Can you guess why the guy I like is hiding from me?

[Anonymous]

I felt the guy liked me so I decided to like him back. The problem was I started to act weird in front of him; avoiding him even though I really like him. But anyway, I wrote a confession letter and got his number, played a game together. But the problem was he never initiated text to me. I slightly asked him to hang out but he kinda excused me due to holidays family gathering. So, I understand that I misread his behavior then started avoiding him again. The problem is he is also starting to avoid me. I felt he seemed upset but I don't know why. It's been a year avoiding each other. Is there someone who can see what happened to us?

[Anonymous]

Don't feel sis. These guys are shi*. You are not the only one who experienced this. I also experienced the same. I found out that if we approach a guy first even though if they like us at starting, when we make a first move, they will stop showing any affection or anything as they will feel it as game over with us and they will lose interest on us once we approach them and they will show their shitty attitude side which a girl doesn't like seeing. This is the saddest and heartbreaking thing a girl can face but unfortunately this is the way it is. My best advice to you is always accept a guy who comes to you because he will love you the way you want. But when you go to a guy first, he will make you love him the way he wants you to but will never love you the way you want to be loved. And still hw will flirt with other girls in front of you, break your heart into pieces, shatter your life, when you ask him too much, he will give silly excuses about why he can't spend time with you and sometimes even openly admits that he doesn't like you at all and break your heart into million pieces. Is that all you want? No right? Then be with a guy who comes to you first by approaching and loves you and never lets you feel unwanted

[spartan55]

This has NOTHING to do with her telling him her feelings first. She was never even certain the guy liked her, she just assumed it and treated it as fact.

[Opinion Owner]

@spartan55 it is most probably a fact, but it's a fact that some guys loses feelings when a girl approaches him first because they love chasing and doesn't like to be chased. So even if a girl loves him truly, he will feel her as a cheap or easy girl because she approached him first. All he wants is a male dominance. He is not a kind of guy who likes a female to dominate and these kind of guys love a girl for her weakness rather than for her strength because they want a girl who is in their control but not a girl who wants to control him. But if a guy approaches her first, he will be most possibly prepare to she his life with her

[Opinion Owner]

*share his life with her and she deserves this

[spartan55]

I've never known any guy to do that, so I'd have to definitely say those were outliers. And unless the guy told you the reason he treated you bad then it's just speculation.

[Asker]

@spartan55 I assumed because he gave his number and accepted to play a game with me even though he is high rank (top 5% in usa) in LOL. Do you think a guy can give his number to a woman who doesn't like?

[spartan55]

Lol... uh yeah. 😂😂

[Asker]

@spartan55 what was funny? Have a manner.

[spartan55]

I found your assumption amusing.

[Asker]

@spartan55 Then don't laugh at me and tell me the reason. I am here to get advice, not to be laughed.

[Asker]

@spartan55 omg... I thought you are a immature man but you are not. Lol

[Asker]

@spartan55 no need to reply I was stupid to take a wisdom from a person who don't act his age.

[spartan55]

Sounds good 👍

[Opinion Owner]

A guy can give a number to a girl even if he likes her a bit and can also change his mind after giving her the number. There are inconsistent guys who will act differently at different times. Don't trust them easily

[spartan55]

So why should he trust her? What does he deserve?

[Opinion Owner]

@spartan55 he trusts her so he gives her his number but when he changed his mind later to withdraw from her and get interest on another girl, he would probably ignore her and act distant. Or even if he got bored, he will do the same. So a girl's shouldn't make a move on a guy first. He should make a first move to make a girl get into a stable and worthy relationship that he deserves

[spartan55]

That makes absolutely no sense.

[Opinion Owner]

@spartan55 this makes sense because most of the guys in reality have done this to girls who made first move

[spartan55]

That's completely false. There is NO correlation between the two. You are cherry picking components that fit your narrative. Have you not seen the dozens of polls on this forum that show guys overwhelming like being approached?

[Opinion Owner]

@spartan55 yes, but there are also guys who doesn't like being approached

[spartan55]

Very very few, to claim otherwise is not true.

[Guy13]

Your behavior with a Crush or newish boyfriend should be slow and definitive in nature. Your moves were all over the place. He is left with, "this girl is not stable !!" going through his head. Sorry.

[In_Trance]

He doesn't feel the same

[Iron_Man]

Keep trying

[Asker]

Why do you think like this?

[Iron_Man]

Because you have to solve your problems get to the bottom of it obviously, he’s on your mind a lot

[Smartgirl_hey]

He will walk over her and treat her like a doormat if she does like this

[Iron_Man]

@Smartgirl_hey she can set the ground rules and take a stand

[Smartgirl_hey]

She already have set. He clearly isn't valuing her wishes. How do you think he will accept her other rules?

[Iron_Man]

Where does it say she set the ground rules?