Why do I want a hot girl to kidnap me?

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[Subglacial]

Congratulations, my friend, it sounds like you might be submissive.

Not to get into TMI territory, but my first sexual fantasies were similar. Assassins, thieves, pirates, and other ne'er-do-wells. I didn't really know what it meant, but I grew into it as I explored porn and learned the vocabulary.

For some people, normal boyfriend/girlfriend dynamics don't really work in the bedroom. Power and sexuality may be inseparably linked for them, and sex might not be fun at all without some kind of power imbalance. This is often referred to as D/s, or domination and submission. ("BDSM" is a wider umbrella term, also including bondage and sadomasochism.)

Most men are dominant to some extent, and most women submissive. Some people take those roles to the extreme, while other people flip them around. Some people switch back and forth.

That said, this might not even apply to you. Sometimes fantasies become fetishes, while other times people just grow out of them. Nobody can really tell you what it means for you, it's something you have to explore (safely).

Boring but ernest advice: focus on yourself, your real relationships, and school first. Fantasies are fine, but they must take a back seat to reality. Become the best you you can be, and let your sex life follow that.

(If you want to be noticed, you really should take the advice above seriously. There are more submissive men than dominant women out there. You have to become worthy of the partner you want.)

[dynamicyandere]

It sounds like you have a fantasy or preference for an attractive woman to have control of you and have power over you.


Some men enjoy that, some men hate that.


Everyone has their preferences for how much power they want to give to their partner: more, less, or equal.


What’s important is that everyone is on the same page, nobody is disrespectful, and nobody is taken advantage of.

[NamerOfStars]

Because you want the upsides of a sexual encounter without having to put in the effort to make one happen. It's pretty natural.

[DoctorSex]

Because you lack masculinity.

Kind regards,
DoctorSex