What do I do I tried to get over him and I can’t?

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So I talk to this guy at work and I hurt him. I didn’t mean to hurt him or anything and I have apologized and everything. And told him I wanna be with him and he told me I told you I wanna be your friend and you told me no. I have tried to befriend him on Snapchat, and tried to be his friend and he keeps putting me on ignore even when I didn’t say anything or do anything or even watch his story and he watched mine. At work. He treats me like a brick wall like I’m not there I mean, I’ve kind of done the same thing, but I’m scared to talk to him because if I do and he doesn’t say anything, I might break down and cry in front of everyone and I feel like if he was trying to be my friend and now I’m trying why would he delete me after watching my story after an hour later he didn’t delete me right away he waited an hour and decided to delete me. Like I thought about trying to talk to him but I’m scared he’s not gonna say anything and he just put me on ignore on Snapchat and I’ve tried to move on and I literally can’t and I don’t know what to do I know I hurt him, but I don’t know how I’m gonna make it up to him if he won’t even acknowledge exist when I’m standing literally right there next to him

caring__1 · Accepted Answer

There are consequences to impulsive decisions. It appears you were thinking primarily about yourself when you rejected his friend request, much like many people today, and didn't consider how your action might impact him. He probably took it as you making a negative statement about his worth as a person. All he was asking for was friendship, and you chose to pass on the opportunity. Now, you seem to want more than friendship and feel he should be open to it.

Some people look at patterns when they choose to be with someone. They figure your pattern in the past predicts your pattern in the future. He may have seen your original action as selfish and inconsiderate and assume you will continue to be selfish and inconsiderate. Not wanting to face the rejection again, it appears like he's choosing to pass on the opportunity. If you are willing to be patient and not make it all about you, show him a consistent new pattern of consideration for others. Consistent new patterns can reduce the impact of previous one-time events. After all, you're not about to reject friendship with anyone who previously wore a diaper.

aaron210419 · Accepted Answer

Sorry but he's standing his ground after you hurt him in the first place. He's respecting what you told him in the first place, there's no "you did your part by apologizing", show him respect by accepting his decision. If he continued to chase you after you hurt him he would be disrespecting himself and his values, men have feelings also and most guys will lose attraction to girls that hurt them. Look, you lose some and you win some. Try to learn something useful from this experience so it doesn't happen in the future. It sucks but these are the things that build character and help us grow into better people. I hope things get easier for you but also realize how he must have felt during this time also.

melanieeeB · Accepted Answer

I wouldn't try to make up anything, you already apologized and he isn't accepting. You tried, he blocked and now it's over. I would just ignore him and let it go. Shit happens.