Guys, Men who prefer to be left alone when you're feeling sad, lonely or depressed (if you were married). Why?

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Guys, men, and married men, how do you want your wife to show you support when you are sad, lonely, and depressed?

You men were asked how you'd want your wife to support you when feeling sad, lonely or depressed. A surprising amount actually said that they wanted to be left alone.

Isn't it better to have us be with you, listen to you or at least hold you? If you're feeling lonely, wouldn't it be counterproductive to go and be alone instead of being with someone who understands or wants to understand you?

Thanks in advance, fellas!

Guy13 · Accepted Answer

Being Present in others' emotional pain, much less his own, is circuit box overload for this kind of man or woman. The core of your issue is that there has never been the deep emotional bond that manifests itself in a love that is deeper than sex dependent.

The bottom line is you married an individual that leans towards emotionally unavailable. They have difficulty responding to their own needs and probably yours too as if you are interwoven-this will never happen. "They/You don't care about yours or my feelings or emotional health" is exactly correct... they didn't want to be like that though.

Now, as messed up as that is one like this will cheat in a heart beat in form of Vegas or one nightstand as there is no emotional connection but there is a doable emotional surge... then its done... like a Buzz. They could even be habitual cheaters.

Sjoerd85 · Accepted Answer

If I am down, just let me be on my own for a while. I just need to recover without external input, which could just make it worse.

If I need company, I will say so. Nothing against you, but sometimes being alone for a while really works best.

Zandoval · Answer

Nah. If I want to talk to you/be with you, I will come to you willingly. Unless I do, it is best if you leave me alone so I can work things out on my own, letting me know I can come to you if needed is enough.

Kinkyhubby · Answer

Won't know, I really don't get sad, or depressed. I usually need 5 minutes to be left alone whe. I get passed off to clear my head. If there are things I can't not fix, or out I my control I forget about them and move on. If I was sad a bj or sex would cheer me right up though. I'm not a very mushy, look at me and my problems type of person

TheSpaceGnome · Answer

I'm following this because I don't understand it either. I've met women who want to be alone when upset, and I always found it weird for the same reasons you do.

B4851 · Answer

Well, I'm not married and never have been. However, I do like a certain amount of alone time when I'm feeling stressed because it gives me an opportunity to contemplate different things.

JackCarter · Answer

A hug from her is all I need! LOL

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