Why would a guy say “it is a mess” when he has started dating this woman in the past month but he flirts with me?

[Anonymous]

He teases me, stares at me when I’m not looking, watches me talking to other men, and the other night when we were drinking he took my hand and began stroking it tenderly with his thumb ie the thumb thing. He likes this other girl but he may like me too but I’m not sure.

[Guy13]

He is assuring himself that he has a back-up girl to fall back on. He probably will eventually attempt to be physical to secure his other option. It is best to walk away from this guy and forget. If you do date, he will do the exact same to you.

[In_Trance]

he said it wrong; he's trying to say the "he's a mess"
walk away

[spartan55]

So you like a cheater, great choice!

[Anonymous]

She's very toxic?

[Asker]

What do you mean?

[Opinion Owner]

She's got emotional issues and he's looking for other options.