So I’ve had this friend for like 5ish years and for a long time it just felt like friends but recently it’s felt a bit different.
He’s starting joking around with me more sexually and in a flirty way but it’s hard to tell because he jokes like that with other friends too sometimes.
A lot of time it definitely feels jokey but sometimes it feels like he just lets stuff slip and then adds a “hahaha jkjk” to lighten what he said or make it less awkward. There’s been a couple times where he’ll say something like “you have a fat butt” or “you’re sexy” but then laugh it off and go “haha jkjk” most recently I was doing something and he just went “do that again and I’ll have to kiss you” but he didn’t laugh it off as quickly as usual. That’s why I’m here questioning everything.
Even though he jokes with his friends there are some things that he only does with me. I’m usually his first choice to call when he’s off work or bored, he always invites me to go places with him, he buys me things when we’re out, one time he was given 4 concert tickets and instead of finding people to go with he only brought me and then continued to talk about how this was our first concert together, he also gets weird when we talk about how I’ve never been in a relationship, he used to ask me what my type is too.
He also more recently told me how when he likes someone he won’t tell them he likes them he’ll just show them and I kinda feel like maybe he’s trying to show me and I’m just not getting it? Like I wish he’d just straight up tell me😭. What do you guys think? What should I do? I don’t wanna be wrong and make our friendship weird if he doesn’t like me.
He’s starting joking around with me more sexually and in a flirty way but it’s hard to tell because he jokes like that with other friends too sometimes.
A lot of time it definitely feels jokey but sometimes it feels like he just lets stuff slip and then adds a “hahaha jkjk” to lighten what he said or make it less awkward. There’s been a couple times where he’ll say something like “you have a fat butt” or “you’re sexy” but then laugh it off and go “haha jkjk” most recently I was doing something and he just went “do that again and I’ll have to kiss you” but he didn’t laugh it off as quickly as usual. That’s why I’m here questioning everything.
Even though he jokes with his friends there are some things that he only does with me. I’m usually his first choice to call when he’s off work or bored, he always invites me to go places with him, he buys me things when we’re out, one time he was given 4 concert tickets and instead of finding people to go with he only brought me and then continued to talk about how this was our first concert together, he also gets weird when we talk about how I’ve never been in a relationship, he used to ask me what my type is too.
He also more recently told me how when he likes someone he won’t tell them he likes them he’ll just show them and I kinda feel like maybe he’s trying to show me and I’m just not getting it? Like I wish he’d just straight up tell me😭. What do you guys think? What should I do? I don’t wanna be wrong and make our friendship weird if he doesn’t like me.
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He doesn't think you like him beyond friendship. You need to change that if you are interested. You sit there and gripe about him not telling you how he feels, and then turn right around and say you can't do it because you 'don't want to ruin the friendship' ugh... really? So he is supposed to take that risk
with you? Why? Have you anything to show interest?
Ugh😭 you’re so right. I’m bad with this stuff in general so I’ve been trying to change and show interest as well but I guess I’m just afraid to do more because I like him enough that if I were to make things weird between us because he didn’t feel the same I’d lose him.
I don't see how he could be any more obvious. I thought girls were experts on the whole hinting crap. Guess that's when they are the ones doing the hinting...😂 😂 😂
Sounds like a creep