Is it rude to suggest to a guy he should smile more?

[Anonymous]

I was on this marriage app and came across a profile I liked, so I sent him a message saying “Hey, you should smile more. Happy Belated New year”. I suggested he smile because he wasn’t smiling in any of his pics and maybe a smile would attract more people.

[Datboi65]

I don't really like to smile often, yet for some odd reason I'm very approachable. People that I don't know ask me for directions/help on different matters so I guess I come across as good dude?

I never felt the need to fake a smile. I think it's rather corny. I only smile when it's genuine, and people can tell the difference between a real smile and a forced smile.

No it's not offensive because for me to get offended I will actually have to care. If you like a smile on a man's face that's fair game, but I also think you need to understand that people have different interpretations of excessive smiling and it may be that they are just trying to save it for the right moments to make it more special.

[Moose304]

It is and it's not. There is a difference between a stoic face and a frown. One of my neighbors has a 16-year-old granddaughter. She came with her grandmother to visit me a few days before Christmas. I noticed she was not smiling and just started making stupid faces until she started to giggle then told her granny I was silly. Honestly though, unless you are a photographer or know the person very well I would advise you to mind your own business. Several years ago I had a middle-aged female tell me I should smile more. I had just watched "TOPGUN" a few days before. I looked at her and said "and you need to take a bath because you stink". People that are fans of that movie will remember where that comes from. I got my point across and walked away.

[WonderBell99]

I have a resting bitch face while posing for pictures. I simply cannot bring myself to smile because it would only make the picture look awkward. I have had many people ask me to "smile more" and I did not get offended. I just take it in a playful way, or even if they are serious, I do not pay much attention to it.

[jennifer_bloom]

Kanye West doesn't smile either and he is worth 400 million. How much do you get paid for your smile?

[Massageman]

That could go either way. Some people - myself included- just do not run around all day emulating Pinky Lee! Yet, people who really know us, understand that we are happy on the inside. My mother could force a convincing smile to anyone, even though she was in crippling pain for years.

That said, before I opt to suggest that someone smile more, I would either engage with them about the WHY behind their (lack of a) smile, or rephrase; "You have such nice eyes/teeth/etc when you smile", or , "I enjoy being you so much when you smile", etc.

[Apple_Cider]

"Sam, I liked all of your pics, but your fourth pic should have been your first pic. You should always put your best pic first. And your face is handsome, but if you really want to be a lady killer, maybe just throw on a bit of a smile. Women LOVE that. But I'm not trying to tell you what to do. Your profile is good as it is."

Only a complete idiot wouldn't take your advice.

[Guy13]

Not particularly, however, if a guy has dimples, then someone will be attracted to a they shy to strong and assuring smile…even without teeth sharing.

I get teeth requirement with family, friends, SM, and most special alone times.

[Chazmatazz269]

If it is, women are monsters. I hear that quite frequently. Because of this, i have difficulty relating to women who think people telling them to smile more is some kind of sexism.

[TheSpaceGnome]

No, you're correct, it would attract more people. Also outside of app profiles, if someone said that to me, my first thought would be they were concerned about my happiness, which is thoughtful, not rude.

[Orion76]

A college mate once told me I shouldn’t smile a lot she thought I looked handsome with my usual serous face. I didn’t think she was rude myself.
I think what you said was nice actually

[stoicity]

Technically yes, as long as you don't know what he's going through never force anything on him. Don't make it as obligation, just ask him to suspend and talk and share and listen with the good intention and faith.

Cheers!

[UniquelyBasic]

People hate it when they are told that but it's not necessarily rude though.

[Anonymous]

Yes it's rude just like when men say it to women.

[Dargil]

I think it is. It's "controlling". We smile when there is a reason.

[AdithyaR]

Pretty sure it's rude to tell any stranger to smile randomly

[Rockstarrrrr]

It's not rude but it's overused so it might be annoying to them...

[Anonymous]

Maybe put it “Can you share a picture of you smiling?” That takes any negativity out.

[Anonymous]

What if he doesn’t want to? Just because you think he should doesn’t mean he should. It’s one thing if you are flirting it’s another if you think you’re giving him life advice.

[SexyRedd1966]

Maybe he doesn't have great teeth🤷🏿‍♀️

[Danny_dan92]

Nah. It’s sweet and subtle

[Likes2drive]

I don’t think it’s rude

[CuriousMufuxka]

Not on an app.

[Anonymous]

What you said was rude

[Iron_Man]

No it’s ok

[Jamie05rhs]

Nah; you're cool.

[Deserter]

Give him a reason to

[EaterPeter]

It can be

[Anonymous]

Nope.

[Tonyblony5150]

No it's not

[Figurine89]

Yeah