What are the biggest mistakes guys do in dating?

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Lionman95 · Accepted Answer

I would say three things are pretty common:

(1) Not knowing what they are looking for and therefore looking for the wrong kind of women for the wrong goal. (Like trying to settle down with a party girl is not going to work if she´s not looking for something long-term either)

(2) False expectations/communications...: Instead of being genuine honest quite a few guys love to brag or make themselves look better than they are. Guys often don´t know what´s expected of them and therefore they create a picture of themselves they either can´t live up to or they try to make her happy hoping it will help their case.

(3) Guys do dating alone: It might sound weird but I think one of the biggest problems that guys don´t help each other dating or ask each other for advice at dating. That way some guys never figure out why they got rejected or what´s something they could do better to not fail next time. I´m not saying it´s the ultimate solution why a certain guy never managed to ask out a woman and be in a relationship but I think that speaking from own experience I learned a lot from some of mistakes because I asked friends for help.

connemara_crocodile · Accepted Answer

Talking negatively too soon. Many guys think they look cool when they critize things. Think that makes them look intelligent or special.
First impressions should be positive. Very few people are attracted by someone with a bad take on life.

Instead of talking about your bad experiences, the things that you don't like, and talk ill of other people, talk about the things that you like, the good things that happened to you and talk about people who left a good mark on you.

Positive talking gives a positive feeling which ends in a positive impression of yourself.

sheenagwapa · Accepted Answer

being arrogant.. there are men who are clearly very boastful. this might sound sexist but i've never remember encountering a girl who is boastful. must be tough beinh a man.

boastinh as in what my boyfriend is driving or where i live because he can provide better.. another example me and ex had a coffee at 7/11 and there's this frenemy of my ex who just keep flaunting his big car to us and then he then mentioned where he live no one ask for his address the convo went like this in frony of me " bro where do you live you know what bro i live in this place" outright boastinh oozinh with arrogance you can really feel his intention

his statements became an inside joke for me and my ex. i actually felt bad for my ex because i can sense he kinda get affected. he is a very nice person. dude so what dude his frenemy looked funny to me

Faith18letsgo · Accepted Answer

1) ask for sex to early
2) be obsessed with flexing their partner to early.
3) introducing people as, “this is my partner” rather then “this is -(name)- my partner”
4) not cooking half the time
5) not cleaning half the time
6) using derogatory words. If your calling her a slut we’re going to start filtering what we tell you and get tired of doing that pretty darn fast.
7) Being clingy, act like you have other stuff to do!
8) ask them out on dates not just hanging out at home
9) introduce them to your family.

MCheetah · Answer

"Putting p*ssy on a pedestal." Men simping and trying to bribe women into liking them (women who probably never will, on top of it.) If she can't like you for free, throw her ass back to the streets.

And on women's end, thinking just because they're perfect and demand to be treated like a queen just because they have a vagina.

Aerissa_Jade · Answer

Too pushy, talking about ex's, and my #1 peeve, trying to ask for a dating resume and wanting to know everything about me on the first date, before they decide to go on a second date.

Like, naw... dating is about getting to know someone, not I want to know everything about you, before we start dating.

Qdbrown · Answer

It's dumb for a guy to date in this age.

Not when there are thousands of free women willing to give it up for free.

And the chance you are merely dating one of these free sex girls is high, so you are more than likely just wanting to make a community Schwinn your main squeeze.

LiamJHayden · Answer

1. Worshiping women. 2. Putting up with nonsense in the hopes of scoring. 3. Spending an absurd amount on the first dates, creating an expectation that will lead to disappointment.

Anonymous · Answer

Being a man.

Hell, even women are attracted to women. Men have better chances changing their gender and turning into transgender, transgirls. If the transgirls keep their penis, then it's like a real bonus. Women can get dick with transgirls but not with other female born women.

Guy13 · Answer

Guys project self-doubt in their interaction and energy or the lack of either one. Wishy-Washy fear of rejection with accompanying spinless backbone Disorder.

HappyWoman34 · Answer

Blowing hot and cold, sending mixed messages, not being honest about their intentions and waiting too long to show interest.

Sirenboobzilla · Answer

Saying they want one thing but, through body language and vocal queues, just want a booty call

lightbulb27 · Answer

bad hygene, lack confidence get too aggressive too fast make babies when they are still immature idiots without land.

jennifer_bloom · Answer

Acting like the woman is his biological and physical possession when she belongs to God and he is just borrowing her.

DizzyDesii · Answer

Expecting me to push back the things i want in life until they’re ready AND going on and on about a “female” friend

dustybiker · Answer

Probably act a part. The best thing they can do is be genuine.

Emilyis · Answer

They expect sex or at least oral on the first date.

Anonymous · Answer

They lie constantly. They basically just say all the things they think the woman wants to hear, but eventually the lying catches up with them and then "busted."

TheSpaceGnome · Answer

The only real mistake is settling.  Lack of pickiness when choosing a partner, is a destroyer of relationships.

HippieVeganJewslim · Answer

I think they mention their friends of the opposite gender. Did Cho break up with Harry because she was assuming he loved Hermione more than just as a friend?

sheikalana · Answer

Love bombing and showing too much interest too soon.

John_Doesnt · Answer

The biggest mistake is getting married. The man gets nothing and the woman gets half his assets.

Paul09 · Answer

I think my problem is I'm too friendly. I have no charisma. But that also a 2 way street. If the person is interesting, talk back, them I'm all good.

SomeGuyCalledTom · Answer

Not pulling the trigger when it's time to shoot his shot.

dtweed1996 · Answer

I didn’t notice my neighbors friend likes me I mean she says hi and I say hey then she walks away

Anonymous · Answer

😟 😟

dowser19 · Answer

Thinking that what she says is really what she means, or that she's actually going to do it. Actually, it's just reverse.

DiegoO · Answer

Guys in highschool. I can't tell, because I honestly did the effort in highschool.

moonpie89 · Answer

Acting so desperate early on. Such a turn off for me

Pudsmucker · Answer

We have a tendency to speak without thinking. Sometimes our manners goes out the door.

Chthou95 · Answer

Treating a woman like a princess and being a yes man to everything. Being too available. Chasing women instead of chasing money

Asad1ONE1 · Answer

The same mistakes anyone can make, be it man or woman.

captain_voidwalker · Answer

Dating in the first place? I can't honestly think of a worse use of both time and money.

Lookitsmadmax1994 · Answer

Mentioning friend's of the opposite sex can be taken the wrong way.

Anonymous · Answer

Asking women out. You cede all the power with that one act.

Anonymous · Answer

Desperation has got to be near the top of any list.

Timid-but-manly-guy · Answer

I don't make any mistakes in dating because I don't even play the game.

Anonymous · Answer

Treating women like mature adults. Prepare to be disappointed.

Anonymous · Answer

Love don’t exist. It’s all about getting attention and make money

Truthatanycost · Answer

Going on dates.

jshm2 · Answer

Date girls like you?

exitseven · Answer

Not being honest about their feelings.

MikeInHawaii · Answer

Putting up with women’s bullshit.

Sparkie460 · Answer

Lying and not respecting her

Akam93 · Answer

Looking at other woman in front of you.

collie22 · Answer

They don't skate worth a darn

SlavicThor · Answer

Over persue and neediness

boobliker · Answer

jump be for they know it ok to do so!!!

LegendaryDater · Answer

show lack of confidence is the big one.

Iron_Man · Answer

They look for sex fast

maximumpower · Answer

Cowtow to everything she wants.

scooogy · Answer

Not showing up

Ryfyle · Answer

Not having ass loads of cash.

msc545 · Answer

Actually doing this at all is a big mistake

Manuel2 · Answer

Thinking that all girls fuck on first date

Anonymous · Answer

Taking dating advice from women

JosyJosy · Answer

Talk about their ex.

aaron210419 · Answer

Get their hopes up

krin_m · Answer

Be pushy!

Anonymous · Answer

A LOT

Anonymous · Answer

Be too nice.

In_Trance · Answer

Move too fast

Anonymous · Answer

Not listen

Anonymous · Answer

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