Why do girls get emotionally attached?

[Anonymous]

To a guy after she's had sex with him?..regardless of what my friedns say. They useally have some emtioal attachment and feel they have right over the guy. Why is that the case?

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I'm curious to know because I know if I were to have sex with a guy, I would expect more then just a cuddy buddy from him.It would not just be like just sex to me not even if I agreed to it I'd want more from him.

[drummerdude25]

A guy can get more emotionally attached as well... I would most likely be one of them, but I'm saving my virginity for the right girl and time, so I don't have to deal with any further attachment that I don't need.

Girls and guys are actually a lot more alike than people think. We all feel the same things, but there are girls that care, and girls that don't, just like there are guys that care, and guys that don't... It comes down to emotional-maturity.

For some reason, a lot of the guys that girls tend to date are the ones that just don't care, oddly enough... It's almost like it's "more attractive" for a guy not to care about the girl or something, which is as messed up as it sounds. There are loads of guys out there that actually have a heart, it's just that most girls aren't open to dating them.

It's all about finding the right guys, and a lot girls have no idea where to look. If you want a guy to take you seriously, first of all, the girl needs to keep her pants on... Second of all, find a guy that actually shows you that he cares about you, and is willing to wait for sex. He may not come with a "hardened" bad-boy exterior, or be smooth with the ladies, but there are plenty of other good-looking NORMAL guys out there that aren't trying to be the stereotypical tough-guy, and that are quite mature emotionally... Besides, how can you expect a guy to love you if he shows no emotion and tries to play it cool all the time?

[Anonymous]

Women don't get really attached to them emotionally after sex. They are attached to them because the guy can give the woman the kind of instant gratification that she wants.

[jrose]

I don't have an answer for WHY, I just know that it's definitely the case for me. It's always that way for me with sex and almost always that way with kissing or fooling around. I guess the easiest explanation is that I don't tend to kiss/hook up/sleep with guys I don't have an emotional attachment to. I can't explain why, but for the most part the physical stuff is kind of an extension of deeper feelings. Some people can separate the physical pleasure from the emotional attachement- I'm just not one of them. I don't know if it's just a stereotype with women, but I do know a lot of women will enter into a no-strings relationship thinking they can make it more and get hurt when they can't. But there are women out there who can have a sexual relationship without getting emotionally attached, I know a few. Different things work for different people I guess. Just know what you can and can't handle and don't get talked into going against your instincts.

[gummybear888]

spellcheck**

sociological perceptions will differ.

perhaps it is something related to the fact that women have more consequences sleeping with men than vice versa.

common sense basically dictates if a woman sleeps with a guy and he doesn't give a f*** about her, she can end up 9 months pregnant with a douche bag's baby. perhaps the emotional attachment is related to that or people genuinely have self respect for their bodies.

[Red_Raconteur]

I've always viewed sex as a kind of spiritual thing. It is two bodies becoming a single entity, one being. You are sharing yourself with another and becoming one with each other. And from the way I see it, how can you not become attached or feel some sort of bond after that?

This is why I would only sleep with someone I had an attachment to (ie, love) beforehand.

[ladsin]

hmm question then if I may miss, how can guys have sex and not feel this bond but girls can?

[Red_Raconteur]

There are guys who do and guys who don't, just as there are girls who do and girls who don't. I know plenty people of both genders who feel the same way I do and will only have sex withing loving and committed relationships. I also know people of both genders who view sex as something fun and are promiscuous. It's a personal choice.

[calialltheway1993]

Because there are those type of hormones running thorugh your body that keep you attached to a guy for about 2-3weeks. After 3weeks, these feelings and attachment start to fade away slowly. Unless you really like the guy or had good sex

[udolipixie]

Chemistry.

Women bond through sex they release chemicals that cause bonding.

Guys don't bond through sex because their higher testerone levels block that chemical from releasing.

Also it's not regard;ess of what your friends say if a girl has a high enough testerone level that chemical gets blocked.

[udolipixie]

lol at the down votes it's called oxytocin

[Anonymous]

I think most girls think sex is a big deal so when they have sex with a guy they become emotionally attached. I am not one of those girls and I do not have high levels of testosterone.

[Anonymous]

It is hormonal. The feelings from sex make women's brains produce certain hormones that lead to attachment perhaps serotonin not sure. So they can't help it most of the time it is biological and sh*tty to deal with.

[ladsin]

lol I wanna hear the answer to this =P

[littlemisschatterbox]

Same here. I'm curious.

[Ezmotts]

Idk, you tell me.