an elegant person.

[AmandaYVR]

That dress is saying I am sexual, I am a sexual being, look at me. You feel good about yourself because of, or in the way of, your sexuality. You love attention. There's no denying you know that you become an object when you dress like this.

There are many ways to dress. Some of them also express feeling good about oneself. These women all look gorgeous but are not showing as much as you are.

[curlyfirecracker]

Agreed. Nicely put.

[Staximus]

Why does the woman in the bottom picture look like her pants were used to walk through cow shit before she put them on?

[AmandaYVR]

@Staximus That's a good question. I didn't look at it closely, and thought her cuffs were turned up, but you're right that's definitely grey. But it's Gwen Stefani so she's fashion forward for sure.

[NathanDavis]

maybe she's actually a Country girl now... with that Country guy

fashionista still though...

[AmandaYVR]

@NathanDavis She's maybe half-half, but did not lose her roots.
But I do like them together, because they prove that political differences, country mouse vs. city mouse, and all that, can be put aside for love and harmony!

[SamIam96]

It's a beautiful, glamorous dress.

There are guys who objectify women regardless of what they wear. They're scum. Ignore them.

Context is important. You probably won't have problems wearing a dress like this to a night club. If you wear it grocery shopping, you'll attract a lot of attention. I choose extreme examples. I'm sure you understand, things usually aren't as obvious. The important thing is to dress appropriately for the situation.

Anyway, you look great. Have fun!

[Summeroflove]

This depends on the woman. I don’t know your mind.


Some women definitely do enjoy getting that kind of attention. Many enjoy looking beautiful and enjoy their beauty being admired. But when it’s perverts and people being sexual they don’t.



Besides. Even women who do this for sexual reasons. Forget. Many times the kind of men who will give them that kind of attention aren’t the kind of men they want giving them that attention.


Decent men stay away form women who are like this. So they chase the good men off and wonder why it’s all creeps and perverts and old pervs and pot smoking basement dwelling weirdos who give them attention.

[Anonymous]

Call it what ever you want...

But If you are showing off your body (to a bunch of strangers, mind you), by definition you are objectifying yourself. We cannot see your personality through a photo, all we see is your body on display, making some sexy poses. It's one thing to show off a pretty dress, and how it complements your body. But you are not showing off your dress, you are showing off your ass and body proportions. Nice job...

You can be seen as an object by both men AND women.

[Heolurt]

Sure but your pictures say otherwise, it's like when if "models" or of girls say the same thing you just said and the only response to them is then stop projecting yourself as an object. If you post pictures that project the image of being an object guys are going to see you as one. At the end of the day I don't look at anyone less than a human because I wish people would do the same for me but I can't force it and I'm not going to make a post asking people to stop looking at me like I'm some kind of creature or monster all I can do is try to ignore people and their looks, which is the same approach anyone should take when being objectified in any way.

[RavVid]

Sorry, you ain't going to stop us seeing you as a sex object. Especially in that dress :)

Right above the male brain stem is circuitry that goes ooh breasts, ooh ass, ooh legs, ooh great hair. I'll terminate the long list there.

We can be quite sure a 150 million years ago male lizards were thinking ooh I like her tail.

Congrats on you body confidence and your superb dress sense.

[joechillzzz]

tons of simps and white knights here - anyways,

No one should be objectified, as a nudist i think there's nothing inherently sexual about the human form.

However, you would be an idiot to wear modern sexualized clothes in this particular era and expect people to treat you exactly the same.

It's wrong that they won't, but that doesn't give you an excuse to act stupid.

TLDR:

You shouldn't need to openly carry a gun in Detroit to avoid getting robbed, but if you get robbed you have yourself to blame.

[Mega_illuminati]

Dress however you want. You dont owe anyone anything. People who objectify, they are gonna objectify no matter how you dress.

They can't control what you wear. And you can't control what they say. So it is best to just focus on yourself and people you care about.

[AngelOfLight258]

Yes girl, YES!!!

[joechillzzz]

nice muscles

[loveslongnails]

If you have a great body and want to show it off, go ahead and do it. How others perceive you based on your dress is their thing, unless you're dressed so tastelessly that there's only one way TO perceive you. The real perception happens when you open your mouth and everyone finds out how intelligent, classy, friendly and genuine you are - or aren't. That part has nothing to do with your body confidence.

[devilish-cutie]

if anyone sees any person as an object for whatever reason is in the wrong cause they are a person not an object

[MementoMori_]

Doesn't matter how you "want" to be seen. What matters is the reality of how people see you.

Reality deniers are never happy because they expect the rest of the world to conform to their needs and life doesn't work like that.

[Apple1996]

1000% agreed! The way someone dresses does not give others the permission to judge them. You are not a object no matter what you wear.

[oliver4love]

You are absolutely right because clothes or wearing style of clothes don't describe any body character.. Respecting every girl is a sign of true gentleman no matter what she wears..

[Jdjfjcjj]

I'm not a woman but I would assume they either dress provocatively to compete with other women, or they do it to be seen by the men they want to be seen by.

[AviatorTom]

You're kidding yourself. You dress like in the pictures, you are asking guys to objectify you.

[Asker]

I want them to treat me like they'd treat any woman

[AviatorTom]

Then dress like "any woman"

[JayParris]

You don't want to be seen as an object, yet all your pictures focus on your ass. So I'll follow that lead in both regards and say you're not an object... you're an ass 😄😄

[TroyDT2]

You can want what you want, but that will not keep guys who are so inclined from seeing you as an object because that is their nature. You can wear a clingy dress or a potato sack, they will still see you that way.

[Grond21]

Two things can be true at once

No one should ever be treated as less than human, no matter how they dress.

How we dress send signals about how we want to be treated, even if we don't like the signals.

[DJB72]

How you dress and how you feel clearly not aligned.

You want guys to look you in the eye, don't flash everything else.

[maximumpower]

If you don't want to be seen as an "object," then don't make yourself one.

Look up egomaniac and narcissist in the dictionary. Chances are your picture appears next to the definition.

[Asker]

You are a rude piece of shit

[maximumpower]

But at least I'm being honest - something you are obviously not.
Be aware that beauty most certainly fades, while snotty egomaniacal bitch goes on forever.
Whine and cry about it now, but check back on this in about 20 years...