Why is my gym trainer giving me free sessions?

[Anonymous]

My sessions have been over but he's still giving me free sessions. He flirts with me, is always smiling and laughing when he's with me, keeps staring at me a lot, touches me quite often and has even insinuated that he wants to have sex with me. Also, he always hangs around after our sessions to talk to me for a long periods just asking me personal questions, telling me about his life etc.

[CopperStove]

He wants to have sex with you. That’s what that is, it’s not that hard to decipher come on girl.

[Asker]

But he hasn't had sex with me yet what makes him think doing all this will make me want to have sex with him?

[CopperStove]

Well let’s start here, and forgive me for being blunt with the question, do you want to have sex with him?

[Asker]

Well I do find him attractive

[Asker]

and he is attractive

[CopperStove]

There you go. Guys aren’t as impatient as y’all seem to think we are. He’s trying to seduce you and it’s working. Make her laugh and offer validation, that’s how you seduce a girl. He’s a trainer so he probably looks good too. He’s trying to have sex with you and he probably noticed noticed that he’s making progress to that goal. My advice is to ask yourself what you want, I can tell you on intuition that he’s not trying to be in a relationship. He would ask you out to spend time with you outside his job if that was the case since you’ve been receptive to him. If you just want to sex with him then go ahead but don’t expect anything serious.

[Asker]

No I haven't been receptive in fact I have been pretty much neutral. He does spend time with me after our sessions like sit with me for long periods just asking me personal questions like about my hobbies, my likes dislikes, what I do in my free time about my family about my studies etc.

[Asker]

It's always him who comes to sit with me after our sessions to talk I never initiate all that.

[Asker]

And actually it's him who keeps laughing and smiling when he's with me he loves my sense of humor, he's not the one trying to make me laugh.

[CopperStove]

I’m talking about a date. If you want to try for something more you could always ask him out. I’m just giving you my intuition based on what you’ve said to best answer your question. Ultimately the choice of what to do is naturally and justly yours, I’m just trying to answer the question you ask. In my view I don’t think he’s trying for something serious, if you think he is then I’d at least recommend insist on spending some time together outside the gym, go out together a few time before you sleep with him. If he does that he’s much more likely to be serious about it. Again, just my two cents.

[Asker]

Well I totally get what you're saying but like he keeps telling me about his life too (even though I never ask) like how his job is very time consuming and he has a lot of house chores to do as well so he was telling me he barely gets any time for himself. Like for eg: he loves playing basketball it's his favourite sport but he was telling me he doesn't get time to even play that and he really aspires to play that at a domestic, state level etc.

[CopperStove]

Just ask him if he’d like to go out one weekend. If he’s really into you he’ll make time. I may be wrong he might be trying to spend time with you. Give him a chance to show it if that’s something you want. But in my opinion you shouldn’t sleep with him until he does. That’s not being a bitch that’s being smart, he’ll like it too if he’s serious.

[Asker]

Yeah I was thinking of doing that but I was kind of nervous

[prensesmishka]

You gave the answer yourself. Why do you continue to take free lessons even though you know this? It means you're interested in him too.

[Anonymous]

He could be between clients. It could be just a slow time for him.

[Asker]

He has a LOT of clients

[Asker]

He's like the best trainer here

[Opinion Owner]

Some people are highly efficient at what they do.

[Anonymous]

Because he wants to have sex with you.

[Asker]

but he hasn't had sex with me yet