Why are some men so thirsty?

Question

I meet men, they say I’m beautiful, then they say weird shit like:

I want to give you 5 babies.
If we meet can I stay at yours?
Why won’t you send me a kiss?

Bear in mind these are fully grown men around the ripe age of 30.

It’s such a turn off. You could be the most attractive good looking guy but when you say weird shit like that you’re automatically just no.

TonyV · Accepted Answer

Well it's hard to get practice flirting well when no women give you a chance and won't tell THEM what they did wrong.

It's easy for you too get here and call him weird behind his back but from his perspective he showed an interest in you while also sharing his plans for the future, and you just wrote him off as a creeper.

Yeah just being nice and friendly can work better, but it also has a risk. A risk that you banish him to the friendzone, or if he starts off slow then eventually shows a real interest you'd be here saying "why do all men pretend to be friends just to sleep with me?"

Like someone else said, you really don't understand how little attention the average guy gets, hard for a guy to learn from bad flirting and get good at in when we date as many people in a year as the average woman talks to in a month.

Yeah he came off kind of weird, but he was also honest, clear and straight to the point about his intentions, he didn't play it slow and wait till you too were deep into a relationship to find out weither or not you want to pop out 5 kids for him. Why should a guy go slow to eventually find out if you 2 have the same goals?

standardguy · Accepted Answer

Well the first too are weird:

I want to give you 5 babies.
If we meet can I stay at yours?

But the last one just seems like normal flirting:

Why won’t you send me a kiss?

When you chat with them online you send kisses long before you would kiss a date in real world. Due to the lack of physical contact you act extroverted and send more emojis and show by that your interest.

How do you chat with them? Do you do small talk or do you ask them out about their opinions and likes/dislikes?

Apple1996 · Accepted Answer

It's cuz men don't know how to keep their creepy thoughts to themselves. And yeah I agree it's such a turn off. I don't even like it when men call me beautiful or anything cuz it comes off as super creepy unless I'm vibing with them then it's okay but just like random compliments is to much for me to handle

belle_kai · Accepted Answer

Any guy that calls me honey, baby, sweetie anything like that in the early stages screams fuckboy or loser and I won't entertain it. Usually there are signs you got to weave out the bad ones you will find someone decent but don't look too hard it will happen

FilmGuy93 · Answer

Women don't seem to quite appreciate how little attention and affection men get.

Wade12345 · Answer

I've been treated like a human being by maybe 6 girls from 6th grade through college, and then maybe 2 other women THOUGHT they were treating me right since then, but they ultimately did me more wrong than anyone else.. So I guess I can count on 2 hands the total number of female human beings who have ever even spoken to me as an actual human being.

I've lost count of the number of women who have falsely accused me of one form of wrong or another, or else told me to "get lost" and otherwise mocked me for even trying to ask them on a date or ask them to coffee or something like that.

The only date I've ever been on was with this younger woman at church one time, and that was 19 years ago, and I was at fault for it not working, simply because I was so inexperienced at dating that I messed up and I also discovered my social anxiety problem was way worse than I even know how to put into words to this day. I spent much of the "date" too trapped inside the social anxiety trap I experienced back then to even get a word to come out of my mouth correctly. Turns out its something I'm born with, which they can treat with a pill. Now I don't have that problem, but as far as I can tell women still like to falsely accuse me of all manner of wrong-doing, so I tend not to approach a woman at all without some sort of eye-witness to what is about to happen.

One time, in 2009, six different women filed false police reports against me and claimed I was following them home, but I had closed circuit camera evidence that I was sitting at Wendy's eating a burger at the time they all claimed I was stalking them. The police dropped the charges. I tried counter-suing them, but no lawyer would take the case.

D_Bone_Steak · Answer

Ahhhh... look this up..."selling her the dream" Just look it up for fun. So I would come at you like "we will grow old together" and "you will have all my babies" and bullshit like that. I'm glad you actually see through it and isn't falling for that type of shit... but put yourself in my shoes where I've watched so many women walk right into it like a retard. It's hilarious... not going to lie... it's funny as shit. They just fall for it like in full retard mode.

Novacane · Answer

I agree and say this all the time there are a lot of weird men out there so be careful. But to answer your question outside just the "creepy" ones, I would say most are thirsty because they dont get the privilege of people approaching them therefore they have a lack of communication skills and will blur out the first thing that comes to mind. You will either deal with creepy men or men too shy to even speak to you. So a lot of guys know that nothing is going to "naturally" come to them because they have to make the first move but they will get rejection 9 times out of ten especially if they lack skills so they have to talk to more people witch will come off as thirsty

CaptainOverthink · Answer

These are very inexperienced men that probably has had no masculine rolemodels in life or they've wasted their life with games and avoidant behaviors only friends that behave the same.
It's also very possible that because of these things they've been burned by todays intolerance to late men in learning and has not gotten used to going upstream which is pretty much what being a man is all about.

They have lots of failing to do before it gets better and the longer they wait the worse it gets.

lightbulb27 · Answer

they don't know how to socialize, are poorly trained, driven by alcohol and testosterone and desperation.

Find a new place to find males... not bars.

You could optionally take them home to their parents place and slap their parents for the poor training

Pacquet · Answer

Men aren't socialized like women are typically not taught how to show interest in an attractive way, mostly because parents and superiors are working with outdated norms. Similar how society tells women their value is based on their appearance men are told their value is based off being accepted. The messaging is nuanced day to day yet constant and it results in behaviors like you're describing. It might be easier to think of it this way: some men approach women how men would like to be approached.

WanderingLoveWizard · Answer

Because when they look at you, they don't see a person with feelings and thoughts and insecurities. They see a nice ass, a pair of boobies and a pretty face that they'd love to have their way with.

Granted, even men who know how treat women might still only see the ladder, but they've at least learned how to control their impulses and watch their mouth

Personally, I look at women and see a basket full of intense emotions and fantasy, and I know to tread lightly

Berethor · Answer

Men are more sexual, and the west have low birth rates, mature men are aware of that. :)

Shamalien · Answer

Eh that is pretty creepy lol. I mean not the calling you beautiful part, but the asking to stay at your place? The babies thing is kind of funny in my opinion but the other shit is too far

Gotta say though, when women complain about male attention it makes me cringe. It’s a weird form of subtle bragging that constitutes an integral part of competition between females. So. LAME.

OfMiceandMen · Answer

I think you are hanging around the wrong guys. They sound like POS still trying to live the bachelor life and score every weekend.

If you are meeting these guys in a bar, then I can see why, try the library, bookstore or coffee shop. Decent guys, wouldn't speak to you like that.

Guy13 · Answer

What the bloody 🩸 hell had happened to the UK 🇬🇧.
It sounds like Feminism once it has worked itself out, Sugga Momma.

You need a guy from the Northern or Southern Americas….
Gorgeous, 😚 I know the dentist 🦷 hate you… There’s no way to improve on that smile 😃 …

Hmmm, princess 👸🏻: you must be a magician cause when I see you everyone disappears ♨️…

You don’t expect me to pay for all this do you now?

The_Shadow_Dweller · Answer

These men have seen shit. They have their priorities set straight. They do not want to waste time by participating in shenanigans. They come straight to the point. If you are not okay, they simply go to the next one.

It is you who is losing out on some good men just because of their lack of communication skills with girls, particularly.

Vesuvius87 · Answer

They are usually lovebombers that will say anything to try to get into our pants. They will throw the ''I love you'' line randomly.

TheMadMothra · Answer

Frankly, its because the world is corrupted by perversion. Men too often look at porn and sexual images of women, which fuel their thirst, and give them an extremely strong desire to he sexual with someone no matter the cost. We need more gentlemen, seriously.

NathanDavis · Answer

where do you meet these guys? and why... lol

MrCommodore · Answer

I suspect its due to a lack of action. I think any man who is getting some regularly won't act that way ever.

Exterminatore · Answer

I’m only attracted to girls….. yet somehow that stuff was sooooo lame it turned me off also. I probably won’t be able to get hard after reading that now for about a week.

Sorry you have to deal with guys so desperate. They must not have ever seen a girl before.

Anonymous · Answer

To be honest almost 90% men are creepy and thirsty inside, but most men know how to talk & respect a woman, some men who are not social or in drug or sex addiction might get out of his charecter, but you know what " Men will be men is a fact"

Anonymous · Answer

Okay, I can understand putting babies' stuff can be pretty immature but from your general attitude, it seems you perhaps don't like the lovey-dovey stuff. A lot of men can be lovey-dovey (so do a lot of women) or romantic in relationships. Some women prefer it, some hate it.

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