My boyfriend has an OF. Should I worry that he'll cheat on me with the subscribers?

[Anonymous]

My boyfriend has recently opened an OF. I'm OK with that.

He's making good money and his subscribers are mainly men, although there are also a few women. In his content he mainly shows videos/pictures of his ripped body. There's no full nudity but revealing material of course. And subscribers can ask for content. He also chats with some of them.

I'm sure he's straight but should I worry he might cheat on me? I'm starting to be uncomfortable.

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OF = Only Fans

[SteveSmith1985]

I don't know if he's any more likely to cheat because he has an onlyfans. If the guy is a cheater, he'll cheat regardless. If he's not a cheater, then he won't cheat regardless. Whether someone cheats or not isn't a matter of having an opportunity to cheat. It's a thing that depends on someone's individual moral beliefs and their character. (in my opinion)

That being said... I TOTALLY understand why you might be 'uncomfortable'! My jaw dropped-open when I saw your question.

For the record, personally, there is NO WAY I would be alright with a girlfriend having an onlyfans. Not a chance. That is 100% a deal-breaker for me. (I would literally put that in my dating profile... if it didn't make me look like an asshole)

Obviously you feel differently about that. Which is fine. But WOW do I ever understand why you might be bothered by this.

I think your best bet is to be open with him about your feelings, concerns etc. Talk to him about what exactly makes you uncomfortable. Surely you'll be able to come to some sort of solution together that leaves you feeling more assured if you have an honest talk about this. :)

[Blackmoonsns]

I will be worried that he's getting sexual stimulation from somebody else other than you partners tend to be very territorial when in relationships about that matter you should try talking to him about that and gets the root of that maybe he's just not ready to be monogamous or only be with one person or there could be another situation at hand possibly to he's doing it cuz he's very young and when men are young adults they have a biological primitive instinct to just Chase as many women as they can and try to impregnate as many as they can it's just nature.

[Asker]

Most of the subscribers are guys and my boyfriend is straight.

[Blackmoonsns]

Well he might also be sexually interested in men then that would be a topic or conversation to have with him. Or it's possible he's bisexual and he's still in the closet about it.

[Asker]

He said he's straight and uninterested in the subscribers.

But I have the feeling that he enjoys that they are drooling over his muscles.

[Blackmoonsns]

Well it's possible he just might be an overt narcissist or someone with a huge ego that enjoys attention I'll admit I'm an overt narcissist but I still have empathy and caring but I do enjoy attention from women and I love to be lusted after and desired it feeds my ego so most likely he has an inflated ego.

[Asker]

Sure, he's definitely very much in love with his body and appearence.

[Blackmoonsns]

Then yes he's doing it to outsource for attention it's what we call a narcissistic supply. He's seeking validation through others to feed his ego it's a like a drug it's an extreme confidence boost it'll feed into you it will boost self-esteem, feed his ego, and give him a mental high. The only problem is the high is always short-lived and you're always on the proud for your next source of self-indulgence it's a never-ending process it just repeats over and over again so the better looking you are the more you become better in shape the more charisma you have it it just gets bigger and bigger. Take me for example I have never once in my life dated a woman that I thought was prettier than me I would regard her on the same level as me or less than myself but never in my life have I ever dated or been with a woman that I felt she was much more attractive than I was.

[Asker]

That makes sense, thanks!

[Lis-the-librarian]

Cheat?

He could cheat anyway, especially if he is good looking enaugh that people pay for his OF.

He likes the money and the ego boost.

He might like some men attention too, sexual or not. If he is BI he won't want to let you know, understanably so.

I mean, you could get more involved in the "business". Help chat up subscribers, do the camera work and editing.

Would also be easy to keep an eye out on him for your own piece of mind.

[Asker]

I guess my worry is that I see OF as a sort of cheating because he gets gratification by people looking at his body. Maybe I'm overreacting.

I'm a bit involved in his account. I help with some ideas for clothes and photoshoots. I'm somehow uncomfortable when I go to his workkng rooom and I see him posing in thong in front of stranger though.

Maybe I could get more involved.

[Lis-the-librarian]

You wearing a pretty dress or uploading a cute pic to instagram isn't any different.

Im not saying anything by it. Most important is to talk with him. Work out what best suits the both of you.

People have different dreams, wants and goals in life. We might not always want to support those ideas.

But compromises are needed to be made. Breaking up or etc should be the last resort in any relationship.

[Asker]

Thanks!

[AmeerX]

@Lis-the-librarian good advice. I don't think anyone could say better than this for her.
She shouldn't feel insecure. The situation would be far riskier if she was on onlyfans and he was asking the same though 👍

[SueShe]

Pardon my ignorance, but what is "OF"?

If you wish to have more replies, I would suggest you ensure that people actually understand what you mean to say. You could use the update box to rephrase your question or to clarify the abbreviations, acronyms and other terms that people are not familiar with.

Please bear in mind that there are children aged 13+ on this site that don't need to see smut in case it is something about pornography.

Thanks for understanding.

[tedbuoyy]

Only fans

[SueShe]

@tedbuoyy Thanks to you and the asker for the update.

[AmeerX]

Onlyfans

[SueShe]

@AmeerX Thanks for the update

[coachTanthony]

Nah you'll be fine. Let that boy bring home the bacon.

[Asker]

It still makes me uncomfortable.

[coachTanthony]

I get it. Make sure you communicate this to him so he is aware. Sometimes reassurment from a partner is necessary and a good thing.

[Asker]

Thanks

[nrm736]

I think it's not cool. Your boyfriend is boosting his ego and craving for validation from strangers and measuring it in the money he makes. It's quite shallow and low value. You say there's no nudity but I guess it's just a matter of time. He'll be tempted.

You have every right to feel uncomfortable about all this. My totalitarian suggestion would be to have some values towards yourself and not tolerate any of this, break up with him and find a boyfriend with more decent values than this. But you should definitely speak up about it, the sooner the better before things getting out of hand.

[integrale77]

Maybe you should talk to him about what makes you uncomfortable and set some ground rules that can be part of his profile. As you said he doesn't do full frontal nudity but formalising a list of do's and don'ts might be a bit more reassuring.

If my girlfriend started an OF that's what I'd do.

Also I suspect there are more women on OF creating content I don't think a male content creator will have as many followers.

[Asker]

Thanks. Some things he does bother me. It also bothers me seeing preparing for photoshoots or videos. It bothers me seeing him so often half naked posing in his apartment. He's a perfectionist and spends a lot of time, probably also liking the attention he gets.

The vast majority of the subscribers are men, which somewhat reassures me. You are right, most content creators are women but there's a market for men too, mainly targeting a gay audience.

[integrale77]

I've seen TV shows covering OF and it does seem a lot of straight male content makers followed by mainly gay men.

I think the main things to remember are most of his audience do not appeal to him sexually, they don't get to see as much as you and all they get is a facsimile of the real thing you get to look, touch, smell and taste the real thing!

[Asker]

Thanks!

[SnowedIn]

I wouldn't worry, no. First, he's your boyfriend. He's chosen you. Second, you're there. He doesn't have to set up a meet and go find them. Third, those people are online, not in your town -- right?

BUT... you state you're uncomfortable. That's really important. You should have a talk with him -- he needs to not do things that make you uncomfortable.

[Asker]

True, mainly videochats and content on demand bother me. In addition I don't like it that I see him so often almost naked at home for OF and not for me.

[SnowedIn]

That's the most important part. He's making you uncomfortable -- that's wrong.

[BJP21]

Only Fans is mainly Facebook with unlimited content. As long as he remains within the Only Fans realm you should be fine.

Even pornstars and nude models dont actively seek out fans. They just interact with them on OF and thats as far as it goes.

[Asker]

He doesn't meet any of the fans in person. But he has video chats with some. It's mainly posing and flexing, he doesn't speak much with them. I also help him sometimes to prepare, oiling his body or giving him advice on clothes.

[BJP21]

If that's the only thing he's doing you're in the clear. As long as its limited to just that. Make sure he makes time to flex his muscles for you too. ;)

[AnUglyBarnacle]

Well, that's a role reversal as far as OF goes...

I'd watch him very carefully if I were you. Not a good sign.

[MCheetah]

He sounds trashy. And probably gay, too. I'd leave him. No one on OF deserves to be in a relationship, but that's just my opinion!

[Asker]

I'm ok he's earning extra money. But seeing him so caught in this is worrying me.

[AviatorTom]

Most people on OF never meet any of their supporters in person. You should have nothing to worry about, but it helps to talk with him about how you feel.

[Summeroflove]

Yeah I would be worried. I wouldn’t date anyone with a onlyfans. Sorry bye

[Asker]

Any experience?

[Summeroflove]

I would never do it. EVER

[Asker]

Thanks

[Summeroflove]

You’re welcome

[Summeroflove]

If she was a Christian and truly repented. I would see wha happens. Otherwise just no

[HighValue]

In my opinion, that already IS cheating. He values money over morals. That is a bad person to have a relationship with.

[trina_x]

im not sure you need to worry

i doubt he'll go out your comfort zone

[LindsayR07]

No, OF subscribers are just an income source.

[Asker]

What about videochats and content on demand?

[LindsayR07]

If there's no meetup, and they are doing it for the money, it's just a job for them, their heart isn't in it like it's in it with you.

[Anonymous]

Of course you should be worried. It is hard enough to resist the advances of women who I am 90% sure are fake. Fake people generally don't give you money on monthly basis. He is on there for money; how long before someone offers him money for sex?

[Asker]

I don't think he would want to have sex with his male subscribers.

[Opinion Owner]

What about his female subscribers?

[Asker]

He's been invited to holidays quite a few times. But he always said no.

[Opinion Owner]

Perhaps because it wasn't enough money.

[Asker]

They are a few, but I'm a bit worried. One of them invited him to Dubai for a photoshoot.

[Opinion Owner]

I would be most worried about that one. People in Dubai usually have a good deal of money.

[Asker]

Yes but he' not going. Otherwise I'll leave him.

[LemiaOfThunder]

Can I ask what are you worried about? Only Fans isn't cam site, its a fan site where if people want ro support him they can.

[LimitedBenefits101]

Grown man with OF? dude has officially lost his manhood.

[Asker]

He's 24

[LimitedBenefits101]

grown man... tell him to man up and stop being a sissy boy

[Anonymous]

I don't know of any guy who has met an Only Fans girl in person.

[Sasha0426]

Maybe you should end the relationship if you’re worried he’ll cheat.

[LazerBean]

I mean he's already cheating so obviously.

[Asker]

Why already cheating?

[Darine123]

Why would you date him

[Anonymous]

He is a man, he is probably cheating.

[ZenJen444]

He's already cheating 🤣🤣😭

[Anonymous]

Onlyfans is a hook up app.

[Anonymous]

Yeah walk away.

[Asker]

Maybe I should

[Anonymous]

Why uncomfortable?

[Asker]

Because subacribers seem to be drooling over his body.

[Opinion Owner]

Does he get naked?

[Asker]

No, just in thongs or speedos. Or he covers himself so there's no frontal nuditt.

[Jamie05rhs]

Lol.

[Gloree]

Define OF?