He said he’s not looking for anything serious to friends but never told me and wants to go on a date?

[Anonymous]

So me and this guy from work have got together at a few work things, have been messaging on and off and it’s pretty chilled but we’re into eachother. The last time we kissed and he said he’d like to meet up just us. people asked about us and he said “he told me he’s not looking for something serious”, however we haven’t even spoken about this yet? I asked if he’d be up for a drink one weekend and he said he’s really up for it, after I heard that he’d said what he said to friends I asked if he was sure and it was no big deal and he said he’s deffo up for it. I really don’t know what to think, I like this guy and want to take things slow but also don’t want to waste time and be used.

[FilmGuy93]

The reason he didn't say the same thing to you that he said to them is to avoid exactly this kind of confusion. He wants to take things slow and just go with the flow too. He likes you. He enjoys your company. He doesn't know if he wants a serious relationship with you yet; that's why he's spending time with you to figure that out. Don't overthink shit. Don't make things harder than they need to be. You enjoy each other... just roll with it.

It's none of y'all's friends' business.

[Guy13]

Don't overthink but be acutely aware but not Mother Hen. We interact differently than you women do. What we say to our guys does not need to be your Business. This will blow up in your face... at least with me up in my guy life.

[HollyK21]

Even if you haven’t spoken with him about relationships he is clearly speaking to other people about your dynamic and to me that’s concerning. I’m sure you don’t care to hear the “cliche” about how dating someone at work is a bad idea, maybe your job doesn’t penalize for interoffice romance, but the gossip and reputation that surrounds you can be just as shitty.

[WanderingLoveWizard]

Disregarding your modern terminology, what I gather from this is that he's not looking for something serious lol.
He probably wants to hook up and hang out with you until you get sick of eachother, but he's not looking to get married in a few years and have 3 kids in your new beachfront home the two of you bought together.

That being said, most guys aren't looking for anything serious, but if the girl he's hanging out with happens to steal his heart, it can absolutely turn into that!

[spartan55]

Why are you listening to his friends about that? That's not very smart.

[Mayo503]

So what are you asking then…?

[Stevefiveo]

It sounds like he is just taking things slow.