Is he playing hard to get? does he like me? what’s his deal?

[Anonymous]

I’ve been talking to this guy. He wants to hang out for sex, but I don’t want to. one night I asked him to hang out and he said he was busy. He also text me randomly and sometimes takes really long (like next day) to reply! Is he playing hard to get? I told him I can’t do this anymore on text. He said ok and an hour later FaceTimed me. What does he want?

Guys- I don’t get it. Are you more into a girl when she pulls away? Do you become obsessive? Hw was obsessed with my looks will he crawl back or give up?

[Anonymous]

Based on what you've shared, it sounds like this guy is primarily interested in a sexual relationship and may not be looking for anything more serious or committed. It's possible that he's playing hard to get, but it's also possible that he's simply not that interested in pursuing a relationship with you.

It's important to remember that everyone has their own unique motivations and reasons for their behavior, and it's not always possible to know for sure what someone else is thinking or feeling.

If you're not comfortable with the idea of a purely sexual relationship, it's important to communicate your boundaries clearly and to prioritize your own well-being and needs. It's okay to say no and to walk away from a relationship that doesn't feel fulfilling or respectful.

As for whether or not he will crawl back or give up, it's impossible to say for sure. It's possible that he may continue to pursue you, or he may move on to someone else. The most important thing is to focus on your own needs and boundaries and to make decisions that feel right for you.

[SteveSmith1985]

This guy is not playing hard to get. Guys never do (just like girls don't. Not in real life).

It's easy to see what's happening here, unless I'm missing something key about your situation (which is entirely possible).

This guy just wants sex from you. That's it. Explanation finished.

That's all this is. I don't know your history. I don't know your relationship. But it sounds like you want it to be more than sex. And he does not. Sorry.

[Asker]

Thanks this is helpful. But I said I won’t have sex with him. So why does he keep reaching out?

[SteveSmith1985]

He is hoping you'll change your mind (would be my assumption)

[Asker]

I asked him to hang out. He rejected. I don't know what he wants from me

[SteveSmith1985]

But what makes you think he might want anything more than sex? It sounds like he is rejecting hanging out, because he doesn't want to hang-out. It just sounds like you want more from him than he wants from you. That's really all it is. You're hoping for more... he is totally uninterested in that. But he still thinks there's a chance you might sleep with him despite what you've said... because YOU still seem to want to hang out... so to him that's only something he's interested in if it's meeting for sex. He doesn't want to hang out.

There's a mismatch in what you both want. Your confusion is because you keep making the mistake of thinking he might want more than just sex... because you WANT him to want more than sex. But he does not.

[spartan55]

Guys don't play hard to get. You are just someone to pass the time.

[WanderingLoveWizard]

Men don't play hard to get. We either like you or we don't. Sometimes we only like you for one thing

[Anonymous]

He wants sex, you said you didn't. Guys don't play games unless they're fuckboys. Not a hard concept.

[Asker]

So what’s the point of continuously texting and reaching out after I explicitly said I won’t have sex

[Opinion Owner]

He's trying to get your pussy. Fuckboys don't stop until they do or see they have absolutely no chance. It's a game to them.