Is it normal that my boyfriend always checks up on me?

[Anonymous]

[OfMiceandMen]

A little on the controlling side.

I had a girlfriend in High School who was constantly trying to get a rise out of me by hanging out and talking all sexy with other guys.

My attitude in life is, I am happy with or without you. She tried it one too many times and finally I walked by and said to the guy she was talking to... she's yours, I am done with her.

The look on her face bc it backfired was priceless.

So the moral of the story is don't try to control whomever your dating or you can go down in flames.

I suggest you have a talk with him and if he keeps it up or gets worse, than kick him to the curb.

[Asker]

He also hacked my IG account and keps tabs on all my social media accounts but he's also a very emotional man like he said one time when he was drunk that he remembered when i disappered 2 days it hurt him

[OfMiceandMen]

Ya, that is a huge red flag. The only way it might be okay is if you didn't give him the heads-up you were going away for two days. I think I would worry about my girl if she said nothing to me for two days with no explanation. More worried about how she was than keeping tabs on her.

[WellGreetingsISay]

In what way?

If he checks if you made it somewhere safely and makes sure you're feeling alright whenever you're not together, that is a good thing!

If he needs to know where you are at all times and what you're doing. And also tells you what you can't do, that's not good.

[inhua]

a lot of crimes get unsolved because the victim had no one who cared enough to know where they last were.

[spartan55]

Normal? Maybe to someone who thinks being controlling and possessive means he 'cares about me'...

[Asker]

Lol he also hacked my IG account and keeps tabs on all my social media accounts

[spartan55]

And you don't push back against any of this?

[abc3643]

Yes. That is instinctive and is actually a symptom of love.

[Danny_dan92]

He cares about your well-being

[LazerBean]

I would think.

[Anonymous]

He’s weird.