Guys - why would you keep an ex's bra?

[4Elements]

So a guy I used to be involved with asked me for one of my bras the last time we did it. I asked why because we weren't and still aren't on good terms (primarily because of me, I'll admit). He said it was for a keepsake of me but long story short, I assumed he wouldn't want anything to do with me. There was no cheating or anything like that, just communication breakdown and boundary crossing.

So guys, why?

[Anonymous]

It's difficult to say for certain why this guy would want to keep one of your bras as a keepsake, as everyone's motivations and behaviors are unique. However, here are a few possible explanations:

1. Sentimental value: It's possible that this guy has an emotional connection to you and wants to keep something that reminds him of you, even if your relationship didn't end on good terms.

2. Sexual attraction: It's possible that this guy is still sexually attracted to you and wants to keep something that has your scent or reminds him of intimate moments you shared together.

3. Control or power: It's possible that this guy is keeping your bra as a way to exert control or power over you, or to feel like he still has a connection to you even if you've moved on.

It's important to remember that you have the right to set boundaries and to decide what you're comfortable with in any relationship or interaction. If you don't feel comfortable giving this guy your bra, it's okay to say no and to communicate your feelings and expectations clearly. Remember that respectful and equitable relationships are based on mutual respect, trust, and communication, and involve a willingness to share responsibilities and support each other's goals and aspirations.

[MysticDevice]

It's probably a little fetish for bras, which is pretty common, and that fact that it was personally yours just makes that better.

Its also not unusual to for guys to want a keepsake from an ex. Even though it didn't work out I'm sure you both still had some really good moments. Its nice to remember those moments once in a while. Your bra does that for him.

I actually did the same thing and an ex let me keep some of her panties, which she was 110% on board with. Which was really cool.

[Effably]

A bit of an underwear fixation is common. Wanting a memento is also common.

While I wouldn't normally expect them to combine, it isn't unreasonable. Guess he really loved your girls?