I’m tired of being the side entertainment people play with when they’re bored. What do I do?

[Rumornfitbt]

I feel like I’m just a side entertainment for guys especially. People don’t come talk to me cause I’m an interesting or important part of their life. They come up to me cause I’m a side entertainment. I feel like people see me this way because I don’t have an attitude in my voice, and they find me boring or something.

[PrettyPriya]

I am really not sure what you are asking here. What do you mean when you say side entertainment? I also don't quite understand how people come to you because you are interesting but then you say you feel like people see you this way because they find you boring?

Which is it? Interesting or boring? You might want to use the update box and update the question to clear that confusion. So, without more information, it is a bit hard to know what advice to give.

It would be helpful to know a bit about your personality. Are you quiet or shy? If that is the case, it may be just a case of speaking up in a group setting. Again, I am really lost on what you are actually asking. If you update the question, I will revise my opinion accordingly.

[DryGermanGuy]

She has been spamming this contextless ramblings for close to a year now, with new user names every few hours or days. Some of which were removed by admins last night. This person needs professional help.

[PrettyPriya]

@DryGermanGuy Oh bother. 😞

[spartan55]

There are several of these type of users on this site unfortunately.

[SnowedIn]

Make yourself interesting.

Be the one who approaches others. Choose who you want to interact with. The rest of them don't matter.

So, what do you do? Read the news so you have things to talk about (not politics). Read Wikipedia so you have interesting things to bring up. Little facts will start conversations and make you interesting. Learn about sports and follow local and national teams. Wear an interesting piece of jewelry that has a story about it that people will notice, ask about, and that jump starts a conversation. In other words, be interesting and people will no longer see you as side entertainment. And once that happens, you can do other things together.

[JamesDiaz11]

I'd suggest you evaluate what type/ level of guys you're interacting with, and get an objective idea (from a guy friend) of where you stand. Many girls spend their 20's getting run through by the Chad's & Tyron's, assuming it's just because the guys are "emotionally unavailable" (or in that specific case the guy is a cheater) that the guys don't commit- when it's more a reflection of the girls' value in guys eyes.

If your looks are average 5 or 6/10, and you don't really have much else going, yet the guys you mess around with are high value guys (good looking, well off, or have status) it's to be expected that these guys place you as a side-chick.

[ChillaxingLove]

I went out on a date with this woman and we realized we didn’t like each other after a few days. And Guess who she’s in a relationship with now…. A convict.

I feel like some women have really bad taste in men. You need to ask your friends that you trust to help you, because it might be your attracting or your attracted to the wrong people.

[Guy13]

I think I got you. Back-up, fall back, and nothing better to do girl has got to stop. Please bring someone that’s serious about a relationship with me, my way?

[Jdjfjcjj]

By side entertainment do you mean someone that guys only have fun time with and don't want to commit to?

Or were you speaking literally?

[Batsy01010101]

not true at all i'm just trying to distance myself emotionally from someone so i don't get hurt again by her

[Iron_Man]

Surround yourself with positive people

[In_Trance]

keep your clothes on and start saying no

[TrillXHippy]

Stop allowing it then