Why do men and guys see me as a sexual object and ALWAYS seem like they aren't interested in me as a person?

[CoolCatMar1]

[ohsheeT]

It's because of the way you carry yourself it's in a very mysterious sexy way

And most guys want what they can't have

And most guys try to manipulate what they can't have in a backfires and when it backfires they're not going to blame themselves they're not going to say they're wrong they're going to blame the girl that would be you beautiful sexy smart intelligent

They don't see all that part they just see sexy the way you carry yourself they should try to get to know you a little bit before they start bitching barking and biting.

And then I also thank you challenge guys you say no you can't have me and of course guys thinking they know everything they have to try..

That's what I see anyway but I don't know for sure that is for sure LOLre-state//background_color_rgba (0, 0, 0, 0), font_color_rgb (77, 77, 77), justifyLeft

[Decoded93]

Most men are stupid and don’t see the real value that women (as people) possess! I’m convinced that most men don’t even like women, instead they like the act of sex, or the act of collecting women as trophies (the first case if they keep wanting sex, the second case if they leave after having sex once)

One example of this is men seeing the value in other men by how much sex they have (chads and incels) vs the quality of woman a man partners with

[d0x000]

Most men think this way? I don't believe you know what you're saying.

[curious_lady]

@d0x000 yeah I don't think most men think this way

[Decoded93]

@d0x000 I think most men do, the men that don’t tend to have other friends that also don’t think this way so it creates an illusion that this isn’t the case, but I think most men think this way and they aren’t intelligent enough to realize it or see why it’s a problem

A lot of men grow out of it to some extent so it’s more common in younger people, but a lot of guys never grow out of it too

[Keyboardkat]

You sound like you have had bad experiences with men. I am completely turned off by postings that say, "Men do this," or, "Men think...," as if all men are exactly the same. We are NOT all the same. We are not mass produced. We are individuals, just as you women are! We're just people, just as you women are! As a guy, I feel I should have the right to be judged as an individual, and not have the misdeeds of other men fathered upon me, just because I am a man. I truly resent this sort of thing. If you are having a problem because of your bad experiences with men, please consider that the problem may be that you always chose the same type of man. Perhaps a good therapist could help you sort out why you always choose the same type of man, and help you stop. Remember, Einstein said that one sign of insanity is doing the same thing and expecting a different result!

[Decoded93]

@Keyboardkat I’m a dude and I’m not saying all dudes think this way, I’m saying that I believe over 50% (most of them younger cause many outgrow this thinking) think this way, usually it takes meeting a special woman to change this way of thinking, but I can assure you, based on women I’ve talked to and friends I used to have, that a vast majority of guys out there on dating sites looking for women are just looking for casual hookups and don’t even understand why that’s an issue

[curious_lady]

You are very young and you are beautiful. Maybe I don't know if you will like what I will say, but I just want to be brutally honest with you. You should act from the beginning with every guy like he is trash until he proves different, that's my opinion, you need to protect yourself and know your worth and not let yourself get hurt. You are amazing girl deserve love and respect and don't let someone who is not really worth it be with you. It's better to be single for a while until you are sure that you are dealing with a good honest decent man.

[Kayleigh2005]

You’re 20 and I’m 19 maybe go to church?

What are the realistic expectations do u get out of guys that old?

Also, the problem maybe you?

The way I dress, act and drink doesn’t exactly land me marrying guys 🤣

[CoolCatMar1]

I dress modestly, am pretty, am intelligent even those guys pointed it out and many women as well. I don't drink or smoke. I had decent men too i was just asking a question about the guys that approach me lately because 99% of guys in greece are stingy, ugly fucks who believe they deserve everything while they offer nothing but hurt and disappointment. If you lived in Greece yoh would realise that men here are trash

[curious_lady]

I lived in Greece for a while I didn't date any Greek guys though but I was friends with some of them they didn't seem to be only after sex. So I think you may be in the wrong circle of people, maybe change your group of friends.

[Kayleigh2005]

@curious_lady i look up to my roommate good normal people 🙏 are beautiful people

[sawno]

Are you going for the confident types? Or perhaps being approached by confident types? Because if all you want is sex what risk is there you know? Plenty of pretty girls around so you can easily strike up a conversation and if she rejects then no big deal. Meanwhile the guy who actually thinks your interesting for you who you are and fears rejection will be nervous since he doesn't want to screw up. As a result they may not approach as easily or often which can make it seem like all guys are assholes. So either try approaching that cute guy in the corner yourself or be approachable in a way that makes it easy for people to read your personality. Guys can be very interest driven, so if they have a way of knowing that they have something in common with you it can make a big difference. But if I merely saw you in a pretty outfit i'd assume we have nothing in common since the kind of girl I have things in common with is kinda rare and impossible to spot based on looks alone.

[Maybe_Maybe_not]

You can't control men's vision or anyone on this planet BUT what you can control, or think about is:

• How you manifest yourself to others
• How to select guys patterns you don't want to engage with

[Nik1hil]

Because those men are idiot, unevolved monkey!. 🥺

Be glad they aren't flinging their Poop at you! 😅

Just avoid them like you would avoid a group of chimps or monkeys, while walking through a forest!

If they behave like animal, treat them as such!

[Finchie40]

Do you have a reputation that you are not aware about? Some of your exes might of spread rumors about you by saying stupid shit about you , that you are easy or you like to have sex or give blow jobs blah blah blah , or it can stem down to the way you present yourself as well , and the guys’ you are hanging around , that assume you are a sex object?

[CoolCatMar1]

No I don't present myself in any way sorry

[Finchie40]

Well the truth is , most guys’ want sex with a girl they find attractive to their eyes , especially guys’ your age , that are mainly thinking with their dicks more than anything else , Sex is a way most guys’ feel closer to a girl , so the tricky part is not knowing whether he just wants you for sex or he wants more than just sex with you. Most guys’ will not invest a lot of their time into a girl that doesn’t give him sex , especially guys’ your age that are mainly thinking with their dicks , why girls’ you age are going after older men , because older men actually make a girl feel wanted and appreciated and listened to , yes he wants sex as well , but most older men want more than just sex with a girl , they want a girl that stands by him and appreciates him and values him , that makes him feel wanted and loved , When I date younger girls’ they all have told me they were attracted to my wisdom and personality, my maturity lever , the way I make her feel wanted and listened to. Most younger guys’ don’t really think that way because side they are mainly thinking about sex first over anything else. Not realizing if they actually listened to the girl and valued her heart , that sex wouldn’t even be an issue because she will usually chase him instead of the other way around. So my guess is , you are just meeting guys’ your age that are just thinking with their dicks

[Levin]

Women at your age are hyper alluring.

I think bad quality man are rife, as well.

It's up to you really, to make good quality choices.

You get many options, it's your job as a woman to filter out properly. If you don't, you only have yourself to blame.

[katiesmuff]

What makes you think they think of you as some sexual object if your not the local whore. That would be the most obvious thought.

[CoolCatMar1]

I am not a local whore i am very very sophisticated and few guys actually had access to me unfortunately one of them lied but at least he was attractive and i liked him...

[katiesmuff]

You asked the question, we can only give an opinion from the information we have from you!

[PeachyPie93]

It depends how you put yourself out there.. if you dress to show your body off most guys will only want you for your body.. and not care about your personality. If you make it so they can't see your body the ones who have interest will be interested in getting to know the real you.

[PeachyPie93]

I say don't date online tho. It's the worst way to meet someone, especially if you want something serious.

[MikeTheBartender]

I think people or men in general we always want to have sex first, it's biological programming, better men certainly get to know a woman first, but it's natural to want that to be the first thing, I guess it's up to you to kind of filter it out and get the guys that really are willing to know you.

[CoolCatMar1]

This "male nature" bullshit needs to die

[236color]

Perhaps your attitude towards men and their biological reality has something to do with why they see your only value as sexual. You want a man to stick around, be faithful and "provide " for you, that's female nature, I don't fault you for that. I also understand that you can't just hand out sex willy nilly to anyone that wants it. You do need to understand, however, that heterosexual men aren't and never will interested in you completely devoid of any consideration of sex.

[CoolCatMar1]

@236color nope but whatever helps you sleep at night

[RageBabe]

These are usually low-quality types of men. I know the wording is harsh, but that's been my experience.

[NathanDavis]

I don't do that... I just see you like the Cool Cat Girl into fashion, photos and can dance very well... lol

[sirderpsalot123]

I'm sure you COULD find a good guy. As a woman, you have all of the options in the world. How is it that you can't find a man that wants to commit unless you're aiming out of your league with your standards in way? There are plenty of respectful men out there. What are you currently doing that's filtering them out, that you could change?

[CoolCatMar1]

Girl, how exactly am o aiming for someone out of my league? Plssss🤣🤣

[sirderpsalot123]

I kind of already explained that in my opinion. You aren't bad looking if that's you in the your profile picture, I'm sure you get plenty of attention from men. You either just have a bad attitude or you're rejecting a bunch of dudes because your standards are too high.

[CoolCatMar1]

I don't care what you think little man

[CoolCatMar1]

And i definitely don't care if you believe my standards are apparently too high 🤣🤣🤣 and my attitude ISN'T THE PROBLEM now go hate on another girl because i don't give a flying f.

[CoolCatMar1]

And i also don't care if you think i am attractive enough or not.

[sirderpsalot123]

Ok keep doing what you're doing and having the same problem because there's no way every single guy you meet is terrible. You're doing something wrong.

[CoolCatMar1]

Lol 🤣 i never said EVERY guy was bad but the majority is bad and many girls dislike greek men so you definitely don't know me and tbh i am not trying to please you i LOVE myself and my appearance definitely as well and i deserve the best ! No need to say mean stuff to people you don't know Bye

[sirderpsalot123]

Lol your personality is garbage, that's why you can't find a good guy. I can tell by just this brief conversation.

[sirderpsalot123]

You're only 20 tho. You have time to work on yourself

[CoolCatMar1]

💀💀💀💀💀💀💀

[Aakash_Hangargi]

People's life force is made of sexual energy.

If a guy is not sering you sexually apart from. Your family members I would worry then

People can't talk to energies they talk to the person who has it.

It's the person who interests them first and later the sexual energy.


re-state//background_color_rgba (0, 0, 0, 0), font_color_rgb (0, 0, 0), justifyLeft

[Shamalien]

Young women typically have more to offer in the beauty department than the intelligence department. This is not always the case, but often beautiful women aren’t very interesting simply because everything always came so easy to them, they never had to develop the higher faculties.

[KittygosMeoWW]

I don't know guys sexualize a lot of pretty girls

[CoolCatMar1]

Exactly! Have nothing to do with what i wear or how i act because i DEFINITELY do not act like a whore

[KittygosMeoWW]

Nope it’s about how they view woman in general

[StevenMcGarrett]

Some girls just have that look that equals sex. Although you are probably dealing with mostly immature guys. Mature guys know when they have a good thing going and will take the time to know a woman better.

[IslaTheWitch]

because you let them... simply don't care about those who can't see a beautiful person inside...

[dsrice071966]

I would like to get to know you as a person first then way down the road you can go further but you need to get to know the person first.

[CoolCatMar1]

The thing is they do that from the jump without even dating long

[CoolCatMar1]

Only one guy truly loved me for me but he wasn't my type and tbh if there is no chemistry i can't

[dsrice071966]

I would prefer to get to know the person then move forward, honesty and connection is the key. I am sorry he was not your type and had no chemistry. I am sure you will find someone special.

[CoolCatMar1]

I am also sure but he will definitely not be my age... Dudes my age are super insecure and immature

[dsrice071966]

I am very sorry about that, I am sure you will find someone nice and honest and treats you right.

[CoolCatMar1]

Thank you!!! I hope so too

[dsrice071966]

It will happen you are very nice and you have a lot of qualities, just be you and someone will be in love with you.

[CoolCatMar1]

Thank you... 🥹🥹🥹

[CoolCatMar1]

They chase me and then try to seem Alpha and always reject me🤣

[dsrice071966]

What is it that you want Alpha? Strong? Beta? I think I look at the personality first. I don't see why they would reject you, that is not kind.

[LiamJHayden]

Because most men, at least from what I've seen, are that way. Just ignore them till you find ones who consider you rather than what they hope to get from you.

[exitseven]

I do not think all guys do that. You always seemed okay with me.

[ProbablyClueless]

Horndogs are going to be horndogs no matter who they're talking to.

[Gwendoline]

Do you present yourself as a sexual object by the clothes you wear and pictures you post on social media?

[Anonymous]

In general I think men look at a lot of women like that. That’s why we gravitate toward the cutest women usually. It just happens. After they’ve gotten your attention, you start seeing each other then personality comes into place.

[Ironco]

You are meeting the wrong guys, but you are young, you will find the right guy. Just have fun and take your time.

[Ariesman81]

Cause I'd rather not sit and pretend I like hearing about the fascinating world of cosmetology. The dude's who seem interested are either gay or liars.

[CoolCatMar1]

💀💀💀💀💀💀💀💀💀

[Ariesman81]

I want a baby every October

[Alex-Snow]

They are missing out on the best part of you... your soul and your personality. Unless you just want random hookups don't let them just use u for sex. Ur thoughts?

[Still-alive]

this is the unfortunate byproduct of toxic masculinity and needs to change.

[TallAnon]

It's easy to like an appearance, but do you show people your interests and hobbies? If I don't know you, I can't like you on a deeper level. Your appearance is always on display however.

[CoolCatMar1]

Yes I do talk about my interests y'all don't know me and judge me y'all are sad

[TallAnon]

But that's a bit in opposition, isn't it? Us not knowing you means that we don't know about your interests

[CoolCatMar1]

🤣the fact you fr compare my real oife like with GAG? Should i fr tell y'all everything about me? Wtf

[CoolCatMar1]

Real life*

[TallAnon]

I think you're missing the point 🙂

[RedInnocent69]

Um, because you’re attractive, even if we haven’t go to to know you as a person yet

[msc545]

Perhaps you present yourself as a sexual object?

[Hawaiikai]

Because you tolerate it love. Don’t put yourself in the back burner ever

[FunkyMonkee]

I don't know. I wouldn't be interested in you as a sexual object.

[Aakash_Hangargi]

Oooh

[Staximus]

Just cut off guys who act like they are looking for sex before they even get to know you. Problem solved.

[Anonymous]

I guess most men around you are shallow and superficial.

[Bklynbadboy12]

Because your absolutely beautiful re-state//background_color_rgba (0, 0, 0, 0), font_color_rgb (77, 77, 77), justifyLeft

[Anonymous]

Maybe your body is more compelling than your personality.

[chocolatetwopointo]

because they only want sex

[d0x000]

They only want sex if sex is the only thing you're offering.

[chocolatetwopointo]

guys want sex even if u offer them everything

[d0x000]

What do women offer men?

[chocolatetwopointo]

love usually, actual love and not only sex

[d0x000]

Love? How do you offer love?

[chocolatetwopointo]

i dont offer love bc i dont want love. but most women who offer love, they want to be with a man for the right reasons, to hug, have fun and make memories together. not everything has to be about sex

[d0x000]

I asked what the women offer, and now you're telling me the women want to hug, have fun, and make memories together. See how this is about the women, and not the men?

[chocolatetwopointo]

yeah they do that with the man💀 they offer company to a man.

[chocolatetwopointo]

well yeah u asked what women offer ofc im gonna bring up women dumbass😭

[d0x000]

They do that with the man, but who says the man wants that offer? The women are doing it for themselves, and think the man wants it.

[chocolatetwopointo]

if he doesn't want that offer, maybe they shouldn't be together, yeah thats why they have to find somebody who wants that. what i brought up is only what some women offer and the most basic things women offer, loads of other women offer different things, some women might offer money etc

[d0x000]

So my question remains the same, what are those things that women offer?

[chocolatetwopointo]

i literally js told you, if u wanna ignore that u do u. but let me ask you what do men offer then?

[d0x000]

You told me things that women would like to do with me, not what women offer men. They're two different things. When you're offering something, you're giving up something in return for the offer. If women are also enjoying the hugs, the fun, and the memories, then it isn't an offer.

Well, men have to offer provisions to the women, as well as security.

[chocolatetwopointo]

women can also offer that yk, and how do yk women want that? not every woman wants that?

[d0x000]

Women can offer you money? Women don't get into relationships because they want to offer men money. Quite the opposite.

Sure, not every woman wants that, but it does constitute the majority.

[chocolatetwopointo]

everyones different so how do yk that? the same way the majority of men want to be loved by a woman💀

[d0x000]

You can tell from societal trends. Besides, you don't even know what love entails, and how to even offer love.

[chocolatetwopointo]

so if women dont offer anything according to you, why do u date then?

[d0x000]

I don't date.

[chocolatetwopointo]

well ur married, so u did date💀

[d0x000]

I didn't. It was an arranged marriage.

[chocolatetwopointo]

ahh okay, so u never actually wanted to get married at all?

[d0x000]

I did.

[chocolatetwopointo]

okay so then whats the problem man?

[d0x000]

I'm still asking you what women have to offer men.

[chocolatetwopointo]

and I've already told you.

[d0x000]

I've told you, when you're offering something, you're giving up something in return for the offer. If women are also enjoying the hugs, the fun, and the memories, then those aren't offers. It's mutual.

[chocolatetwopointo]

then sex wouldn't be an offer as you said it was💀 and I've already told u women can offer money and security as men do

[d0x000]

Firstly, I never said sex was an offer. Second, it's very rare when women enter relationships to offer money and security as men do, especially the latter. So we can't use that to generalize.

[chocolatetwopointo]

”if sex is the only thing ur offering” thats what u said tho? Not all women need or want mens money and security, so they’re js together to love and have company. you dont need to lose something to love somebody

[d0x000]

I said "They only want sex if sex is the only thing you're offering" in context to the question posted. I didn't say all, but it's the general majority. You don't use the minority to generalize. And I didn't say you need to lose something to love somebody.

[chocolatetwopointo]

u said women and men need to offer something to be in a relationship, so u basically said that, why can't people js be inlove to you?

[d0x000]

I didn't. I just asked you what women offered to men in relationships.

[chocolatetwopointo]

okay, personally i think no one needs to offer anything, as long as they love eachother

[d0x000]

Yes, which still brings me back to my original question, what do women offer men?

[chocolatetwopointo]

why do they have to offer anything? and I've already answered this

[d0x000]

They don't, and I didn't say the did. I keep asking this question in response to my original comment "They only want sex if sex is the only thing you're offering."

And you haven't answered it. Those aren't offers. They're mutual, not offers.

[chocolatetwopointo]

and as i said, women can offer money, support and love, u dont need to lose to offer something, why do u think that way?

[d0x000]

And as I also said, offering money is a rare exception that can't be used to generalize. I also asked you how you offer love, but you didn't give me an answer. And I never said you need to lose something to offer something.

[d0x000]

I said you have to give up something in order to offer something else. It's not that I think that way, but that's the definition of an offer.

[chocolatetwopointo]

it can tho, loads of women do that, js bc you’ve never seen it doesn't mean it exists. i dont offer love bc i dont want any love, so then why isn't good memories etc a good offer?

[chocolatetwopointo]

thats the point, you dont NEED to offer something in a relationship, the only thing that matters is if u love eachother

[d0x000]

Why do you keep changing what I say? I never said it doesn't exist. I said it's a rare exception. That implies that it does exist, but it does not constitute the majority. From the definition of an offer, a good memory, etc. isn't an offer because it's mutual. Hence, it's not an offer.

For the third and fourth time, and please stop changing what I am saying, I never said you need to offer something in a relationship. I only brought up these things in response to the original comment I made, and in relation to the question. It has nothing to do with relationships.

[chocolatetwopointo]

Omfg where i live its always 50/50 both offer money and security. omfg im so fucking done with you💀 i said what u said js in different words get a fucking grip.

[d0x000]

No, I didn't. The problem is you not understanding English expression. Go through the replies and read them over. There is nothing ambiguous in what I have said.

[chocolatetwopointo]

omfg im so done with you, you need to reread this whole convo if u still dont understand what i mean. Long story short, u dont need to offer anything in a relationship js love them and you’ll be fine

[d0x000]

And I that is none of my concern. My main concern is

"Why do men and guys see me as a sexual object and ALWAYS seem like they aren't interested in me as a person?"

Then I replied "They only want sex if sex is the only thing you're offering."

Then you replied "guys want sex even if u offer them everything"

Don't you see the instigation began with you?

[chocolatetwopointo]

yes meaning u could offer money, security, love, anything and men will still want sex

[d0x000]

And I am telling you that women rarely offer money and security to men, and that you haven't answered what it meant to offer love, you keep telling me fun and memories, but those aren't offers.

[chocolatetwopointo]

omfg, as i said money and security is normal as an offer from women, literally EVERYWHERE

[chocolatetwopointo]

id say js as many men as women offer money and security nowadays, bc its not needed at all

[d0x000]

No, it's not. Are you telling me that the reason you want to, for example, get into a relationship is to provide a man with money and security?

[d0x000]

Oh it is needed, very much, but women won't admit it because if they do, they'll lose their sense of "independence".

[chocolatetwopointo]

i dont want a relationship, but ik many women who do want that

[chocolatetwopointo]

its not needed unless they’re poor and doesn't have a job

[d0x000]

You don't want a relationship, yet here you are, talking in a position of authority. You know women who want boyfriends or husbands so they can provide financially and provide security?

[chocolatetwopointo]

yeah? whats the problem, i talk to people, i have friends and connections yk

[d0x000]

Even women who aren't poor still have expectations and entitlements from their partners. You can't know, and won't know because you're not in a relationship.

[chocolatetwopointo]

like what?

[d0x000]

You talk to people? That's it?

[d0x000]

Like financial and protection entitlements, like what I have been explaining to you in the previous replies.

[chocolatetwopointo]

yeah thats how u get to know others💀

[chocolatetwopointo]

not all women want that, usually only gold diggers want that

[d0x000]

Well, if you're using that criteria, I meet more far more couples than you do on a daily basis, and what I see is far different from what you're telling me.

[chocolatetwopointo]

we live in different countries, different cultures and different standards

[d0x000]

I've probably met far more European couples than you have.

[chocolatetwopointo]

lmao yeah i bet that💀

[d0x000]

I see about 5 new Europeans everyday. I work an average of 5 days per week. That's 25 Europeans every week, and a 100 Europeans every month. That's an average of about 1200 Europeans per year. And they're usually not the same people. So I would think so.

[chocolatetwopointo]

yeah yeah if u say so💀

[d0x000]

Well, I do say so. I have no reason to lie to you.

[chocolatetwopointo]

okay if u say so

[d0x000]

That's not going to change anything though.

[chocolatetwopointo]

okay😙

[d0x000]

All of a sudden, you don't have anything to say? Typical.

[chocolatetwopointo]

what do u want me to say?💀

[d0x000]

Nothing, it's just funny that all of a sudden, this talkative becomes quiet.

[chocolatetwopointo]

yeah i realised this convo wasn't going anywhere since u can't read. now id love an answer to the part where i had to explain a lemon to you

[CoolCatMar1]

@d0x000 just another incel hurt by one woman and projects his hate to everyone else. You been rejected and now hate on everyone else. Women can offer loyalty, coziness, love and respect. If you haven't found that yet you are either delusional, are around wrong people or aren't a man you believe you are.

[d0x000]

I'm married.

[noohair]

Sorry, social media has a big part in that.