Is there a chance this guy likes me?

[Anonymous]

So I met this man in college about the first week I was put in a group with him and some other girl and he had asked for my insta when he got moved to a diff group he mouth and point that he wanted to come back. His friend who is a female but has a boyfriend also asked for my insta. He sees me around campus from time to time and always smiles and waves. On insta I don’t go but my actual name but a nick name that isn’t a common nick name for my name at all it’s actually a nickname for the translated version. And one day I was walking down the stairs and he was walking with some girl, yelled hi and that nick name that was my insta name and then I waited for him come downstairs and I asked him if he just called me that name and he said yeah that he likes it and thinks it’s cute. Whenever class is over he says bye to his two guy friends in the class and then says by to me. We never talk on insta except once I messaged him asking him a question on the final that was approaching, he wasn’t online for 2 hours before I messaged him I checked cuz it was late and I didn’t think he’d answer but he answered within 2 seconds, but he explained what was gonna be on the final and said “dw I think you got this :)” I posted a picture of myself on my story recently and he liked it and he always views my story. I don’t like romanizing anything unless I’m sure they are attracted to me, my friends noticed him always saying him and I brought up the other things since they assume he likes me. If he does should I try befriending him? I don’t know how to start a conversation and the semester is over.

[Oliverlogan263]

Hmm sounds like this guy might be into you for sure. Waving and saying hi everytime is a good sign. And noticing your insta name is so specific, he def checked you out. Asking questions about the exam late at night and responding that fast? He was waiting for your message haha. Plus liking your pic and always viewing your story, that's pretty obvious he's watching you. I'd say you should try befriending him, maybe try sliding into his DMs with like a funny meme or something casual. Or ask if he has the notes from class to study over break. Just be chill about it, don't come on too strong. But it seems like he's been throwing you hints so I'd say go for it, what's the worst that could happen, right?

[Asker]

Thank youu, I’ve wanted to figure out what exactly to say because when I texted him about the exam I sorta expected him to carry on the conversation maybe change the subject but he didn’t so I don’t really know how to like spark it again

[Oliverlogan263]

No problem! I get why you were hesitant to message him again without a clear opener. Here's what I would suggest saying to spark things up:

"Hey, it was cool getting to know you in our class this semester. The final actually went well thanks to your help studying haha. Anyway, I was thinking of checking out that new coffee shop downtown this weekend. You seem like a cool guy - want to join me to hang out?"

Keep it casual and lighthearted. Mention the class again so it's a natural follow up to your previous contact. Throw in a little compliment too. And asking him to just hang out is lower pressure than directly calling it a date.

If he says yes, great! If not, at least you put yourself out there. And asking in person is even bolder, so maybe catch him after another class if you see him around before break. What do you think - does that opener sound good? You got this! Let me know how it goes.

[Asker]

A little update I kinda stopped chasing him he did tell me I was pretty at some point and I said thank you he didn’t rlly carry on the conversation after even when I tried he only rlly talks to me after class not even in person through text like he saw me speak to the professor and he asked if I was okay. I think he may be just be too shy to an extent.

[Oliverlogan263]

Ahh I gotcha, sounds like he might be a bit shy then for sure. A lot of guys have trouble carrying on conversations via text, even if they like a girl. It can be nerve-wracking trying to keep it flowing. And asking if you were okay after class shows he does pay attention to you and care how you're doing at least. It's cool that you backed off chasing him too, playing a little hard to get never hurts! My best advice would be to just keep things low-key positive when you do interact in person. Like hold eye contact when you chat after class with a smile, maybe joke around a bit to ease tensions. The goal is to make him more comfortable around you so hopefully he'll open up. He clearly thinks you're pretty already, so I bet if you subtly flirt a bit in person when the chance arises, it could get him out of his shell. But don't force it - let things progress naturally. Keep doing your thing and I'm sure eventually he'll come around!