Women love jerks, but do men love bitches?

[Anonymous]

I hear some guys saying that women love jerks and bad boys, but would you say the reverse, that men love bitches and bad girls? I am starting to think this is the case. Maybe not for ALL 100% of men, but definitely a lot. In my younger years, I used to be what you'd call a nice sweet girl, that's how I was described by a lot of people. I did not want to offend, hurt anyone's feelings and I wanted to keep everyone happy including a guy I was seeing or interested in. They'd end up losing interest and going for another, probably more exciting, girl. Now, my outlook has changed and as a result I am less eager to impress. If a guy does something I don't like, I call him on it. I won't always return phone calls. Sometimes I have an attitude and I'm not afraid to show it. You'd THINK that this would be a turn off, but it actually seems to make guys want me more. It's funny because a lot of times, I truly do not give a crap about a particular guy's feelings but it makes them try harder to impress me. Why is this? Why do we love those who disregard us?

[MrOracle]

While *some* women DO specifically love "bad boys", many others *seem* to love them, but really, they just want a man who isn't afraid to be a MAN and stand up for himself and not apologize for being a man and all the things that come with that. Basically, they want CONFIDENCE, because that makes them feel attracted and secure.

And men like confidence in women for the same reason. The reason men are more attracted to you now is not that you're a bitch, it's that you are no longer a DOORMAT. You stand up for yourself and demand respect, and so you GET respect, whereas when you were willing to put up with ANYTHING to try to keep people happy, you sacrificed your self-respect, and people picked up on that. It showed a lack of confidence, and that insecurity is NOT attractive in men or women. Unless you are a predator, and then, you're screwed, because they tend to seek out women without confidence, because they are much easier to manipulate and intimidate.

[nicenthic]

We men have vastly different standards when it comes to hooking up with the girl vs emotionally connecting with (i.e. seriously dating) the girl. I stress on the "seriously" part because you should know that men can actually fake entire relationships and we frequently do. Women think that their man just cheated on them because he was too weak to say no to a hot girl but in actuality, he never intended to stay true to her since he was not actually dating her (even if he might have told her that he was).

To answer your question, guys do not like to date women with bad personalities or rude and obnoxious women (i.e. bitches), but we will not turn down a hot piece of ass just because it happens to be connected to a bitch. Most intelligent, successful, self-respecting guys will not even consider dating a bitch and will go for good girls who are worthy of their love and respect every time. Hope this answers your question.

[OfAfricandescent]

In my experience some guys seem to think that someone with attitude must have something worth the trouble of getting past the attitude. I just try to forget women like that. If I want someone to have a go at me, I know I other places I can find that. I don't need it from some women who doesn't know me.

[Scoopie]

As soon as I notice a girl is acting bitchy, showing attitude, being bold and not giving a crap it's just a byebye. I don't need a girl who's like that, I don't want to play this game of impressing her. It makes no sense, it's a waste of time and I believe any relationships based on it will never work on the long term. I acknowledge the fact that some guys may be into you, but trust me it's only for a short while.

[EZlats]

not at all. If the guy knows upfront that the girl is a bitch, unless he's a real submissive and likes that sort of thing, it won't continue. Now it might come out later on in the relationship that she is a bitch but he already likes her so he puts up with it.

But no, there are very very few guys, in my opinion, who "love" bitchy girls

[Konnour]

Stockholm syndrome.

Lack of abuse is mistaken as a sign of kindness - when abuse has been mistaken as a norm.

It's the ultimate doormathood - normal people treat others the same way they treat them.

Not just women can suffer from it, some guys also can go through the same and go for "bitches" - especially those guys who lack backbone and self-esteem.

[Anonymous]

not me, I hate girls with bad attitudes, I want to be loved and wanted by her .not abused and hated , when a guy says he wants a "bad girl" we refer it as a girl that has passion and a high sex drive for the guy, not bad attitudes, and that's probably why he went for a so called "more exciting girl" because maybe she shows him her love

[Lonergirl0506]

True. But the good nice sweet girls are the one who receive love in the end

[Anonymous]

If she's hot