Guys, Why do men pretend not to like sluts but that's what most of you like on social media and in person?

[Anonymous]

It's literally starting to affect me to the point where I might as well dress and act like one in order to get married and have kids because that's what men go after. Even if those women are the most unattractive.

Why is this?

[MrOracle]

You are confused, because you apparently don't understand a major distinction between men and women.

Generally, for most women, sex and love almost can't be separated - women tend to only want sex within a relationship, with someone they love. Thus, when a woman is attracted to a man, she's attracted to him both romantically and sexually.

MEN ARE DIFFERENT. Most men can separate sex from love, and even for those who want love and a relationship, we also want sex, and if we can't find love and a relationship, we STILL want sex, so we're happy to have sex with someone we don't have feelings for.

This means a couple of things that it's important that you understand: if a woman is physically attractive, and not absolutely batshit crazy all the time, then she's going to be given lots of male attention, because she's being pursued FOR SEX. Not for love, not for a relationship, but simply for sex. Millions of women who almost no guy would ever take seriously as a relationship partner are still getting tons of male attention - but it's ONLY for sex.

A guy who is single, but is looking for a relationship (and many guys are NOT looking for a relationship - especially the really attractive guys who can easily get women), is normally ALSO looking for sex, but he's HOPING to find a quality relationship partner and to have sex with her. As he's meeting girls and getting to know them a bit, the majority of them he quickly realizes are not "relationship material", and so he quickly and permanently puts her in the "only good for casual sex" category (you could also call this the "slut" category). Guys understand what sluts are for: casual sex (only!), and they're happy to use them for that, but don't get confused and assume that because tons of guys will line up to try to bang a hot slut, that any of those guys would take her seriously as a relationship partner - very few will, and she's probably not going to want any of the ones who do.

If a girl decides to be a slut, it's not like guys will completely ignore her after that. She may in fact get even MORE attention than before - but it's now only ever going to be sexual attention, never relationship attention. And there is no "reset button" - once a woman decides to be a slut, she is forever a slut, and she has permanently devalued herself in the eyes of "relationship men." They won't tell her that, but it's true. And, sure, men who are NOT relationship men will perhaps even defend her, but that's because they never intended a relationship anyway, and defending her may get them laid, and casual sex was their only goal in the first place.

Finally, you are unlikely to find "relationship men" online, and certainly not often on social media or dating apps. "Relationship men" are also rarely going to be the best looking guys, or the richest guys, or any of that. Those attractive, wealthy, popular guys are too busy running through hot girls, keeping them around for just a night, or maybe a couple of weeks or even a couple of months, before moving on to the next one. They aren't "relationship guys." If you want a relationship, you need to go out into the world, and meet relationship guys LOCALLY, IN PERSON.

[FilmGuy93]

Sluts are attention-grabbing.

I went on a fantastic date with a woman over the weekend, and I've had to kick myself a few times because my brain started on it's usual "she's great but she seems boring" routine that it does everytime I find a sane person to want to have sex with.

For some reason, my mind would rather be around a drama queen with big fake tits and a storied career as a stripper because it's exciting, than realize that a fantastic woman isn't going to give me substance abuse problems.

[HighValue]

The guys that like sluts are NOT the same guys that are good guys that want an exclusive LTR and kids.

The problem is that the guys that DO like sluts and are players are OFTEN the kinds of guys girls go with because they are more likely to approach her in any situation because they are used to it since they have been with many people casually. Plus since they are interested in casual and are not emotionally involved, they approach many people.

My advice is don't have casual sex or dress slutty, but you also need to NOT go with any guy that has a past of casual sex. Hold them to the same standard you have for yourself. Yes, it will take longer to find an actual good person, but it will be better in the long run. It is better to have nobody than it is to be with the wrong person.

[misogynistic_pig]

That's called a virgin whore complex.

https://en.m.wikipedia.org/wiki/Madonna%E2%80%93whore_complex

Men do like whores, but only for casual sex. For marriage we prefer the Virgin.

[Makeushiver]

I'm not even sure what the term slut is supposed to mean. If its an indication that a woman enjoys sex than its pretty stupid. I'd much prefer aa woman who loved to cum as much as humanly [possible. If she doesn't enjoy sex either she's going out with wronhg guys or she has an organic problem which could be eoither or both psychological and pohysiological. If you do decide to live up to whatever definition is arbitralily a[plied I'd love to meet you. Probvaly would love that one way or the other

[MCheetah]

Some men like them for sex, but wouldn't marry them. Just like some people like looking at Kim Kardashian's ass but couldn't live with her for a day. Men can compartmentalize sex and love a lot better than women can.

[Anonymous]

A lot of us men like sluts if we’re just looking to blow a load or two. But when it comes to taking her home to meet your family, that’s a no go. There’s a lot of sluts I wouldn’t mind putting a joke through but I’d never marry them.

[Danny_dan92]

For the same reason why there are women who love sex, and would fuck a guy on the first date.




All the while they say “I’m not easy” or “not trynna have sex on the first night”

[Guy13]

Wifey in public and slut in bedroom. Social media is like looking on another’s private space.

[lucas262]

The old Saint in the streets and a slut in the sheets idea.

We all want her to be our slut. Not everyones slut.

[EaterPeter]

We have a good mind and a dirty mind. There is a woman we want to marry and have kids with. And there are women we just want to bang. Now would you mix business with pleasure?

[Rockstarrrrr]

You just found out that most people like easy stuff? Lol

[bamesjond0069]

Men fuck sluts and marry good girls.

Men want to fuck a lot and marry once.

Should be obvious what to do.

[msc545]

Mostly because we don't have to work hard to have sex with sluts, and they tend to be really wild in bed.

[BJP21]

The only alluring thing with "Sluts" is their sense of sexual adventure.

[Anonymous]

Some men like to fuck sluts, but they DON'T want to marry them.

[Anonymous]

I don't i don't know where you got that crazy and whacked out idea from but i sure as hell don't.

[spartan55]

Sounds like you finished second place to the slut.

[MrTaboo]

We only like them as sex toys. Sluts always cheat

[Twalli]

We don't want sluts as life partners.

[Anonymous]

Go ahead! Good luck with that. 🤣🤣🤣

[Anonymous]

I never pretend to not like slutty girls.