I have always been seen as a lust object. Will that ever change?

[Anonymous]

How do you know when a man wants to have a relationship?

I just can't trust a man when he likes me for me. Instead of my boobs.

Men act like they do like me but it's just obvious when they talk about my boobs a lot. When I try to date them.

How would you deal with this?

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They are big but I already try to hide it. And not draw attention to them. I mean more like, how do they look pass the boobs? Of course having something to offer but yet it's still the important topic for them to talk about

[Anonymous]

Hmmm. . . you seem to think that just because a man gets uncontrollably turned on by your big boobs and has a burning physical need to have hot, hot sex with you that that somehow means that he's not ALSO interested in a relationship with you. I've got some news for you--we men pretty much ALWAYS want to have a relationship with a woman who can POWERFULLY arouse us. So I'd say in the relationship-getting department, you're at a HUGE advantage with your big boobs!

[Asker]

Omg really? I've been bullied a lot so I didn't think, up till now it was a good thing so thank you for being positive

[Opinion Owner]

My pleasure. Though I don't understand what you being bullied has to do with anything. Bullied by whom? About what? What does that have to do with a man wanting a relationship with you? I'm genuinely curious to understand where you're coming from on this!

[Asker]

Oh I'm sorry I wasn't clear enough. I was bullied because of my boobs, that they are too big. That's why I asked.

Now that I get some other kind of attention that I mostly think it's lust or bullying. Sometimes they come to me and say how it is.

Mostly they say that they like me but they are mostly interested how many times we can have sex, and then I want to have some kind of date.
But the dates consists only of sex and yeah of course I want to but not all the time.

And then some of them make an excuse that they can't go on a date or something

[Asker]

I just don't know if they really want a relationship with me then.
But what you said makes me kinda confident. Thank you

[Opinion Owner]

You're very welcome--glad I could help! Let me know if you'd like to add me.

[inhua]

tall men, handsome men, rich men and famous men have that same problem too.

Drax the Destroyer was right about one thing though. when you're ugly, you get to see who your real friends truly are.

[Asker]

You are right! I notice that too

[kylee2437]

Why talk to men that hold no value?

[Asker]

You are right! I don't need to

I try to think like "oh this is a phase. It will go away" but I keep getting these kind of men.

[kylee2437]

@asker a man making up conversation about your titties constantly is not a phase lol he’s purposely mentioning them to hint at what he is actually looking for

[Asker]

Oh you are right.

I just don't why I only attract that kind of men

[kylee2437]

@asker majority of us attract those kinds of men , but it’s just your job to be assertive and cut a guy off when he’s only mentioning qualities like that

[Asker]

Thanks for the advice! I will do that from now on