Why would he do this?

[KathrynTaylor]

A guy who was chasing me last year, rather inappropriately (has Asperger’s); who blocked me last year on Facebook for saying his behaviour was scaring me, has been repeatedly looking up my new Facebook profile, since I added a mutual friend, without saying or doing anything. What does he want?

[Summeroflove]

I honestly don’t know. I don’t think he can regulate his emotions. So he probably got anger you said something. So his way of getting back at you was blocking you. He probably thought it would bother you.



But he’s obsessed with you now and probably stalking you. At least to some degree. You could tell him he’s making you uncomfortable and block him again on your end.



Truthfully there is no way of knowing. Maybe he’s just being nosy too and isn’t really stalking you.


If you have a problem. Reach out directly to address it.

[SnowedIn]

Likely whatever he wanted when he was chasing you last year but either a relationship or sex.

[KathrynTaylor]

What’s most likely?

[SnowedIn]

Not sure I have enough information to go on. BUT... if you forced me to venture a guess, he wants a relationship with you. He's fixated on the idea of you.

[KathrynTaylor]

Which is still unhealthy. I come across as a different sort of woman from who I really am. I think he sees the housewife with children , simple woman side to me; but I’m actually beneath the surface, quite complex and I have a bad temper and things I want to achieve without a man. Although it would be nice to have a nice man with me.

[SnowedIn]

Very unhealthy. You're right to be concerned. The worrying part is that he seems fixated. That may not be his fault per se (you mentioned Asperger's) but still concerning.

[KathrynTaylor]

What’s the best option? To ignore?

[SnowedIn]

Yikes. Great question. I think a lot depends on him, right? Like at what level fixated he is. I may get hate for this, but the situation sounds very drama filled and/or high maintenance. If I were in the situation, yes, I'd ignore. But you may be a way better person than I am. On the other hand, he might be the type to ignore. I'm sorry... too many unknowns her. But, yes, I'd ignore.

[KathrynTaylor]

Well basically, we started as friends. He rejected me four times, then said he’d pursue a relationship with me if he could, but that he can’t bear people touching him. Then he distanced himself from me and started talking badly about me behind my back. Then our friends tried to set us up. He said through mutual friends that I’m a gold digger (I like nice clothes); then I admitted to loving him but said our values are too different. Then the behaviour started. From him. Showing up where I was, sending Facebook made up pictures and having his whole family look me up.

[KathrynTaylor]

So that’s the history.

[SnowedIn]

Based on all that, ignore him.

[KathrynTaylor]

Okay, I will. So what’s going on is he wasn’t interested, then he changed his mind and now he’s desperate?

[Andres77]

As an adult who has been diagnosed with Asperger’s…I have no idea. He sounds weird even to me.