We are just friends, but he got my initial tattooed on him?

[Anonymous]

We are just friends, known each other years. Both in relationships and we are all friends, me and his wife, him and my husband. Me and him are the root of the friendship, we knew each other people our significant others, I’m not sure how to describe our friendship, we are friends, never close, I’m closer to him than any of my female friends, I care about him but it’s not anything more than a friendly care. Last week he was getting a tattoo, I joked around saying ok don’t forget to get an “s” for my name… I was clearly joking. Anyway a few hours later he sends me it; shocked was an understatement. Why did he do this? When he asked he said becus I told him too? Lol I had to play it off as if it wasn’t a big deal as it would make it weird, but it feels awkward now I know he has this letter on him for me that my husband and his wife doesn’t know about, and he’s twerked the design to look as if it’s part of the picture, but it’s clearly an “s”. Just why did he take a joke so far?

[SteveSmith1985]

Wow... I mean... wow.

I don't know what the hell he was thinking. This is exactly as weird as you think it is. Some of the people I've been closest with have been female friends. I understand how important and close those bonds can be. But never in my life have I considered getting a friends initials tattooed. That's insane. Just nuts. But it's clearly inappropriate, and this guy clearly sees you as more than a friend. I don't know if there's any way to possibly escape acknowledging that fact.

No friend would EVERE do this. Not EVER. Nobody HAS ever done this... with the initials of a friend of the opposite sex... while both in relationships with other people. This is... not normal.

No guy is going to be able to tell you why he "took that joke too far" because this is not a guy thing. This is not a guy thing at all! There is no good reason for this. There is nothing I can tell you to mitigate how weird and inappropriate this is. It's both super-weird, and super-inappropriate.

What he supposed you'd think about it... is completely beyond me. He should know it would creep-you-out. Because it would creep anyone out. It's wildly inapropriate. Holy shit.

[Anonymous]

Women like who act like you are just the worst. How would you genuinely feel if your literal husband was so close with another woman that she got his initial tattooed? I’ll be straight with you it’s fuckin weird that you can just brush all this off when you know he likes you. Don’t say you don’t know either. You’re not dumb, so why fuel the situation and pretend to be friends? You think clarifying this fact will matter if he already caught feelings?

[Asker]

Thank you, but if he has feelings that are more than friendly it’s the first I’ve heard of it. He’s definitely just a friend and the thought of anything sexual makes me feel physically sick. Yes I joked and told him to get my intisl, like I would with my female friends or even my brother, mum, dad etc. I didn’t in a million years expect him to go head, in what crazy world is that possible. I was confused when I saw him next, and said it was a funny coincidence that there’s an actual “s” on the tattoo, to which he got funny and said he asked for it, as I asked him to do it! This made me uncomfortable, I told him I was only joking and didn’t expect him to do it, he said well I can’t do anything about it now and we’ve not spoke of it since!

[Opinion Owner]

It’s hard for me to imagine that just because he didn’t voice it, at no point over all these years you had zero hint or indication that he had at least a crush on you. But if you say you had no idea I’m not gonna tell you how you feel, obvi. It’s good you haven’t talked to him and I hope you have no more intention to, now that you know how he feels. It’s wrong.

[Anonymous]

It's his first name.. not yours😮‍💨

[KrakenAttackin]

He is an idiot.