Why is he acting distant since I invited more friends along for dinner?

[Anonymous]

Originally it was going to be the two of us but I didn’t want to lead him on so I suggested we bring more people and now he’s ignoring me. Was it meant to be a date? He seems pissed at me.

[SnowedIn]

It sounds like it was meant to be a date. He's acting distant because he was interested and you poured cold water on that. You're not wrong -- your intent was good ("didn't want to lead him on") but it sounds like the communication was crappy. You should have been up front with him and either asked if this was a date or said, "hey, I'm going to keep this casual and invite a few people to join us."

[Guy13]

No one likes rejection which is what you did for the right reasons…

[Asker]

Yeah I just wasn’t into him romantically. Ever. So I was trying to be kind by inviting more friends along. Let him down gently and give him the chance to avoid me if he wanted to. I always try to be kind, unless I think someone’s being mean to me.

[Truthatanycost]

Then it looks like it worked perfectly!

[designer1]

I mean it’s because he likes you and wanted to get to know you better. He thought it’d be a date and now is simply butt hurt. He will get over it eventually. Just give him space.

[Pinay_ako]

Yes of course. He wanted you all to himself. And now it’s clear you don’t feel the same way. He’s slowly distancing himself away from you.

[RHK36]

Getting friend zoned hurts and you are wondering why he's acting distant. 🤦🏻‍♂️are all women this thick or just pretending? I see so many obvious and frankly stupid questions on the app like this. A good amount of y'all need to stay single until you develop some self awareness at least.

[Anonymous]

From my experience, if you give a guy a gist chance, he will grab it. If he's disappointed now, let him be and time will heal. If he asks later, invite friends every time because you don't want to lead him on. It's important to be firm with your decision and communicate clearly that you're not interested in a romantic relationship. Don't go on one-on-one outings with him because it could send mixed signals. It's better to establish clear boundaries and stick to them to avoid any confusion or hurt feelings.

[Anonymous]

Because you made your feelings for him abundantly clear. Why should he NOT ignore you now?

”Hey you want to grab some dinner sometime?”

“Sure! I’m going to bring some friends!”

Great... 🙄

Haven’t you ever heard, “Three’s a crowd.”

[The_Shadow_Dweller]

You just ruined your chance. Of course, he is ignoring you. He thinks you see him as a friend, or even worse, a card for payments. Try to give him one reason, based on the experience from his perspective, to not ignore you.

[NostalgiaSenpi]

Because he didn't want to be friends. He wanted more.

[Sixgunsound]

It looks like he had other expectations.

[mathew1543]

He only wanted to be with you

[msc545]

ask him