Guys - what does it mean when a man DM's you for months and facetimes you in Instagram, but doesn't add you on instagram?

[Anonymous]

[TroyDT2]

He doesn't want his girlfriend or wife to find out.

[whiskeyontherocks]

Lol beat me to it

[Asker]

thank you! I kinda figured this, even though he follows a bunch of other girls...

[Kareem_z21]

He doesn't want you to be seen in his following list

[Asker]

But why? Is he embarrassed to follow me or something?

[Kareem_z21]

I don't know. Maybe he doesn't want his friends to know about you. Or he has a girlfriend and doesn't want to get caught. Did you ask him already?

[Asker]

thank you Kareem, I do appreciate you responding - I feel so hurt now - I actually didn't ask him - I don't know if I should or if I should let it go? I feel like if I do he may stop talking to me

[Kareem_z21]

Is he just a friend or even best friend? Or you have feelings for him?

[Asker]

I think we both have a crush on each other, it's funny he's liked my IG posts but he hasn't added me on his IG and it's been 3 months we've kept in touch - I'm older though

[Kareem_z21]

So why not asking him? And are you following his account?

[Asker]

I am not following him. I just think it would scare him if I asked him why he isn't following me... I don't know if that will come off weird...

[Kareem_z21]

Maybe you can try to follow him and see if he follows you back

[Asker]

thanks Kareem :-)

[Kareem_z21]

You are welcome 🙂

[Luckycharms12]

Why is following you on Instagram so important

[Asker]

it's not that important, which is why Im still talking to him after 3 months, but I think it's weird... all the guys that talk to me and face time me follow me on IG and I just want to know why he follows a bunch of other girls, but he doesn't follow me - it makes me think he doesn't like me like he says he does... I just feel played

[Luckycharms12]

See this is a problem nowadays people see your social media and make a judgement.