Could think guy be liking me?

[Anonymous]

I know this might sound silly but I'm really trying to figure out if this guy likes me or not so I can move on. So I work with him and one day we locked eyes with one another for a good few seconds. And on two different days he found food on the floor one was a cookie that he tried to give to me and the other was a life saver that he said he found and ask me if I wanted it in a playful way, is that his way of teasing me? I told him what's up with u offering me food off the floor I'm convinced u hate me. On another day I didn't speak to him at all because I was to busy working so at the end of the shift he comes with his t-shirt in his hand saying that it has a stain on it and he just noticed it when he placed it down on the counter I could barely see anything I saw something but it wasn't bad. So I handed him the cleaning solution for it and he preceded to talk to me about a soccer game. There were other days when he would wonder in my area and say he's just looking. I don't know what to think. Please help if anyone has experience this or know someone who has please I would like to get a clear understanding of what's going on. Thank you for answer in advance.

[SteveSmith1985]

Well I'm usually pretty good at reading these situations. This one is less clear than most. Certainly the things you say could very well be signs of interest (that's how I'd be inclined to interpret them). But this isn't a super-clear-cut case of "well obviously this guy is crazy about you".

But generally this sounds promising. Have you sent him little signs and signals BACK that you're interested in HIM? Because if not, then he is unlikely to give you any more clear (less subtle) signs that he's interested (since, he doesn't feel like his previous more minor attempts at flirting or showing interest... are feelings you return).

Now you might very well already be showing little signs of interest (even if you're unaware of it). But if this is someone you're interested in... you need to send clear signs BACK.

For example, you should make a point to 'put yourself in close proximity to him' when you don't need to in the exact same way he's doing to you (by coming to see you for stupid pointless reasons. Making excuses to be near him).

A super easy one (and one he'll NOTICE) is non-sexual touching. That can be ANYTHING. Anything from letting the side of your leg rest against the side of his leg as you're sitting beside each other on the break-room couch (or wherever). Or letting your hand linger on top of his hand for... a half-second 'too long' when he's handing you something. Honestly, it can be absolutely anything. Any touching that is out-of-your usual. (a hand on his arm while you're telling him something for another easy example. but ANYTHING works).

SO, I do think this guy probably likes you. I'm not quite able to say "he for sure likes you, nothing to worry about, go for it" (YET)

What you need to do, is to send him some of those little signals of interest back. If he IS indeed interested, then that's you giving him the 'go-ahead' to show some even more clear and obvious signs of interest; which you return; which then gives him the 'go-ahead' to show EVEN MORE obvious signs of his interest... and so on. That's the unspoken dance of 'flirting'. And if you flirt back... I predict you'll flirt yourself right into this turning into "something". And if I'm wrong, no problem. You'll have risked nothing. You aren't SAYING you like him. You're just... flirting back a little and seeing what comes of it.

But I see absolutely no reason you should "move on". You haven't really given this a chance yet! 🙂

[Asker]

My thing is why would a guy gaze at you for so long if he has no interest in you. We were alone in a hallway he was about 10 feet away he was walking in my direction, but stop at one of the doors to knock on it while still maintaining his eyes on me. Couldn't he have averted his gaze somewhere else. I know I wouldn't be looking directly into someone eyes if I wasn't interested cuz I wouldn't want no one to get the wrong idea.

[SteveSmith1985]

hahah, yes. That sounds like you're certainly reading that sign correctly. You're absolutely right about that. I just didn't want to go telling some girl that the guy she's into definitely likes her without being more sure MYSELF of it. I strongly suspected that's the case though. Plus, YOU know so much more than I do about the nuances of your interactions (a perfect example is what you just mentioned... that's information I was unaware of).

So if you suspect he likes you, I'm certainly inclined to agree with that. You won't get any pushback on that from me (I see... nothing to suggest he DOESN'T like you).

SO, alright, lets take it as a 'given' that he does indeed like you. So... now what? What's the plan? (I think the plan stays the same. Do some flirting back that'll help move things along)

[Asker]

Thank u so much for your advice. I wasn't for sure, but now that you also agree I can finally believe it.

[Asker]

Don't mean to bother you I just have one more thing to ask. What do it mean if a guy is talking and he can't seem to get his words out then he starts to chuckle/ laugh. He's a Christian and sometimes we pray together the first time he prayed for with me it was fine. The second time we prayed together he was trying to find the words to speak like he was tripping over his words but it wasn't coming out it was almost like he was distracted or couldn't think this was after the whole stare down.

[SteveSmith1985]

You aren't bothering me at all! Well... sometimes when a guy likes a girl, it can make him nervous. All of a sudden, he starts wanting to 'perform at his best' in front of her. It doesn't matter if it's 'performing' a prayer out-loud, or '' just in the context of 'performance of life.' (as in... any mundane stuff. He wants to perform water-cooler-office-talk well in front of that girl. anything.)

So because... well... I guess... let's say, "God has a strange sense of humor": Because a guy is all of a sudden concerned with 'appearing in a self-flattering light' in front of this girl... he is apt to succeed in doing the exact opposite.

He wants nothing but to deliver... the... hmmmm... :the best, craziest, most blow-your-freakin-Christian-socks-off, dopest prayer you've ever heard. He wants to make you swoon with the power of HIS prayer. He may very well have even practiced what he was going to say, just to help make sure he 'appears in the most self-flattering light' when it's Game Time, and you two are praying for real. (😀 I am so impressed with myself for that... pun! Wait, is that a pun? (praying... playing... ) Ok, back to you...))

So when he FINALLY gets to show you what he's made of... wanting nothing more than to do well... the guy chokes. THAT"S where the term "to choke" comes from! When it's used to mean 'folded under pressure'. (I definitely just made that up. Don't quote me on that.)

But... I also feel like... nothing I've said here is anything you didn't already know...😋

[Asker]

Do you know anything about blushing like what does it mean when a guy blushes I'm still trying to figure out if he really likes me before I make my move I don't want to make a fool of myself 🤣. So one day I came down to take some things to the dumpster. I didn't know he was coming to work that day so when I walked past his door and saw him I was surprised and I said What are you doing here!.. then he said why you say it like that as he was eating his pizza. And immediately in the most sweetest and child like way I started saying I'm sorry more than once and he started smiling and I noticed his cheeks turn super red. Does someone cheeks turn red because they're smiling or is there an emotion behind it if so what emotion can cause it.

I've noticed to when ever he's around me he's constantly clicking his pen super fast or when we're riding in the elevator he's jiggly his keys in his pocket while talking to me or tapping his fingers against something. Sometimes when he's in my area he'll see me and sigh a little almost like a exhale I feel like he wants me to talk to him and I do when he does that. He does it sometimes don't know really know why.

[Asker]

Hey I have a lot more info for u about this guy. Can you tell me what do you think and if this means that he really does like me. Do you know anything about blushing like what does it mean when a guy blushes I'm still trying to figure out if he really likes me before I make my move I don't want to make a fool of myself. So one day I came down to take some things to the dumpster. I didn't know he was coming to work that day so when I walked past his door and saw him I was surprised and I said What are you doing here!.. then he said why you say it like that as he was eating his pizza. And immediately in the most sweetest and child like way I started saying I'm sorry more and he started smiling and I noticed his cheeks turn super red. Does someone cheeks turn red because they're smiling or is there an emotion behind it if so what emotion can cause it.

I've noticed to when ever he's around me he's constantly clicking his pen super fast or when we're riding in the elevator he's jiggly his keys in his pocket while talking to me or tapping his fingers against something. Sometimes when he's in my area he'll see me and sigh a little almost like a exhale I feel like he wants me to talk to him and I do when he does that. One day I was very upset I didn't speak to anyone I just kept quiet I could see him studying my face I just act like I didn't see him looking. I even left work early that day. The next day I came to work and a close friend of mine came to me and said he came to her and ask what was wrong with me and if anyone said or did something to me she said he seemed worried. After you give me your final opinion I will make a decision to either approach him or leave it as it is.