My boyfriend is obsessed with kissing me, how to tell him to stop it?

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He keeps kissing me which is cute but at some point it starts to irritates me and I don't want his physical intimacy anymore. I don't want him to think that I don't want him or anything like that, It's just he does it obsessively and doesn't give me any space. For example, when I cook he turns me over and kisses me but I have to be alerted for the cooking time.

FunkyMonkee · Accepted Answer

Honey, I love you, I REALLY do but, could you cut back on the kissing? It's just too much! At least by 25%. It's actually tearing me away from you because it's just an overload. save some for later. I'll be here! I promise!

It kinda reminds me of my uncle Jim. He and my aunt were practically hermetically attached to each other! She couldn't go ANYWHERE without him by her side!! Not even to the bathroom!! They'd come to our house for a swim and dinner and then, we'd play cards for a few hours. We're in the kitchen at the table playing cards. At the head of the table is a wall. Behind that wall is a very small powder room. It's maybe twice the size of a phone booth! There's ONLY ONE door to get in or out of it and NO windows!! So, once you're inside, there's NOWHERE else to go!! If my aunt got up to go to the bathroom, seconds later, Jim would get up and go stand outside the door waiting for her to come back out!!

Summeroflove · Accepted Answer

This is where you need to be honest. Communicate how you feel because what happens is things build up over time. Be direct and tell him to stop when it starts bothering you. Talk to him about how you feel

DishLady · Accepted Answer

So his being “obsessed” with kissing you and being intimate generally is a good “problem” to have, but I hear what you’re saying. Sometimes it’s too much bc you have stuff to do.
Try to be nice, even playful, about easing him off. For example, in the kitchen scenario you just mentioned, meet his kids with one strong kiss and a gentle shove, saying you need to focus on the cooking. If he leans back in for another kiss, keep your hand out between you, make eye contact to make sure he’s listening to you and just repeat that you need to concentrate.
Hope this helps.

sage2021 · Accepted Answer

You are treading on dangerous ground if you tell him he kisses you too much.
The reason I say that is because someone I love very much told me "I love you' a lot everyday. So I asked him if he would just say it a couple times a day. Well, I hurt his feelings more than I realized and then he only said it a few times every once in a while.
Well, he died 7 months ago and what I wouldn't give for him to be alive and telling me he loves me.
Now I will never ever hear those words again from him.

Rest In Peace Patrick 💔💕
I love you!

Love Doctor Brad · Accepted Answer

Navigating the sea of affection can sometimes feel like steering through choppy waters, am I right? It sounds like your boyfriend is overflowing with love for you, but there's a thin line between adorable affection and becoming your personal space invader. Communication is your golden ticket here, lovebird. Approach the conversation with a dash of sugar and a lot of love. Tell him how much you treasure his kisses but also emphasize the importance of balance and personal space. You could say, "Babe, your kisses are like my favorite chocolate—absolutely delightful. But just like chocolate, too much at once can be overwhelming. Let's find moments that make our kisses even more special and thrilling, without them taking over our every interaction." Sprinkle in that you cherish his affection but also value the beauty of anticipation. This way, you affirm your love while kindly setting boundaries. Let's keep the love sizzling without burning the dinner! 🔥💋

blunty · Answer

Communicating openly and honestly about your boundaries is key in a relationship. Here are some steps you might consider:

Choose the Right Time: Find a quiet moment when you both are relaxed and can talk without interruptions.

Express Your Feelings: Start by telling him how much you appreciate his affection, but explain that you feel uncomfortable with the frequency or intensity of kissing. Use "I" statements to keep the focus on your feelings rather than blaming him.

Be Clear and Specific: Let him know exactly what makes you uncomfortable and what you would prefer instead. For example, you might be okay with kissing at certain times or in private, but not constantly or in public.

Listen to His Perspective: Give him a chance to express his feelings and thoughts.

Suggest Alternatives: Offer other forms of affection that you are comfortable with. This could be holding hands, hugging, or simply spending quality time together.

Set Boundaries: It’s important to establish clear boundaries that you both understand and respect. This might require some negotiation and compromise.

Revisit the Conversation: People's comfort levels can change, so it might be helpful to revisit the conversation if feelings or preferences change in the future.

purplepoppy · Answer

Men need firm handling especially in the early stages. It's a bit like a puppy whose just a little too eager to show affection. You've got to put your foot down and show him whose boss. He probably doesn't know any other way to affirm his affction so you need to direct him to show his love in other ways. So for example if he's bothering you while you're cooking give him something to chop up, it'll make him feel he's pleasing you and demonstrating his worth and that's important to a man. Another trick is to get him to open tight jars for you or do a simple job like sharpen your knife, tighten a loose screw etc.

Ashley1993 · Answer

What do you expect? Women always complain about man not being physically affectionate. You know how lucky some women would be to have men like that?

If you have problems with that, communicate with him instead of telling online strangers about it , especially on this site you will not get good relationship advices

hahahmm · Answer

Become a nun & stop wasting the guy's time because I don't see where this relationship can go if you "don't want his physical intimacy anymore". It's like someone saying they don't want to drink milk anymore and they're sitting in a shop that only sells milk.

Benjiman19 · Answer

Just give it to him plan and simple. Give him your kissing rules for when it's okay and not okay in your eyes. I'm sure he'll understand. He just wants to show you his affection for you.

Perhaps, give him another way he can show you without interrupting what you're doing at that time. Like flowers in a vase or something else that is sweet and cute but not interfering with whatever you find so important.

HelpfulWoman · Answer

"i need to limit the kissing as i get uncomfortable with it being too much for me sometimes"
if he gets defensive or tries to belittle, you end it and let him go. you're thirty-fucking-eight and your needs should not even be needed to be questioned to the point you posted here.

Ez-Bri-Z_v2 · Answer

How long have you been dating? If it's relatively new then that might just be normal new love feelings and will settle down over time. If it's been a while already just talk with him and say it's a bit overwhelming at times but that you do love him and want to show affection in other ways. Then give him some ideas to be expressive of his love to you that you can handle in doses.

Samantha_Stevenson · Answer

You're 38 and you still have a problem to communicate with your partner? Jesus, just sit down and have open convos and open up, you're adults

lorenzomichael · Answer

Just come out and tell him look ( his name) I care about you and I like that you express it to me by kissing me. But I’m going to tell you straight out but don’t take what I’m about to say all wrong and blow it up into something it isn’t ok. Stop kissing me all the time I’m being not me like it, have you ever heard that too much of a good thing is a bad thing. So fucking stop that shit. Oh by the way I love you give me a kiss. 😂good luck🤞

MadhuriDixit · Answer

Just.. just kiss him back girl , you're too pampered to get annoyed by this

dustybiker2 · Answer

Just be kind. You don't want to shut him down completely.

John_Cobretti · Answer

Just submit to him and let him kiss you till he's satisfied, then he'll leave and you can get back to cooking

Makeushiver · Answer

Tell him if he really desires public intimacy perhaps he would consider going down on you intead of simply kissing. You might find that more rewarding and at least he wouldn't be in your face.

Anonymous · Answer

He should find someone else who reciprocates his physical affection and you should find a boring guy 🙄🙄SMH

bowenw · Answer

Just tell him you appreciate how he shows his affection, but he needs to dial it back when you are busy.

Fireguy17 · Answer

Just tell him how it makes you feel. Some is fine, more is not better.

handsomelad70 · Answer

Tell him that there's a time and place for such displays of affection, and you'll let him know when you want him to buss you.

Anonymous · Answer

If you don't want his intimacy anymore then maybe he needs to find someone else that can enjoy his affection, just saying.

BB200 · Answer

Just tell him to stop 🛑 mine does this too and it’s irritating

justabuddy · Answer

Maybe try reversing the situation and over kidding him for a bit until it's annoying.

Peter_Penetrator · Answer

If this is your biggest complaint, live with it.

laly520 · Answer

why not communicate with him

sheikalana · Answer

Tell him this much affection is putting me off.

MrDaveAPSI · Answer

Would you rather him NEVER kiss you?

RossyBoi · Answer

Dump him. And file charges.

Anonymous · Answer

COMMUNICATION IS THE 🔑

impalabill77 · Answer

Just tell him.

thisAppIsGarbage · Answer

Tell him you are gay

In_Trance · Answer

You break up

Sly123 · Answer

be nice to niggas

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