He was watching me what I was doing?

[Anonymous]

He told me he was watching what I was doing on the gym app to see what classes I was booking into and if would cancel

He would even tell me what days I was booked in when he wasn’t working

is that kind of stalkerish?

[kylee2437]

Depends on the context. Is he a personal trainer? Who is this guy to you?

[Asker]

He works in the gym yes not specially my trainer the whole gyms trainers

We kind of had a little friendship

[Asker]

He said I have more feelings for him which I don’t he is gay
I just started dating someone

[kylee2437]

So maybe he’s just excited to see you and wants you to be there when he’s training. Although if it makes you uncomfortable, say something to a manager that works there

[Asker]

Well turns out I made him uncomfortable

I told him my grandfather was passing away he flat out said he didn’t need to know that stuff

[Asker]

How I made him uncomfortable I don’t know

[kylee2437]

Yeah I’d stay away from him , that’s not a normal response to someone being vulnerable about their family life.

[Asker]

Yeah

Pretty shit to be honest

Didn’t get an apology all I heard was I make him uncomfortable etc

So he was watching /stalking me?

[kylee2437]

Stalking in that context

[Asker]

Pretty weird right?

[Anonymous]

There is love and care in stalking. Understand that

[Opinion Owner]

I'm sorry. This opinion only relates if he is your boyfriend

[Asker]

So he was stalking me

[Asker]

Cos that’s what it feels like

[Opinion Owner]

If he's other person than your boyfriend then you should feel bothered to being stalked

[Opinion Owner]

If you like him even if you just know him then you can let him stalk you as love develops in the process

[Asker]

He is gay

I can’t help but feel extremely uncomfortable about the whole watching what I was doing what classes I was doing on the app

He then went on to accuse of me cancelling classes just so I could be one on one with him 🤢

I told him my grandfather was passing away and he said he didn’t need to know that stuff

[Opinion Owner]

Stay away from him. You don't even need to take classes from him and don't stay in contact with him and tell him that you're not interested to attend any of his classes anymore

[Asker]

Trust me
He went further to tell his boss I might have feelings for him 🤢🤢🤢

So weirded out by this whole situation

[Opinion Owner]

This may sound harsh but it's necessary as he's not a good person to be considerate in a situation of your grandfather, that won't be a good person's response to your situation. Instead, good people will be more considerate in those kind of situations. If he's not, staying away from him is the best option and change your GYM training institute too and continue there

[Asker]

Yeah
I just feel like a fool he kind of made me beileve we were friends you know.

He was soooo nice in the beginning

But now knowing what I know makes me feel sick abou the whole thing

[Opinion Owner]

If he's making false allegations on you, don't fear. Just open up and say truth to anyone who questions you about those allegations and best is not to care about what others think. Rumors spread fast but not all rumours are true so stop worrying and stay away from him and his manager or boss

[Asker]

He’s nuts in my opinion

[spartan55]

"He's nuts in my opinion" says the pink anon who has posted about this no less than 20 times. Have you told your boyfriend yet?

[Asker]

@spartan55 he is nuts

I have actually

[Asker]

@spartan55 have you ever been made to feel uncomfortable

[spartan55]

Is that right? Did he wonder why you are so obsessed with a homosexual man from your gym? I know I'd have a few questions.
And to answer you, of course I have

[Asker]

@spartan55 obsessed?
You messing?

[Opinion Owner]

@spartan55 she is not obsessed with him, don't trick her into believing she is obsessed with him. She is being careful to watch and understand his every move

[Asker]

Thank you

This is what happens when you are gaslighted by someone

[spartan55]

Great, he's a gaslighter, he stalked you... blah blah... you make it sound like you were so invested in this guy. Some fruity clown you knew from the gym? Gimme a break geez.

[Asker]

@spartan55 you’ve obviously never had to find out someone has been following you /tracking you
Is not a nice feeling leaves one feeling particularly vulnerable….

[spartan55]

Because he was checking to see if you were in a class? This whole situation is just weird. Most reasonable people would just switch gyms and be done with it. You seem to thrive on drama.

[Asker]

@spartan55 I have moved gym ……

[spartan55]

So why tf are you going on and on and on about it? It's not even in your life anymore.

[Asker]

@spartan55 the aftermath of the whole situation is