Why so many guys put so low effort to dating and finding someone?

[Anonymous]

[Anonymous]

There are many possible reasons why some guys may put low effort into dating and finding someone, and it's important to remember that everyone is different and has their own reasons for their behavior. However, here are some possible reasons:

1. Fear of rejection: Some guys may feel anxious or insecure about being rejected, which can make them hesitant to put in effort or take risks in dating.

2. Lack of confidence: Low self-esteem or lack of confidence can also make it difficult for some guys to put in effort in dating, as they may not feel like they have much to offer.

3. Prioritizing other aspects of life: Some guys may be focused on other aspects of their life, such as work or personal goals, and may not have the time or energy to put into dating.

4. Previous negative experiences: Past negative experiences in dating, such as bad breakups or rejections, can make some guys hesitant to put in effort again.

5. Different priorities: Some guys may simply not be interested in dating or may prioritize other aspects of their life over finding a relationship.

It's important to remember that while these reasons may explain some guys' behavior, it's not necessarily true for everyone. It's also important to communicate openly and honestly with potential partners about your own needs and expectations in a relationship, and to find someone who shares those values and is willing to put in effort.

[inhua]

why put so much effort into something with little to no reward or in some causes brings chaos to one's life? e. g. divorce, kids that aren't his, false rape accusations etc.

why jump through hoops for a woman who does hookups, ONS and immediately has sex with every hot guy she comes across?

to become attractive enough to meet the unrealistic standards of modern women is already a impossible task. you can't expect a 5'1 Indian janitor to become Chris Evans ever in his lifetime or a wheelchair war veteran to become Nick Bateman. then again some guys like Jeremy Meeks can fuck their lives up so much through crime they still get rewarded in the end by impregnating a billionaire's daughter

even for those who are able to achieve such a monumental task, then comes the vetting process and screwing this up can have far more dire consequences as already outlined before. the fact that attractive men with great personalities such as Channing Tatum, Tom Brady, Dwayne Johnson, Jason Momoa, Orlando Bloom etc. have been through divorce gives very little hope to average men and none for below average men

sure there are women out there worth the effort but those are few and far between and often get demonized by other women as "pick me girls"

at the end though why should Charlie put effort into Sarah when all she does is bang Derek, Marcus and Tyson who when they don't put any effort in at all?

[FilmGuy93]

Because there are billions of women on the planet, and most aren't worth putting in effort for.

[Hulk_kitty]

I am saying this in general sense, because guys are sick and tired of always making the effort with girls, and girls messing guys around.

Girls still expect guys to pay for date, to show them we are interested. But we can still do that, and the girl might not even interested after paying for the date.

I just think there too expectation on the opposite sex, and so we don't meet the expectations of others, we lose interest.

But I think in general, both genders have equally as hard as each other. Women get used for sex, men get used for money and attention.

[Hulk_kitty]

watch this podcast, its quiet shocking what people actually think.

www.youtube.com/watch?v=Dk2lLZE0eiU

[Finchie40]

Mainly because of social media and the shit they hear and read about , Most guys don’t want to waste the time and energy on a girl that could possibly cheat on him or has multiple guys lined up , and she is just picking and choosing , So in a sense guys are now picking and choosing as well , I feel social media played a big part on damaging people’s minds, People don’t respect and value each other like it use to be before social media was really in the picture. Most people’s minds are set to thinking grass is greener on the other side , and everyone cheats and everyone is selfish and no longer content and grateful for what they have in front of them. People have to many options

[ohsheeT]

When I was your age believe me I was motivated I always been motivated to find so it's just the last past 4 years since covid that I kind of just chilled out and relaxed I mean I could use to go out to a club or any place at friend's house a zoo a motorcycle race anywhere and I would always find somebody that I wanted to pursue I still have it in me but I just don't go for it as much as I used to do but I will it's that time again

[Anonymous]

Because honestly women these days aren’t worth it. Many of them don’t know how to cook, clean, how to do a lot of things yet they want a man to treat them like a Princess. Besides why out much effort into it when a lot of girls these days are giving it up easy. Fuck if this girl won’t give it to you move onto the next one, chances are she’ll give it up to you.

[Anonymous]

Because as painful, confusing and challenging as trying to just get a date and start a relationship is. Looking at our friends who did succeed, were happily married and are now always fighting, separated or bitterly divorced and paying child support and/or alimony really makes a loving happy family feel just like a fantasy.

[OfMiceandMen]

You nailed it on the head. Very few people are willing to put the effort into dating/finding someone, not just guys. Everyone, demands/expects results these days without little effort, so why not expect that in a relationship.

[MementoMori777]

The lack of motivation I guess, either that or they just seek sexual intercourse and aren't interested in anything else

[HighValue]

Because the majority of women are too low quality and not worth the effort.

[mb120101]

Its actually the opposite if its somebody theyre attracted to

[LiamJHayden]

The effort comes after I find her. Before that she is just one of thousands or faces in a crowd.

[MysticDevice]

Cause they're tired of putting in lots of effort and getting nowhere.

[Anonymous]

Men have been brainwashed by the garbage they read online.

[TallAnon]

If your efford goes unrewarded enough times, you stop caring.

[Anonymous]

Because women have stopped putting effort into having value and being worth it.

[Anonymous]

Today's promiscuous women aren't worth it.

[Anonymous]

Because most women are wasted effort.